Hiya, I know everyone else has replied and all is good now, but I just wanted to add that my little girl has a high pain threshold (if thats how you spell it?) and NEVER complains about anything, but when she did, we drop everything and pay attention because it means she really is sick. For instance, we went to dreamworld one easter and had been there all day then just as we were leaving she complained of a sore ear. So by the time we drove home (1hour) she was pretty upset so I took her to the hospital and just as the doc checked her ear the eardrum burst. How bad did I feel? She had an ear infection and I didn't know.

My point is, how are you supposed to know there is something wrong unless they tell you either verbally or physically? And if they have a high pain tolerance, that doesn't make you a bad parent . As long as you take action quickly, which you have done, that's the best you can do. Big hugs. Tracey xx

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I think if you worry about being a bad mum - it is most unlikely that you actually are.  I also think that we have all felt, or will feel like that, especially when they are all sick with a fever and curled up crying in your arms - you feel very helpless.  In each occasion, you have done pretty much what I myself would do - it sounds like you were practical without panicking and don't worry too much about the fever, sometimes you just can't tell.  One second they are fine, the next they have a fever or they power chunder or they start screaming with some invisible pain.

As for nurses with acerbic tongues, hold your ground at all times and remind them of what their job is, and that illness doesn't run to a convenient time table.  I have struck this too, they try to make you feel guilty for coming in at all sometimes - could you imagine explaining it to child services if you didn't come in?  Sometimes it feels as if everyone is against you, and you second guess your own decisions - well don't, it sounds like you are on top of things to me.  Once their immune systems go down, it seems really hard to get it back to normal, and they are really susceptible to everything, even when you do have them on a great diet, and did breastfeed.

We just went out in the rain and wind to the doctors for Jay and he was the only child I saw with a hat on???!!!  Go figure, what is with that?  I also think the reason he gets sick all the time is because half the kids at day care go in when they are sick - what are their parents thinking?

Do me a favour, go and look in the mirror and tell that person in there that she is doing a great job and her bubba is lucky to have such a caring, lucky mummy.

darling, shit just happens some times.  A month and a half ago, we went out of town to a friends house for a BBQ.  I dressed our daughter warmly, she never gets sick etc.  I was changing her nappy a couple of hours in, when I noticed a red rash all over her fanny, on further investigation it was all over her trunk, her scalp (she has thick hair) behind her ears and so on...not on her limbs though) 

It was about 7.30pm.  We took her temp..normal, gave her precortionary panadol, made our appologies and went to the hospital emergancy where the nurse first said...why didn't you bring her in earlier or take her to a Dr. during the day...she obviously has chicken pox.  I was rather taken aback.  I explained she was fine at 5pm when I dressed her, she has no temp, her behaviour is normal etc.  AND she has had her immunisation shots so I didn't ever expect her to get chicken pox. 

When after over an hour we finally saw the GP her rash had gone all over her face and the nurse told the Dr.  Öh it has got much worse since she arrived"....turns out it wasn't chicken pox at all, but an infant rash called Rosello which is a virus you just have to wait out, it took 3 days.  But my point is, that people make brash judgement calls, they are almost immune to worried parents when they have been in the job for many years, they lose empathy and become cynical and judgemental, and it is at this point where they should take long service leave and do a "bed side manners"re-do course LOL........................Your intuition is all you have for the most part and there is nothing wrong with it.  You did everything right, kids get sick, our bub also got a throat and ear infection on our moving day which My Mum who we flew over to be baby sitter noticed...I was sooo busy, I would never have noticed, I would have been relieved she was being quiet....I'm so glad we made the choice to have Mum there, she was onto it, took her to the clinic and was able to answer all the Dr questions when I would not have been able to.  I flirted with guilt over that, but then realised that I had done the best thing, by putting her in very capable hands, that was my responsible parenting for that circumstance, because we had to pack and clean etc.  I am a good Mum and so are you.

You are not a bad mum I think some children are just  more prone to getting things like you have described,and not matter how much you do for them,by keeping them warm and feeding them well ,sometimes it does not stop them from getting a sickness if it is already in their system. I know when our children are sick it is hard to sit back and watch when you know there is nothing more you can do for them, except make them comfortabe and keep up panandol or antibiotics. I have a son that has asthma and I give him his preventer everyday and his ventolin and prednisone when needed  but there is nothing more I can do for him when he has it ,other then take him to the dr's if he has become that bad.Even the Dr said you are doing everything right so dont be so hard on your self .

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You are not a bad mum at all ,Kids babies will get sick no matter how careful we are and at times we are too carful so they will get ill anyway cause they are not strong enough yet ,,,

my son has been having regular fevers  high temps also every coupple of weeks since he was 8 months old . it dosent matter if hes been outside with us just doing our shopping or indoors in the warmth ,, it dosent matter if its summer or winter , its made no differnce if hes been on antibiotics . its made no differnce if we wash his hands and sterilise everthing . its made no differnce that we dont let people with even sniffles come within meters of him ,, hes still getting them ,,,

or we can do is take care of them and hope that as they get older they will get stronger . and take them to the docors or specialist if needed ive been to two so far and am waiting for  the next appointment for the third to look for the reeasons why ,,,

Dont feel down on yourself and please dont let anyone doctor/ nurse or friend tell you other wise ,, you are doing a great job and its not easy when your child has croup or anything ,, we dont wish this on our little ones ,,, you still have to live and do things outside of the house

you are not doing anything thing wrong at all ,, you seem like a wonderful mum

our children are going to get sick have flu's cold's ear ache's no matter what in their lives ..

Cheer up it wont be forever xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

Oh Hunni don't feel bad my Sophie was always sick it started at about 6 wks and kept going till tonsills and addenoids came out at 3 asthma croup bronchitis etc It is so hard for you but nothing you do will stop it. The only time Sophie ever got tonsillitis was when she was asessed for the private health fund for her op.lol Keep doing what you are and remember that some kids do get sick over winter more than others.

Lotsa love to you all Jenxxxx

 

From what I can gather as mother of one and working at a day care (kids get every thing) by the sounds of things you are doing every thing right.. You can only prevent so much illness.. Hey and at this rate he'll have all the childhood illnesses and be a very healthy adult...

But really you are doing every thing you can.. That is not a bad mother at all.. Kids get sick, sometimes more often then some... But you can't prevent every thing...

Keep up the good work.. He'll be over the worst of it soon...

Your not a bad mum, my kids seem like they are always sick, they have a good diet and are healthy happy kids most of the time, but unfortunately kids immune systems are still developing and they pick up anything and everything.  I remember with my first I felt like you he was always sick, he was breastfed until about 7 months he had a good diet and was a healthy growing boy but he always seemed to have something wrong with him, but then I realised that my brothers kids and my friends kids all seem to be the same.  Kids get sick but they also recover quicker and better then adults, so keep doing what your doing, especially if the Dr says you are doing the right thing x

You are not a bad mom! It sounds like his immune system was a little worn down from the first sickness, that is why he can't get better. That isn't your fault. Everyone gets sick, unfortunatly babies can't tell us, I don't feel right today, so we don't usually know they are sick, until they are really sick. Keep up the good work, and giv eyourself a break, we are supermoms, but we can't see into the future!