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does anyone feel the same as me?
well my mother in law reckons that when you have a miscarriage it is called an abortion and i have been told by dr's also that this is true, now what i don't get is i never went to the clinic and asked them to abort my child it happened due to my body not my mind so why is that they call it something it's not?
does anyone feel the same way about this subject?, i refuse to believe it is a abortion when i had no control over it happening in the first place, it's so upsetting that when i say i had a miscarriage people correct me on it with "it's an abortion, not a miscarriage"
please help!
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cheers girls
thanks to everyone who has taken the time to help me on this, i do understand the difference and all and thank you all very much to those of you who explanned to me and sent me links but what i am trying to say is why?, why should they be able to call this an abortion, i don't care if they called it an accidental abortion or what ever lol sorry i forget the word lol, it's the fact that these people say i had something i never and to explain it to them is like talking to a brick wall, they don't care but i'm sure and i would bet my life on it too that if they were in our situation they wouldn't bloody like it either!!!!!!!!!
inconsiderate i say and if ever it was to happen to me again i would let the pigs know too, sorry if i offend anyone and i know not all are like that so please no hate mail lol but this is aimed at the ones that don't care and have lost the passion for their work, it's cruel and i could never be so hurtful to others who have been through something like this, and i do still have compassion for others who do choose to terminate, i don't hate anyone it's a powerful word that one and it tends to get thrown around to often and for the fact they may actually have a good reason for this act, may it be because of health reasons or life threatening or for the fact they really can't cope and some people still get pregnant with contraception, believe me i do know a fare few people who have so trying to protect against pregnancy doesn't always work for some people, and i believe if people do all they can to stop it and it still happens and they either don't want anymore or just can't cope with anymore then who are we to judge!
thanks again to everyone i hope i haven't offended anyone it's the last thing i want to do, but i need to express this situation from both sides because some of us tend to nit pick at others for choosing to abort and sometimes these people have no choice either no i haven't had to but i do care about peoples feelings thank you again for everything
mwah Nikki xx
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abortion
ok these are from a dictionary, just to give some defintions...
abortion –noun
1.
Also called voluntary abortion. the removal of an embryo or fetus from the uterus in order to end a pregnancy.
2.
any of various surgical methods for terminating a pregnancy, esp. during the first six months.
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Also called spontaneous abortion. miscarriage (def. 3).
4.
an immature and nonviable fetus.
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abortus (def. 2b).
6.
any malformed or monstrous person, thing, etc.
7.
Biology. the arrested development of an embryo or an organ at a more or less early stage.
8.
the stopping of an illness, infection, etc., at a very early stage.
9.
Informal.
a.
shambles; mess.
b.
anything that fails to develop, progress, or mature, as a design or project.
found at http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/abortion
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does anyone feel the same as me?
What an incensitive b*#@*, the nurse I mean, to even suggest that you did not want that baby. I sickens me when uncaring cows are in a nursing position like that, when mums need them to be supportive, and they then go around saying stuff like that to you after you have just lost your dear precious little baby he/she (that what I called mine when I did not know the sex, no offence intended). Was she inside of your head was she, even though you were wanting this child more than anything in the world, she knew what you wanted, what you were thinking. How rude. Is there anyway that you could have reported her for saying such awful things?? My heart goes out to you and to everyone here who has lost a child, whether it be by natural causes or by having an abortion. Everyone has their reasons and noone should ever have to justify themselves to anyone. I mean, what would happen if someone were raped...... and became pregnant because of this.... are you expected to carry this child, I think not. You would be reliving your nightmare day after day. But, on the other hand, if people do not want to use contraception or do not believe in contraception, and fall pregnant, and then terminate their pregnancy because they did not want to take precaustions, then I do get cross as there are people out there, like me, who found it near impossible to get pregnant, and now after my first birth, I can never fall pregnant again as I will end up in wheelchair for life if I do. So I do take that to heart when people know what can happen when they "play vertical games" lol, dont use protection, fall pregnant, then dont want it.
Sorry bout the essay, and its a comment in general, not all aimed at you merlin.....lol..... only the incensitive nurse bit, but I do not think that anyone has the right to say to you that you had an abortion or that you aborted the baby when in fact you experienced a miscarriage.
My condolances to every mother and father out there who have experienced this as it would be heartbreaking. I hope that noone gets angry over what I have written, as this is not my aim, only my way of expressing my sadness over peoples arrogance, ignorance and incensitivness to peoples feelings.
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Liz
time i now have a 14month and i still think now and then what it would have been like. but you are going to do that time to time and that is natural. 
it really upsets to me to hear that people are saying things like that, i have had 2 miscarriages myself 1 at 8weeks and the other at 16 weeks, when 1st one happened i was told by a nurse that i didn't want it so that is what happens, i did want it i wanted it really badly and would have done anything to stop what was happening, with the 2nd one i was told by the doctor that my body just couldn't cope with the baby so it got rid of it and that i should just get over it and just try again.
