Hi everyone, we went for my 19 week ultrasound this morning and I couldn't help myself so the doctor told us there was a 95% chance it's a girl. I am rather disappointed coz I was sure it would be a boy. Don't get me wrong I would love another little girl I just hoped for a boy coz we had a little girl last year. Am I wrong to feel disappointed or is it normal? Thanks everyone.
Thanks everyone for the great advice. I think it was just the shock that it is a girl that made me feel that way because I am feeling better now. It's gonna be interesting raing 2 girls a year apart lol. AARGGHH 2 teenage girls at the same time lol. Anyway it does work out better coz I don't think we'll ever have to buy clothes again lol they'll just be able to share evrything.
I'm one of the few dads who wanted a girl lol, and during the ultrasound baby's back was turned. My wife had to have a Cesarean, and I watched baby emerge. I saw it was a boy, and I had this moment of extreme disappointment, which I've been feeling guilty about ever since. Maybe it's because I'm not into sports, or two close friends of mine both have two girls each, and love them to pieces.
Anyway, it turned out that I was looking at the umbilical cord, and baby was a very healthy 9 lb girl! But I won't forget my emotions. What if it was a boy? I certainly would have loved him, but I always review in my mind that split-second feeling of disappointment.
hi i totally understand where your coming from i thought my first was a boy and out pops a girl with great difficulty ofcourse lol and my second i thought i was deffinately having a boy and out pops another girl with even more difficulty than the first and when i was pregnant with my third i thought i seen a little man lol on the screen but wasnt really all that excited this time and out pops another girl yet again but this timei was expecting it so i ddint get my hopes up and yes will a hell of a lot more difficulty than the others it was a planned homebirth but still to this day i wish i had drugs lol but we wont go there now lol
i hope it gets better for you and when your baby is born nothing else will matter anyway
good luck and i wish you well with the future and hopefully one day we both get that boy we've been hanging out for lol
Don't think the doctor can't get it wrong, our third child was going to be a girl so we had everything for a girl. On the day of the birth we were ready for our first girl and out popped BOY number 3. So don't get upset and disapointed be happy with what ever sex your child is Good luck with everything.
no i dont think it wrong. i have been convinced that im carrying a boy from th beggining and have tried in the last few weeks to unconvince myself of that just in case, id be happy with either but think i would be a bit more excited if i had a boy, one of each and all that il hopefully find out in 2 weeks time. im 19 weeks atm and ive stopped callin my belly tobias in case i give it a complex hehe
Hi! I never found out the sex of my little girl when I was pregnant. My whole pregnancy I was determined I was having a boy as that is what I really wanted to have as my first child. When the doctor told me it was a little girl, I argued with him and told him it couldn't be a girl. He then showed me to prove it!!!!! I was still happy as she is a beautiful healthy little girl and that is all I could have asked for. But you shouldn't feel bad by feeling dissapointed. It is a very normal feeling especially when you have your heart set on something. I'm sure you will treasure you little girl just as much as you would a little boy.
Hello,I had my pigeon pair and was pregnant for the 3 rd time and we wanted to find out the sex of our unborn child ,we were having another boy and I was a little dissapointed,but as long as my baby was healthy that was my biggest concern.Pregnancy mubmer 4 we also decided to find out he sex and yes another boy,I was a little more dissapointed this time as I really wanted another girl.I love all my boys but we were destined to only have 1 girl.I think it was better for me to find out it was another boy rather then go through the pregnancy believing I was having a girl.
yes it is normal and it is a feeling of loss. a friend of my son's mum just had a baby and was told it was a boy so they did the whole room up and all the blue clothes to have an emergancy c section and have a girl. she is struggling a lot at the moment with it all.
yes its normal to feel that way as with my frist child i found out i was having a girl , so much want a boy . So with the other two i ask them not to tell me what i was haveing . So yes its quite normal to be disapointed
yes Congrats....The same thing happened to me, and I was convinced (had dreams and everything) that I was having a blond curly headed boy....I had a red curley headed girl LOL and found out at 18 weeks. Turned out for the best though as we didn't have a boys name but had a girls name and it was fun shopping for girly thngs. You're probably confusing dissapointment with having to change your mind set.......when you're convinced something is one way, and are then told it is the other...you are normal if you go through a time of confusion, dissapointment and even grief, but it for the idea you thought was real. You are not feeling dissapointment in your baby, you are coping with having to change your hormone filled mind.
Cheer up, now you get to sort through all the clolthes you no doubt saved from your other daughter and work out some lovely names.
hahaha.......................DER, the ultra sound said 80% sure she was a girl....the dream I had said curly blonde boy...the result was a curly red haired girl.................Ever thought of doing stand up?
Firstly congratulations!! I do not think it is 'wrong' to feel disapointed, I guess a lot of people would love to be blessed with one of each gender. A friend of mine had scans all through her pregnancy and each time she was told she was having a girl, she was so excited as she has two boys already. She had a baby shower around a 'pink' theme, invested in a whole wardrobe of pink clothes for baby, decorated the room in pink together with the babies name in painted letters.... only to find out from a scan at 36 weeks it was a boy!!! She was disapointed for a short time ... (and peed off at the Drs) I am sure, once baby arrives you will love it no matter what!
It is normal to feel things that you normally wouldn't. I almost cried with my 4th pregnacy Having 1 girl who is almost grown up, and 2 young boys I really wanted a girl, as my boys are very active the thought of 3 boys had me in a state.. Then the scan revealed a boy, my hubby was excited (he thinks girls cost too much) and I nearly cried..But I wouldn't give him back for anything in the world because when it comes down to it..If they are healthy it doesn't matter...and always remember every one of your children have their own personalities which isn't a boy or girl thing.
I've got to say that the day of my scan a few months ago was the saddest day of my life.We are expecting our 4th sonand I am completely devastated and worried about coping with 4 boys of 5 and under.Everytime apart from the first I have been desperate for a girl.
My husband has a daughter from his previous marriage.I am left feeling that there is something wrong with me not being able to conceive the girl I long for.
We have tried everything including monitoring my cycles and timing intercourse well before ovulation.This baby was conceived 3 days before ovulation.
My family feels all wrong and I feel desperate and if one more mother of both sexes tells me how lucky i am i might deck them one!
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