If you MUST do the shopping, have a handbag full of diistracting treats...I even take an empty bottle and have 200ml UHT cartons in my handbag (In Emergancy's puncture seal".  We sing songs, when she begins to show signs of irritabuility I whip out a bickie, or a Yogurt Ball, when she's getting very irritable I do the bottle thing....I always try to catch her PRE-Tanti as I want to avoid her learning a new bad behaviour, plus I am more likely to give her a swift slap on the leg and that may not go down well with the Super Market Sticky Beaks..............so try avoidance techniques and bribery, so far so good for us.....I even trained her this way not to chew on the trolley putrid bar when teething.  Bribery is my friend. xo

tanties tanties tanties dont they just love to throw them in the worse places and also when you are in a real hurry to get things done ,,,,

we used to go through this a whole lot when i went out ,, it became real bad ...

So i thought this is got to stop

this is what i did .. i live nears shops parks etc,, i told master two we where going for a walk ( something he loves to do ) and everytime he had a wonderful tanti i took him home and told him we are now going home because you had a tanti and its not nice .

he wasnt happy about going home either ..  i keep this up for a few times untill he got the message . i also practiced this method while going to my local super market

he loves to push the small trollys and then leave it on the middle of the floor and play mum try to catch me

i did the same thing all over again took him str8 home

he didnt like to go home either as it was fun for him to do his own shopping and run arround up and down the isles

i always told him what he had done wrong and told him that if he does it again he wont be allowed to go to the shops with me ,

before we went out on any day i would also talk to him about it and tell him if hes naughty we will go home and i will go to the shops without him ,,

so far this is working on all occasions

when we do go to the supermarket he is alllowed to push the trolly as long as hes next to me ,, the new thing that i have added to this is that i tell him and point to the things we need and he gets it off the shelve and puts it in his trolly

this has been going well so far ,,,,,,,

my sons also two the more they go home on an outing and you tell them what they have done wrong and why you are going home etc,,,, it starts to sink in ,, i do praise him heaps also when he puts the things in his trolly etc,,, and when we get home he also now trys to unpack the shopping and help put it away ,,,,

they understand alot more then we give them credit for lol

you just have to keep repeteing this and stick to what you say to your child

i know it can be hard to always do this as  as mums we do go to the shops etc,, cause we need that item ,,

try doing this method when you are not desperate for that item ..... they do grow out of this ,,,,

 

Just a little different slant on the issue. As a baby she 'learned' that yelling and screaming got her fed, nappy changed, toys supplied etc. It worked for her so she is making it work for her now -perfectly normal! The issue now is to teach her that is no longer a desirable way to achieve her 'wants'. Many of the suggestions are excellent but you sound agitated and that is not good for you - so breathe, breathe breathe and remember that it is just her actions not who she is. My son threw 2. Each time I walked away out of his sight (but I could see him) and waited. He realised he was alone amidst strangers - didn't like it at all and cried. I went back and got him and said it won't work now you are a big boy (and he liked to think he was abig boy). Second time - same and then never again.

I used to strap her into the seat of the trolley and ignore her if all else failed.  But I like the shopping list idea.  The thing to be careful of is buying a donut or lollipop every shopping trip I have seen so many parents fall into that trap.  I would try these other ideas but if nothing else works is she able to be strapped into the pram or trolley? I just made sure she couldn't get out and left her there screaming to herself until she calmed down.  Sounds terrible but as a single mum I had no way of doing the shopping without her and it had to get done.  If you can leave the kids home then that's probably the best idea, or send someone else to do the shopping is even better LOL. (I hate shopping)

These are all great answers, I like them very much, and no doubt my turn will come to use these ideas... In fact, I can see it coming, we have about a window of 1.5hrs then it all starts to go down hill.  At the supermarket, we let Jay push the trolley - he can't see over it, but he loves doing it.  One of us stays with him and the other one runs around getting all the things we really need and putting them in the trolley.

When he starts to act up, I remind him that if he is a good boy, we will visit the pet shop on the way back.  Sometimes, if we are out for coffee or lunch, and he throws his food or drink, I just say that's it, it's home time, and we go straight home.  He doesn't like that much, so he behaves a little longer each time we are out.

If a parent tells you off, or makes you feel uncomfortable, then feel better knowing that they can't be much of a parent.  If they were really good parents, they would offer to help you or distract your little girl, not make you feel bad.  As parents, we should do all we can to help each other, all the time, and be understanding in these situations.

Mine was awesome at chucking the tantrum!!!!! The thing that ended up working for me when we were at the supermarket was giving madam her own shopping list (written by her of course), getting her to help me find things and put then in the trolley  and when we stuck in the checkout line we used to count all the things in the trolley!!!!!! As for the one's that have said something to you tell em to go jump (or use whatever language you want I say!!!!). Hope this helps a bit..... best of luck

fi xo

I find that if I make sure B is not tired and I have drinks and snacks with me so I can use those as a distraction.I will say though when miss B is in full swing I do just pick her up and take her home it is less stressful this way and as she has gotten older (nearly 3) she has learned to equate bad behavior with going home so it has paid off.It is not often we have to go home now.Good luck Tee hugs Crystal xx

One thing I have learnt with they are around 2 they throw them because they just dont understand. This could be not understanding why they cant have something or just because they cant express their frustration any other way. I have found stopping what you are doing and taking a 5 minute break to calm them down and try to get them to talk to you about what it is that is wrong. Or trying to explain to them why they cant have or do something. Sometimes its a good idea to put the words in their mouths so they understand how they are feeling. Like if you see her throwing a tantrum beacuse she cant put a block together then tell her its ok to be angry and frustrated because she cant do it. Tell her to take a breath and try again.
Once she starts talking more she should stop and you will find the tantrums are less frequent.