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should i say something

hi guys i need to ask you a question

my BIL(19) was out fri night with 3 of his friends they were all drunk as skunks now one of the boys didn't make it to the night clubs as he was to drunk to go in he was passed out in the ute yes the ute a 2 seater ute the 4 of them squished in bloody idiots(BIL ute). anyway my BILthought that he would drive home(30 min drive)with 3 passengers. As they were leaving the cops started to chase them they pulled over in a carpark and 2 passengers bolted and my BIL woke the sleeping passenger(passenger didn't no what was going on) and told him to jump over into the driver side.In which he did

Police catch up with them boy done for drink driving without a licence.

now my BIL hasn't told his parents the truth and they really don't care

Its annoying me because i no the truth and i no it was my BIL fault should i say something or let it be and see a guy go down for drink driving without a licence his penalty will be massive

my BIL only just got his licence back from speeding i think he needs to be punished

what do you all think?

thanks minti friends

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| Shamali

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I would make him own up or you will! He needs to take responsibility! If he gets away with it now he will do it again... and hopefully taking the rap will teach him a lesson and next time he'll think twice. Aside from that he owes his mate BIG TIME! His buddy is very loyal because if it was me I would not being taking that from my so called friend. He'll be angry but he will forgive you in time... if he doesn't like the punishment he shouldn't commit the offence... simple as that!

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| mumof10

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Oh my god It seems that you haev taken the guilt upon yourself even though you have done nothing wrong! If i was in your situation no matter what anyone thought i would go to the police and tell them the truth as you know it! did the police catch up with the others that ran when pulled over?? If not then mayber you als0o need to tell the police this as well! I know myself if it was me in your situation no matter what in-laws may thionk of me i would do what is best for an innocemnt drunk whom was asleep and woken to be put into the predicament he is in now! This young Bloke is taking the wrap for something he did not have any idea what was happening! Can you live with that for the rest of your life? If it was your son that had done this would you act like it never happened? If a drunk driver
was to cause an accident with one of your children getting hurt and you witnmessed it what would you do? You would do as any parent would tell police the truth!~ I have known people myself who l;ied to police and i ended up help[ing the police with the right info trust me it is like a great big building has been lifted off your shoulders!
So my advice is tell the police even as others said if you stay anonymous at least you may be saving an innocent person from being tarnished for life or even save a life! Next time he may kill or seriously injure someone. Who cares what people think of you if you tell the truth? The best thing is that no-one here judges you and we are all thinking of you and trying to help keep your brain right without feeling guilty of doing nothing!
My thoughts are with you hugs Michelle

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| Shazz

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Hi,

You are in such an awkward position. If I were in your shoes I would ring crimestoppers and give an anonomous report. Then wait and see if the police can sort it out. Maybe you could also have a chat with your BIL and try to get him to see how badly the charges will affect his mate.

Imagine if it were your husband or your son who has been set up.

Good luck.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| PHOENIX

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IMO you need to make your BIL tell the police and if that doesn't happen then you can always ring anonymously.
My partner was nearly killed by a drunk and speeding driver 2 yrs ago. Your BIL cannot get away with this.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| Frontier

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Have a think about what is right and what is wrong.

Now make a choice on what you think is the right thing to do. Your BIL should be feeling the guilt that you are experiencing and you should let him know.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| Brian49

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Yes i think you should get your boy to tell the police the truth because if he doesn't he might loose a friend and he might not be trusted more. Its not fair on the boy you is not guilty of any offence apart from getting drunk and going to sleep.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| jenaya04

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It seems as though you have burdoned yourself with HIS guilt. He is the one who did this and therefore needs to be accountable be it good or bad. By allowing him to get away with this, you are also allowing some poor drunken boy go down for something he didnt do and will now have a tarnished record forever. Would you still be asking us this question if it was someone you didnt know who committed this crime? I think not. Just because he is your BIL and that he is nice to you doesnt mean you shouldnt do the right thing. Does he realise what kind of predicament he has put you in? What if he had hurt a child...your child...what would you be doing then? This person has broken the law and is letting another person take the rapp. Do the right thing, allow him to turn himself in or you will do it! Can you live with your self if you dont??

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| 9wondersoftheworld

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With a friend like your BIL who needs any enemies!! You should say something, he shuld be made to face up to the consequences and his poor friend should be allowed to get on with life, with his record unblemished.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| sarahkate2202

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Yes. Your Bil will not learn if he does not face consequences. If you dont say something you will yourself feel guilt ridden that someone else has been punished for something that they did not do, and you are aware of it. For your own mental health, the development of Bil and the innocent party yes as its the only right thing to do.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| momma

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I think you need to say something. So many young people today are not taking responsibility for their actions. By not saying anything you are in a way telling him that what he did was ok. Until he faces some consequences he will continue to behave recklessly and dangerously. What if he had hurt or killed someone? What if it was a child? I'm sure it puts you in a really difficult spot, but it's the right thing to do.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| Aidansmom07

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U can't let him away with that!!! He did wrong and he needs to accept responsibility for his stupidity. I hate drinking and driving...I watched one of my school friends (when we were about 17/18) get hit by a drunk driver....who happened to be my boss. My friend had 180 stitches all the way down his face and his neck, but he's lucky he was alive, he was riding his bike home from work and was hit. He was in such bad shape, covered in blood, I didn't even know it was my friend until it ended up in the newspaper 2 days later...

Any how...He's lucky he didnt kill himself or anyone else...if he is old enough to drink then he should be old enough to take responsibility for his drunken actions...I would make him turn himself into the police and if not...then you do it.

Good Luck with this, i know it can't be easy for you

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| Aidansmom07

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U can't let him away with that!!! He did wrong and he needs to accept responsibility for his stupidity. I hate drinking and driving...I watched one of my school friends (when we were about 17/18) get hit by a drunk driver....who happened to be my boss. My friend had 180 stitches all the way down his face and his neck, but he's lucky he was alive, he was riding his bike home from work and was hit. He was in such bad shape, covered in blood, I didn't even know it was my friend until it ended up in the newspaper 2 days later...

Any how...He's lucky he didnt kill himself or anyone else...if he is old enough to drink then he should be old enough to take responsibility for his drunken actions...I would make him turn himself into the police and if not...then you do it.

Good Luck with this, i know it can't be easy for you

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| Aidansmom07

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U can't let him away with that!!! He did wrong and he needs to accept responsibility for his stupidity. I hate drinking and driving...I watched one of my school friends (when we were about 17/18) get hit by a drunk driver....who happened to be my boss. My friend had 180 stitches all the way down his face and his neck, but he's lucky he was alive, he was riding his bike home from work and was hit. He was in such bad shape, covered in blood, I didn't even know it was my friend until it ended up in the newspaper 2 days later...

Any how...He's lucky he didnt kill himself or anyone else...if he is old enough to drink then he should be old enough to take responsibility for his drunken actions...I would make him turn himself into the police and if not...then you do it.

Good Luck with this, i know it can't be easy for you

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| Aidansmom07

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U can't let him away with that!!! He did wrong and he needs to accept responsibility for his stupidity. I hate drinking and driving...I watched one of my school friends (when we were about 17/18) get hit by a drunk driver....who happened to be my boss. My friend had 180 stitches all the way down his face and his neck, but he's lucky he was alive, he was riding his bike home from work and was hit. He was in such bad shape, covered in blood, I didn't even know it was my friend until it ended up in the newspaper 2 days later...

Any how...He's lucky he didnt kill himself or anyone else...if he is old enough to drink then he should be old enough to take responsibility for his drunken actions...I would make him turn himself into the police and if not...then you do it.

Good Luck with this, i know it can't be easy for you

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| Aidansmom07

Re: should i say something

U can't let him away with that!!! He did wrong and he needs to accept responsibility for his stupidity. I hate drinking and driving...I watched one of my school friends (when we were about 17/18) get hit by a drunk driver....who happened to be my boss. My friend had 180 stitches all the way down his face and his neck, but he's lucky he was alive, he was riding his bike home from work and was hit. He was in such bad shape, covered in blood, I didn't even know it was my friend until it ended up in the newspaper 2 days later...

Any how...He's lucky he didnt kill himself or anyone else...if he is old enough to drink then he should be old enough to take responsibility for his drunken actions...I would make him turn himself into the police and if not...then you do it.

Good Luck with this, i know it can't be easy for you

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| cheleinkal

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I hate drink drivers, what would have happened if they'd crashed and he'd killed his mates or hit someone else and killed them....he needs to face the responsibilities of his own actions. I told my own hubby and all his mates that if I heard any of them were drink driving I'd call the cops on them myself & I would have. better to lose your lisence than live with a death on your concience I reckon. Maybe contact the sleeping boys parents and annonamously (if you'd prefer) tell them the truth, then it's their call?????? Whats your hubby's thoughts?

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| June 2007 \| tassiebiarch

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the sleeping boys parents no the truth and have rang my MIL but she dosn't think her son has done anything wrong (i don't really think she no's the real truth)my husband reckons its none of our business that he is old enought to sought his own problems out.

yeah thats true but if he dosn't tell the truth this boy is going to go down for something that was my BIL fault

i would love to go and tell his parents but they already hate me as it is so i am in a difficult situation mind you it wouldn't bother me if they hated me a little more not fond of the my self

but i do like my BIL he is the only one that really tlks to me man this is soooo hard

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	June 2007 \| Shamali

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It would be hard but here's a thought...

Just say... you let the situation go and say nothing! Your BIL commits the same offence again and this time KILLS somebody because he still had his license and was able to drive? When you could have stopped it and had his license removed previously?

OR

He or you own up he does the time and learns the lesson (hopefully) and the roads become a little safer...

Best of luck, I'm sure you'll do the right thing.

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