Just wondering on what people think about using child reins. My daughter is continually doing a runner at the shops but I don't see people using them anymore. Are they no longer pollitically correct?
my mother would tie me to anything that didn't move cause that is all that i did to her, i know that at kmart you can get these really cute little ones that have animals on them and the tails are the lead,
good luck and i hope she doesn't wear you out to much
Just wanted to thank everyone for their opinions on reins, very much appreciated! I'm off to buy one of those backpack monkey ones! Didn't mean to start a fight by asking this question as it was not my intention but thankyou anyway.
if you feel that you need to use rains then you sould i intend to i'd rather have the piece of mind knowing that my child is safe and would'nt be made to feel uncomfortable about the amount of near misses weve had with children running out is uinbelievable id hate to hit a child how could you live with your self if it was fatal, safer for all jo xxx
I use a monkey-leash with my 2 year old and I've been using it since he was about 20 months old. He is a runner and very fast at it. I've almost lost him a few times. I have never gotten weird looks about using it either, if anything , I get a lot of people thinking it's cute. It looks like a monkey hugging him from the back and it has a zipper (looks like a backpack) on the back where you can put little things like a pacifier.
I see a lot of parents using them. Especially around the busy seasons such as Christmas or Thanksgiving at the grocery or at the mall. B/c if your child gets away from you it will be hard to find them. I think it is fine, I mean the only other thing to do is get an umbrella stroller, and most children won't sit in them for long without screaming.
i used them with one of my children because it was scary when i had to go out with a new born and 13 month old plus other children.I was always worried they would escape from whoever had hold of him(as baby trolleys were never around when you needed them).I bought another set a couple of years ago but didnt use them.
I say safety first and peace of mind.You can also strap them into the trolley with the leather strap type,good for little houdinis who like to get out of the trolley strap!
I think they are a fantastic idea. They gave me the freedom to have 2 hands free to look at things at the markets and 2 eyes free as well since I knew my child was right next to me unable to go anywhere. She was not uncontrollable, I just don't like it when parents take their eyes off their children. Anything can happen. Someone could take them. They could wander off, particularly at the markets where there are toys and other children. That's where I used the harness the most. I also used it whilst on holidays in a large city since I'm from rural qld and big cities are somewhat frightening to me. You can get those back-pack style ones that don't look quite as harsh as the carseat or highchair harness style.
Hi All,
I personally had to use assistance as my children were 16 months apart and both werre beautiful and very very active. I didn't like the look of full reins (having been a horse rider) so I used velcro minding cuffs. They are like the cords kids use to keep their Boogie Boards attached in the surf. If you can't find them get two Boogie Board leads and join them together. It worked wonders for me and no one seemed to judge. My attitude was always safety comes first - looks second.
personally i am against them and i wont ever use one....simply because i don't want to be looked at as a mother who doesnt know how to control her child....and i think the same way!
HOWEVER i do not frown upon parents who have no option but to use them! Each parent to their own beliefs, likes and dislikes!
We all need to do what is best for our child and makes us and our children happy and safe!
Love from me
Im sorry Kayla. You know i love ya but I have been coming back to this comment and its really bothering me.
n particular simply because i don't want to be looked at as a mother who doesnt know how to control her child....and i think the same way!
Firstly I can control my kids fine. Its more about stress levels and safety for me. When I know that my son wont run off I can happily do the shopping. Happily walk around town... whatever. But I can do it without being uptight and worried the whole time.
HOWEVER i do not frown upon parents who have no option but to use them! I dont HAVE to use them. I choose to. I can walk around shopping or where ever without them it just means I might not be quick enough to grab him. Im happy for you that Emmy is so perfect and doesn't run away from you but we dont all have that luxury. Just the other week my 2 year old got off the bus while I was struggling with bags, stroller, my 3 year old and holding the door and he bolted and no amount of my yelling worked and he ran straight on the road infront of oncoming traffic and scared the hell outta me. That day I was lucky. Next time I might not be.
Just in my town they are not used, and those who do use them....well lets just say they are very rough people!
Im not a rough person. And if you have been to the city where I am its small and guess what.. lots of people use them. Its attitudes like yours which stop people using them because even if you say you dont frown upon people who use them, right here in your comment you judge them. Whether its intentional or not but you just did it there.
i get what you are saying, your comment has not offended me in any way.....
like you said, '' We all need to do what is best for our child and makes us and our children happy and safe''
i dont use one right now, im happy enough pushing the pram, but once outside the pram, hes off like a rocket.. (wait til you meet him :) then you'll understand lol!
so i would consider using one for his safety when we are walking along the shopping strips etc...
I used reins with my daughter NOT because I couldn't control her but because I wanted to keep her safe while asserting her confidence with walking and using up energy rather then sitting in a pushchair.
I never got any comments about it being unpolitically correct in fact alot of people said that they thought they were a good idea and that more people should use them.
My husband is a bus driver and regularly drives through busy highstreets and has seen a toddler hit by a car because they just ran off straight into the path of a car, so for me its about safety not control!
I now use a wrist strap as sold by Mothercare so that I can have both hands free and give Amy some freedom but most of all to keep her safe.
hey sweety, like i said, each parent to their own and i do not frown upon those who use them ! Just in my town they are not used, and those who do use them....well lets just say they are very rough people! I live in a good part of town, away from the roughies..... but like i said....each parent needs to do what is right for their child and i do not judge anyone who chooses to use them! So hunny, just settle kk!
I considered your comments to be very judgemental and it offended me that I would be seen as being unable to control my child just because I use reins, I don't mind agreeing to disagree but you really need to get down from that ivory tower!
I hated the idea, but that was before I had speedy gonzales!! To overcome my dislike of the look of the traditional style i got him a monkey backpack whose tail is the "lead". Very cute and people just love the monkeys. They have other animals too.
to restrain or not to restrain....
personally i dont like the look of them. but having said that i would never look down on a parent that uses one.
so many times I have wanted to bite the bullet and buy one but i just dont see them as being socially accepted so much anymore. especially in my area. i already look like a big enough westie scrubba in the posh area i do my shopping and where my son goes to school and get enough nasty glances for my appearance as it is, i just dont want to add any more fuel to these posh people's fires.
my kids are runners and its sooooo frustrating going shopping with them on my own that a harness really would be a great idea but aside from other peoples opinions, i think theyre just plain ugly. maybe if they brought out a spiderman version or something funky id consider it lol
OH mony! Dont put up with them running. They DO have wrist ones! I know what you mean, my youngest is a runner and people always give me weird looks. One day they were both testing me while I was waiting to be served in a little computer shop... they had textas on the bottom shelf and the kids were running about and wouldn't sit there... so i got the wrist one and threaded it around the shelf and put one end on each brat and the staff thought it was hillarious! Oh well they suddenly went quiet and drew like they were supposed to lmao!
I use a wrist strap on my 4 yr old son Dylan. No matter how many times I ask him not to run off and stay beside mummy, and how many times he tells me he won't run off he does!!!
I get a few strange and rude glances from time to time, as he throws a tantrum when I put it on him.... but I don't really care anymore. I would rather have him screaming and know that he is close to me, then him running off and getting lost or some stranger grabbing him!
I think if you need them then use them. There is nothing wrong with them, some people just don't know what it's like to have a runner. If it comes down to either using one or have your child run and get lost, then the choice is simple. I personally don't use one but I have a high-needs child and it is very scary when they run off, I know!! It comes down to your preference and your choices.
not a big fan! i think of them as leashes! :) but having raised a runner, i know what you're talking about. my best hope was a cheap umbrella stroller with a strap for shopping. if the child protests too much, explain that this will be their shopping station until they are able to prove they will stay close beside you in the store. one violation and back in the stroller you go.
OH I use mine! They are a god sent. You need to be careful which ones you get though and make sure they attach at the sides and not the back. I once saw a little girl on one and when she went to run away it pulled her back and she face planted the ground. I have ones that attach at the side. And I also have wrist ones.
I have know idea I used them for a little while with my second child as she is a high needs girl and I was fearful for her safety......she soon learned that if she behaved she didn't get them on.....I think it is up to the parent I don't think they are wrong personally.Regards Crystal
hey there,
at first when i saw them, i thought they looked cruel lol, but now i realise with a son who doesnt like to hold your hand and tries to run off on you, people really do need them... especially for those kids that love escaping from the pram and trolley...
they are a godsend for those who really need them.. though, they should make them look less like a dog harness and more stylish and hardly noticable :)
the leather strap type,i would love to know how much for the monkey backpack.
