It's your baby, your birthing, your job, your call. She's been there and done that and if she wants to go through it all again, go to Russia where they let you be in your 70's LOL.

Seriously though, I WANTED my Mum there on the day, but did a one day anti-natal course (because thats what it was...close to Christmas) with hubby, but Mum and I are very close and I wouldn't have minded if she had wanted to have come to.

You must be getting close to your full term, not a time to get stressed etc.  just tell her how you feel.  Though I found the course well worth doing, especially since I hadn't seen teh matternity part of the hospital before.  I would advise that if you have had a while between birhs, and if the hospital is different or has been rennovated since you were there, it might be a good thing to do, especially try and get a full one day course instead of shorter week after week ones, I was lucky in that respect.  If you want to take your Mum and Partner go for it, if you don't tell her so....whats the worse thats going to happen, she'll go quiet on you for a while????

She'll get over it.  Just nicely explain that the way you and hubby want to do it is this____________.  And you would preffer if she is looking after Miss 5 or what ever.

Might not be the easiest conversation ever, so think it out carefully and be as tactful as you can be, but it's a highly emotipnal time and it's yours and hubby's emotional time, anyone else who gets to share it is being offered a gift, it's not something you demand.

kisses

hey sweety! well all i can say its your choice. If you dont want your mum there then dont!   I feel its something very personal and i really dont think i could have someone there at the birth of my child, if i didnt feel comfortable. You can compromise and go to those classes with your mum to make her fell special. If you really sat down with her and explained how you felt she would understand, i think!!! Congrats anyway! and good luck with which  ever choice you make

Hugz Tee

Do you want your mum at the birth?  If not, don't let her push things on you.  Let's face it, you're the one doing all the work so you need to feel right and comfortable with what's going on.  You need to be sure you feel comfortable as much as possible with what's going to happen at the birth.

If you do want her there, maybe you can make some sort of compromise.  Even if the birthing classes aren't for you, maybe she wants to bone up on how it goes.  But you want to make sure that any ideas she gets are okay with you or that you can talk her out of them.

hey mate

its up to you on what you want to do i reckon its only really necessary for 1st time mummys but you having been thru it i don't see why you have to go.

my husband and i went for half an hour with our first only cause we felt uncomfortable i was 19 and the rest of them were in there 30's.

i feel it all comes naturally.

But maybe its your mothers way in wanting to make you feel like you have support dunno.but it comes down to what you want not her

luvs xxxx