my sons been in his own room for about 2 months now but i found it was better to get him tosleep 1st then move him into his cot so he wasnt aware of me leaving him it didnt tk long atall choose a really busy day todo this wen shes really tired less likely to struggle if they dont have anything left 

My daughter used to go to sleep on me then I'd put her into bed.  Yes, she slept with me but she went to bed at 6 and I went to bed at midnight most nights and she never woke up once.  She also has no problem sleeping in her own bed now.  Maybe she's not ready to move away from you? Or maybe you can put her to sleep then shift her later on to the crib next to you.  When she wakes up to see you nearby still she might get used to the idea. If you shift her back in with you when she wakes and cries this may also ease her insecurities about it.  I never let my baby cry either, I attended to her as soon as she was upset even if I couldn't stop the crying I just never left her cry alone.  Is it really a sleep problem or is it a security problem?  If it's a security problem it's best to let her know that you are there for her no matter what, regardless of the time of day or night.  I'm probably not going to be very popular with saying all that, but it's only my opinion and it's based on what worked with my child.  I never expected her to sleep alone at 8 months, but from 19 months onwards I gave her that choice.  She chose her bed by her 2nd birthday and hasn't looked back.

CIO or controlled crying...they are a bit different things. Below has been cut directly from the huggies website on settling.  Hope this gives you some guidance.  The other suggesions are really good ones too if you feel you can't do controlled crying.  Do what works for you and your little girl...

Lie your baby in his cot on his back with his feet to the end of the cot, cover him and say “it’s time to sleep” and leave the room.

Wait outside for 2 minutes, he will probably be protesting. After 2, minutes go back into the room and lay him on his side facing away from you to avoid eye contact. Place one hand on his shoulder and with the other hand pat his bottom – repeating “it’s time to sleep". When the crying stops then stop the patting. Be careful not to pat baby off to sleep, the aim is to get him to sleep independently. If after 2 minutes he is still crying, leave the room and wait outside for 4 minutes this time.

If baby is still protesting after 4 minutes outside the room, go back in and settle the same way, this time for 4 minutes.

Keep increasing the time outside the room and inside the room by 2 minutes each time (2, 4, 6, 8, 10) until you have reached 10 minutes. It is recommended not to leave a baby longer than ten minutes at any time. If after 1 hour of trying your baby has not settled, pick him up, offer a drink and a reassuring cuddle. During the day if baby has not responded get him up and try again next sleep. During the night you will need to persist with the techniques until he is asleep.

http://huggies.com.au/BeingAParent/YourBabysSleep/SettlingYourBaby.asp#anchor2

Hi There. 

The CIO method for a baby so young would not necessarily mean leaving her to cry until she sleeps perhaps that would work for a child a little older, However I have tried this and its hard.  I use to stay in the room until my son went to sleep and gradually I got to move closer to the door and then eventually out.  That worked for us.  Try putting her in her crib over the next few nights and stay with her unitl she falls asleep.  Keep reassuring her that you are there and you may be surprised.  Good luck I am sure it will work out.

Kastol

Well, here's what worked for me, with my son.

I got a bassinette with wheels, and I would put him to sleep right next to me, even with my hand in his bed for comfort.  Then I gradually moved his bed further away until I could put him in his own room.  Worked so well, he has trouble sleeping with me now.