Hi everyone

I've done an update on my blog here: http://www.minti.com/members/lightbee/blog/401732/The-next-day/

I'll keep my blog up-to-date on this as best I can as things unfold. 

Thank you all so much for your support and advice and good wishes and prayers.  It all means so much and really has been helping me to keep afloat right now. 

Hi There

Sorry this isn't advice i've not been here long and wouldn't know who on earth to talk too. My point is though is how amazed i am of all the help and support there is here. I have a little girl and it's terrifying what your going through and i hope all the help your getting is keeping you strong.

You all make me proud to be female and a minti chick, when the chips are down you really pull together.

Hang in there and i really hope your little one is doing well. I sent much supoort to you and your family. x

thats great ive been checking back every 5 mins to see if anything has happen i so relieved thanks goodness for that i hope every thing works and keep us informed my heart goes out to you and your family and to that little boy good luck and i hope tomorrow is a better day

stacey

Hi everyone

You'll be pleased to know that the sexual assault unit took things seriously and have just been here taking a statement.  They said this would be considered serious in the range of  complaints and they now report it to Family Services - who they think will also take it very seriously - and talk to the school and talk to the kid and the kid's family who did it.  They explained there are no criminal charges with a child that age (not that I'm wanting that) but they have the same concerns you guys do that he may be being interfered with as well and want to investigate it.

They are also going to put me in touch with a service called Supportlink and have given me a job number and lots of police stuff like that.  The girl police officer was just fantastic and so understanding.  Really glad they sent her.  I'll also talk to the school tomorrow. 

My little girl seems fairly unfazed by it all, thank goodness.  She's gone to sleep quite happily tonight.  Of course, she may end up thinking about it differently in the future, but I guess we'll deal with that then.  Just as long as it never happens again.

Thank you so much to you all for being so supportive and wonderful.  I know this isn't the end, but I hope at least its the end for tonight.

i am so orry i agree with everyone else it should be done tonight.it is something that needs to be dealt with by the authorities the sooner the better.they say that children learn from there elders so this boy has learnt it from some where and he needs to be helped to but your concernb is your daughter and god knows how many other kids at that carer.

good luck let us no what happens

stacey

I'm so very sorry for you Leith, but especially your daughter, this has to be every parent's nightmare, my heart breaks for how you must be feeling..

I totally agree with everyone's advice, except  i think this matter should be dealt with tonight by experts. Dont they say the earlier these sort of cases are dealt with, the better  especially as far as evidence goes.

I would be ringing another police station until you got   someone out to see you & your daughter from S.V.U..

My thoughts & love are with you both.

Janice

I spoke to a friend of mine who works closely with the police.  His advice was don't wash the underwear and don't give her a bath (too late by then!) and report it to the police.

I rang the police.  The guy on the phone listened to what I told him (what I've already told you guys) and his answer was "What do you want us to do about it?".  I was just livid!  Am I supposed to be telling them their job!  I got quite upset and so the guy on the phone starting going "Don't raise your voice at me".  I am just so upset.  In the end I think I cried enough that he started feeling guilty and started trying to make nice a bit.  He's told me that he will alert the Sexual Assault unit but there's probably noone on duty tonight. 

I haven't taken her to the doctor as I know something of what they do with those sexual assault kits and I wouldn't want to put my daughter through that unless it was absolutely necessary.  She seems in good spirits and she said she's not sore anymore.  I haven't been questioning her.  Been very conscious that how I react will affect her.  But at the same time I don't want to react in a way that makes her think its okay by me.  It is so not.

Tomorrow I am going to talk to the head of the early learning school and take it from there.  I just hope she will take me seriously and do something about this. 

Omg

I agree with all here, contact all the authorities you need to, to have it dealt with.

My thoughts are with you and your little girl.

Shelley

omg,that is terrible well i agree with what everyone else has said. firstly get your daughter checked , make sure that she is alright. second i would be asking an explination from the childcare centre,and i mean ask question this there fault aswell how can they not see 2 kids disapeer into a store room, wasn't she upset/hurting then thats disgusting and they need to pay thirdly i would be going to the police this should be sorted out by them this kid could be doing this to other kids now and in the future

If this was my daughter heads would be rolling no one would ever touch my daughter in anyway

I feel for you so much and would  hate to be in your situation

Do what you feel is best but i think that what all members are saying needs to be done