Hi, my best friend gave birth to her third gorgeous little boy today and they couldn't be happier! Instead of the usual congrats they have been faced with "OH, NO! Another boy!" The poor little baby has just made his entrance and everyone is like, "OH". It's so disappointing to hear people act this way. We have two girls and would like a third and knowing me I'll have another girl which would be fine. Just curious if others have had a similar experience and how they reacted. I just feel it puts a real dampener on this gorgeous little fellars big day.
After having my third girl my response was..... "i had no preference. I just thank my lucky stars that i have a beautiful healthy little bundle of joy...by the way...thanks for your congratulations!"
CONGRATS TO YOUR FRIEND thats wonderful news a new healthy (i hope) baby boy i hope that mum and buba are doing well.
but...
i feel sorry for your friend and her family why do people have to be so mean, it may be their 3rd buba but still its a new buba, and people should be happy for them and congrats them the way that they would want to be if in their position.
to the people that say OH, NO another boy they should really think before they open their mouths and think about the parents feelings. cause i am sure that they wouldn't want someone to say that to them.
noone should do that, Shame on them, It is very unfair, that there is people like this. It shouldnt matter what sex the baby is. All I ever wanted is to have kids, It didnt matter what sex they where.
My mom and dad had a similar experience. I have a younger sister, and they thought they were through having babies, then when I was 11 my mom had baby number 3, a girl! I don't see what the big deal is. There are plenty of people who can't even have babies, I hate it when people make it out to be a big deal if you have a few boys or a few girls. Why does it matter? Its a baby and they are all precious in their own way!
Hi, I think that these people saying "OH NO NOT ANOTHER BOY" should think about the people who are unable to have children & just thank god that the baby is healthy in every aspect.
I was told that I only have a 5% chance of having children & I was one of the lucky one's that after 2 miscarriages I was blessed with my little miracle & really didn't care if the baby was a boy or a girl I just wanted the baby here healthy & safe & that's all that should matter to others.
These people should be saying "OH GREAT IT"S A HEALTHY BABY BOY" not "OH NO NOT ANOTHER BOY"
I have found that a lot. My neighbours want another baby but aren't going to in case it's a girl and that makes me wonder if they would love their child if it was a girl? Of course they would, they would have to right? A mum from work just had baby number 6 and brought the little boy in to see us and the rest of hers are girls, the comments were along the lines of "Aren't you glad it's a boy after all those girls" and again I just think I'm sure the mother would be happy for a healthy bright baby regardless of the gender of the baby. I also wonder what it does to the self-esteem of the 5 girls who were with her, did they then feel that one of them should have been a boy?! It's disrespectful to the family and even though the baby doesn't know what the words are, the baby needs kisses and cuddles and love, not "oh another boy" but that's just how I feel about it.
oh these people make me sick how do they manage to find a negative when a healthy beautiful new born baby has just come in to their lives my sis has 6 4 girls 2 boys and she got it too are they all mad in the end my sister just told them i don't need you upsetting me like this so go away. They also liked to compare the children oh this ones smaller the most hurtful comment was well looks like you've just had the runt of the litter. If you feel this is affecting your freind tell them they sld be ashamed of there selves !!
i have two girls and am very happy to have them my pregnancies weren't exactly easy and i've had a miscarriage in between, so i think that no matter what sex children we have we should always be grateful for them, as they are our little gifts from heaven...
it is unfair for others to make these sort of comments and it's something that i would never do... i would however find it very difficult to keep my lip buttoned if i heard someone saying this sort of thing!!!
I have three girls and I couldn't be happier BUT when i had my last girl it was the same, all I heard was "oh its a girl - what shame" . . . This really upset me as I was thrilled to have a happy little girl. In the end I let people know that it wasn't a shame it was a miracle.
They soon got the idea and stop with the "oh's" . . .
Hi, You will know your best friend better than anyone & she will totally trust you, so make as big a deal of the birth of her newborn son as you can & show her that he is just as special & wanted as her other 2 kids. Some people open their mouths and dribble s**t & don't actually think what they are saying & hoe it will affect other people!! Sooooo Ignorant!!!! You can tell your best friend from me CONGRATULATIONS & WELL DONE Who cares about the sex of such a precious miricale as a new human being that has gropwn & lived inside of you for nearly 40weeks or more! I had the same pressure put on me with my FIRST child to be a boy, because it's an all girl family! I was delighted when my Daughter arrived into this world happy & healthy no matter what everyone else expected or wanted her to be. She was & still is perfect & fingers up to anyone who thinks or feels otherwise!!!! love Haras xx
That's exactly what I have done. The parents are happy, bubs healthy and happy and his brother's are thrilled hehe. To each comment I have heard I simply let them know this.
I have 3 boys. Very happy but would have liked a girl the third time around. On coming home from hospital his great grandma from my husbands side came around and did exactly that, and to boot another of her grandchildren had just had a girl. I was happy for her but she preceded to brag about the girl, ignored my baby just asking why didn't I have a girl like her grand daughter. Needless to say when she left I was very upset and spent the day crying. It doesn't help when your hormones are going crazy just days after you have had a baby but I am very glad that I have 3 boys. Isn't it funny that the number of visitors drop for the number of kids you have. First baby heaps of attention and presents, visitors but by the third only close family, maybe a friend or 2. Ha ha. This is so true to the reactions that you get.
I had three boys, and everyone thought I would be having a girl for the last one. I got all the oh how sad, no girl, are you going to try for a girl, how terrible for you no girl. Truth to tell, I didn't really want any girls (if I got one I wouldn't have minded - but quite happy with boys). I just told people I got what I wanted - HEALTHY. It all depends on whether the parents really wanted a child of the opposite sex to what they got. If they did, I suppose it would be a bummer. But a lot of people out there think that everyone wants one of each at least.
We felt exactly the same as you - not that we didn't want a girl but we didn't mind that we didn't get one! Everyone kept saying when I was pregnant "we hope you have a girl this time" and we would say as long as it's healthy we don't mind. I just knew in myself it was another boy but I never said anything (just intuition I gues). When I had a boy everyone was excited but kept saying "I know you both only wanted 2 kids but you have to go back for a girl" - no we don't! My auntie actually said (and I coundn't believe this) "that's great for James but it would have been nice for you to have a pigeon pair" - I was so angry! We have 2 healthy, gorgeous boys and that's all that matters. We would feel exaclty the same if we had 2 girls!
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