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  anonymous | June 2007

strech marks

Hi all,

when i was pregnant with my daughter i put on a lot of weight, (25kgs) but  i relly needed it. i was only 17 at the time and to silly to think about my future and all that was ahead of me. now the problem i have at the moment is my body is covered in stretch marks my tummy my butt my boobs.. .. this is really getting me down. as i look at so many other women who have had kids and they dont seem to have them well not that i can see.. i am only 27 and i feel that my life is already ruin my them, as i can no longer wear nice things and i certainly dont like being in the nudd... i am not with the father of my 9 yr old daughter but i am with someone and have been for the last 8 yrs.. who syas he loves me but when i watch tv i sort of feel sorry for him having to have someone with such a harrible body.

my question is does anyone know of a way to get rid of or to reduce the look of these horrible scars???



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toosh
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | toosh
Re: strech marks
Firstly, as others have said, your man obviously loves you for you and doesn't care about your stretch marks - I know mine doesn't! I had no stretch marks at all from my first pregnancy (I lost 15 kilos as I was very sick and didn't really show), until they did an emergency c-section, then I had stretch marks all around the scar. My second I go a lot of stretch marks as I had a big belly. I use vitamin E moisturisers, vitamin E capsules (you can prick a hole in them & squeeze the oil out - they last for 4 days once opened and it's much cheaper) and for my c- section scar (I've had 2 now) I use Mederma. My mum bought me this when I was pregnant with number 2 for my scar as we knew I had to have another c-section and it seems to help with the stretch marks too. I am by no means a small girl, and I have my stretch marks and my hubby loves me to death. Forget about your marks and focus on the fact that your man loves YOU!


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AZMom
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | AZMom
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I felt really lucky as I was 37 weeks pregnant and was stretch mark free!!! A couple of days later I woke up and it was like my legs and tummy had had enough and I was covered in them. I did look at them and thought they looked awful and for a couple of days got really down about it.. must have been my hormones!!

I covered myself in bio oil, not sure if it did enough, they have faded a lot, but they are still there. I have learnt to be proud of them, they do not bother me at all now, in fact I like them as they are a constant reminder of how lucky I am to have my son. 

From what you say, it appears to be more of a self-confidence, self worth issue for you (we have all been there at times I am sure!!. I am sure your partner loves you just the way you are, stretch marks and all!!!



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skylee
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | skylee
Re: strech marks

Thank  you so so so much everyone, I think i am starting to feel better about myself already...

All you fellow Mintarians are just the best...

Skylee



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llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: strech marks
Here is a link to the freebies etc group... Scroll down to a blog on May 19 - you can click through the link and request a sample of bio oil to try - I just did!



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sluxton
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | sluxton
Re: strech marks
Please see my advice on Oil for stretch marks recipe


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mummy2girls
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | mummy2girls
Re: strech marks

'AVENT NATURALLY INDULGENT BODY CREAM' this is for use during and after pregnancy....  i'm still using it!!

also try to visit your local herbalists as they can advise on alternatives, many natural oils may help...

good luck lol xxxx.



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Robynyum
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | Robynyum
Re: strech marks
Yes to Bio oil and vitamin E oil and as you massage it into your skin tell yourself you are smooth and beautiful just as you are. Stretch marks don't ruin a life - look around at all the people, who have no legs, live in wheel chairs ow worse - getting on with life. Your partner iloves YOU not your bits of stretched skin. We all have flaws - oh except the touched up models in magazines! In Tibet each beautiful piece of artwork is torn or defaced a little to make it truly beautiful in it's imperfection. There is no such thing as perfection. Look in the mirror and look into your eyes - the real you - beautiful!


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      sluxton
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | sluxton
Re: strech marks

bio-oil is great - I currently use that on my daughter's face where she had a mole (spitz naevus which would have grown to 2cm in diameter and had "unknown malignant melanoma type qualities") removed.  The scar is about 1.5cm long after being operated on twice following the first pathology report.  All in the clear now and is healing remarkably well and has faded a lot since January when the last op was.

As for stretch marks, I also have a recipe somewhere you can make yourself.  I used it both times when I was pregnant and never got any stretch marks and friends of mine have used the recipe to and their stretch marks faded a lot with its use.  I will dig it out and put it in the advice column.



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kseers
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | kseers
Re: strech marks
I don't know if they ever go fully but to improve them, strengthen and heal the skin with Vit E.  You can creams with vitE (eg cocoa butter cream) but I use wheat germ oil.  I found I get them whenever my weight is changing - ie up and down - so don't despair of them, keep treating the skin and eventually they should settle down. 


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llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | llmunchkin
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Most important of all, your man is with you because he loves you.  He is not feeling sorry for himself, so don't worry about things on that count.  All men sleep with 10's in their dreams, however they would be way out of their league.  They love good old fashioned nice girls - like yourself.  However, your worries about your body are real, and you are the one in your skin, so you need to be comfortable in it.  You also need to accept that nobody is perfect, and that you are a great person.  I have none from being pregnant, but have had them on my upper thigh and hips since I had my last growth spurt at 13.  They are faded from being in the sun (not too much of course), just general swimming etc.  I have never let them bother me, and nobody has ever mentioned them.

I have also heard that Bio Oil is very good, it is sold at pharmacies, so get some advice when you are there.  Also, next time you are at the GP ask them about it too, and ring up some of the local beauty therapists to see what they have to say.

Here is a recipe I read about in a mag at the doctors the other day - it is meant to be good for fading lines and marks in the skin... 2 tablespoons honey, egg white, juice of 1 lemon, a tablespoon of canola oil.  Whisk it all together and slap it on for a while (I missed the rest of the instructions as we were called in).  Apparently it is meant to be as good as any miracle mucho expensive cream - I keep meaning to try it.  I don't have Canola oil so I am going to use olive oil.  If you try it, let me know how you go and I will let you know if I am suddenly glowing and glam!


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August88
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | August88
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Just want to say that I didn't use any cream etc during pregnancy and got stretch marks over my hips and have heaps on my boobs just from them growing as a teenager. I used to hate my body too and always look at everyone else and feel that I was not as sexy and also felt all the emotions that you are wishing that I can be sexier for my partner etc. I can only recommend that you start wearing outfits that flatter you and make you feel sexy. Not everyone can wear a bikini and I guarantee nobody is as picky as you about your body as you are.

Please don't feel sorry for your partner for being with you for he obviously has no problem with it. Just do the best you can with what you have and if you want to do the best for your body get yourself feeling good about you. Put on some make-up, do some exercise, get a massage. Hope this makes you feel a bit better. You are not alone .


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Jodie04
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | Jodie04
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The only sure way that I know of is the dermotherapy for scaring but that can be expensive, but if it is a really big issue you should consult a skin therapist to find out all of your options.



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cheleinkal
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | cheleinkal
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Hi, I have them on my boobs from them growing to fast when I hit puberty.  I used to be very self concious of them and tried every cream and potion under the sun that promised to reduce them, remove them what ever.....NOTHING works I'm afraid to say.  I DID use Cocoa Butter lotion when pregnant with our daughter and didn't get any on my tummy thank fully (not that my fubbery tummy is anything to show off anyway LOL), I used it from about 5 months and I think it's the reason I didn't get any during the pregnancy.  I'm afraid all they do is fade to a sort of scra-ish silvery colour with the years, they won't ever go away, they are a part of who you are now, as mine are a part of who I am.  Like a too big nose, or too thin lips, or a million other things people might not be thrilled about themselves but have to live with every day, it is just so, something you have to live with.  Just be grateful that they are somewhere you can hide them from the masses and you are blessed enough not to have been born with something truely  awful.  I have adjusted by realising how lucky I am in comparrison with what some people live with and triumph over.  It is easy to look and dwell on our flaws, try looking and revelling in your qualities.

xo



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Kasandra
5.00 (Excellent) | June 2007 | Kasandra
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I used BiOil during my pregnancy.  It is also supposed to help remove/reduce stretchmarks.  You can get it from chemists and supermarkets.


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