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My daughter is fifteen going on sixteen soon .The problem is that she is very pretty and her friends keep giving her mobile number out to boys who'BEG THEM TO GIVE IT TO THEM'.Now my daughter studies part time at uni and also goes to high to get her SSABSA points up and she has been doing this for four years now and she says she doesn't want a boyfriend her friends are enough for now, but the other day one of the boys who she told not to call came to her school the other day and followed her home she stayed on her mobile to me while she was walking back from the bus stop and was crying by the time she got in the door as she was scared.I know she has nine brothers but doesn't know how to deal with other boys who don't listen as all her brothers are very respectful of her. I followed the boy around the corner and stopped him and told him it was wrong what he was doing as he had no right to follow any one who has said no to him. He just looked at me and said a few choice words and started wlking away .Now yesterday he was outside her school again and I picked her up and called the police and went and spoke to the principle. The answer i got from the police was they would have a talk with him and the principle she they would watch my daughter closely, the problem with that is it's practically impossible with a school of over one thousand kids.Is their any advice for us as she wants me to pick her up and drop her off every day now and wouldn't even go into the deli last night by herself. I can't always pick her up and she says she'll catch a taxi but even that is sometimes a long wait when school is out so any advice would be great on how to get her confidence back up and protect her from this so and so and maybe any future ones out their.

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	May 2007 \| pcgames

boys and my daughter

Thanks minti goers Iv'e changed her mobile and the social worker had a talk with all the kids in her grade this morning and the school is sending out a newsletter about dangers of giving out information and beware of strangers and some advice on what you can do to get help if they need it.I also upgraded her phone so she has a camera and video on it which will come in handy if this happens again. Thanks again everyone.

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	May 2007 \| melilbrad

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For a start make sure you keep a diary of every thing when he's waiting for her, if you say something to him, when you speak to principal and police, etc... Next step would definatly be to change her mobile num and tell her only give it to her closet friends (maybe her best friend some one she can trust). I have two big brothers and if this ever happened to me they would be having some words with this guy straight away. Have you got family or friends that could pick her up and drop her off when you cant? if not and you have to catch a taxi tell her to wait in the office. The taxi driver can let them know when he gets there. good luck

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	May 2007 \| nell18-3

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You have had some great advice already I just want to add that I would be changing my daughters mobile number and having words with her "friends" about giving out her number.
We have rules in our family that you are only allowed to give out your own number no one elses.
The "friends" need to know that you won't tolerate them giving out your daughters number to anyone
Hope it all gets better for you

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| pcgames

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I don't know if talking to her friends will help that much but they do have a social worker at their school maybe I could get her to talk to the whole class about giving out information without permission that might make them think a bit more perhaps what do you think. They have a fifteen minute session every Thursday morning before school starts with their social worker who brings up topics that the kids want to talk about.Let me know what you think.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| mumof2b

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I would definately talk to the Social Worker about this, it's a great idea.

That's excellent that your daughter's school has that, more schools should it!!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| breannababy

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I feel that you are really doing all you can.......for now.Would your daughter or does she do any form of self defense?I strongly recommend kick boxing for young girls/women.It will also give her some confidence in dealing with the situation that have arisen and will no doubt arise again.Well done on how you have handled this thus far hugs Merle

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| 5kids

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i fully agree with merle. self defense will build her self esteem. good luck with this.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| pcgames

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Thanks Merle I feel just as anxious as her as I don't want anything to happen to my BABY girl the only one Iv'e got. I will see what defence classes are available and maybe my oldest boy can go with her which is a great idea I don't know why they don't teach it at schools.I'll get on the phone straight awy Thankyou.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| mumof2b

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Are there friends or family, preferably male that can walk her home?

I also think that her "friends" need to be spoken to and be told of the seriousness of the situation.

Follow up with the police and make sure that they have spoken with this boy!!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| May 2007 \| pcgames

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I saw the police talking to the boy outside the school and as for the other because she does special education programs none of the other boys are near her school but next year one of my kids will be going their too.All the males in the family work but maybe I can speak to one of my sister in laws or another parent who lives my way don't know why I didn't think of that before. THankyou.

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