i think the hearing tests is a fantastic idea. My eldest had to have gromets fitted in both ears and although she appeared to be able to hear very well and her speech was excellent she was actually nearly deaf in both ears from a gradual build up of fluid in the ear. Because she could hear well at one stage and the change was gradual she had learn't to live with it. She was never naughty just didn't always listen... however we picked up on this problem before she went ot school or daycare and the change has been phenomenal. I have a boy in my care at work who appears to have a hearing prob also. Similar behaviours, during group times he will choose a book and sit at the back, never sings and plays up. I think it's well worth getting it checked even if it is just to eliminate this as the cause. I hope this helps your little man.

Goodluck.

Maybe he needs to actually leave the room for his time out, maybe to the office or something (thats what they did in my day....not that I ever went LOL, that was my little brothers job).

I'm prompted to ask what kind of rules they have in class in relation to what you and his dad have in your homes? Perhaps if you both tried to simulate the behavior and rules that are required to be followed in class at home, it may help with the transition.  For example, when you read him a story don't allow him to interupt you until you have finished the story, unless he asks you very politely if he needs something like the loo or a drink etc. (which equates to sitting on the mat listening quietly with the other kids at school and only asking politely minus the hand up etc).  Things like if he gets something out to play with or an activity he might have to play at it for a min of 15 mins if he's the one who chose it & then pack it up and put it away properly, as is required in school.

I don't know if you do simular things already and if you do then I think I'm out of suggestions LOL...sorry.  Let me know how you go.  Good Luck to you all. xo

He does say oh so & so wont play with me or is being mean to me, but im quite sure thats due to his own behaviour making the other kids not inclined to be around him. I tell him that if he is nice to his friends then they will be nice to him also.