tlk to your hubby and tell him you are both to make a stand for your happieness cause if mum aint happy baby aint happy and there is no way you can keep going like this tell him you have to do something about it when they come over and baby is sleeping if they say they are going to pick baby up or go wake it, if you arent big on confrontaions stand up say in a very firm voice dont go in there do not wake my baby wait till he/she wakes if you don't like it go home, say it while walking to put the jug on or picking up the stray toy on the floor. if they think your joking say it again say dont wake the baby or you can leave. be strong or youll pay with sleepless nights and an unhappy baby. say if you want to come to my house start treating me with respect or dont come over tell them youve had enough say you love your hubby hubby loves you you are going to stay together if they dont like it or you they dont have to come round to your house, tell them to act like an adult say i love you as a person and as a mother in law but your making things extreamly difficult and you dont want to be unhappy anymore 

Where is your husband when this happens? Once you get married he should be putting you first! I do not want to start an argument with your husband, but he ought to be putting up with her treating you like that!

If that happened to me my husband would tell his mother to not come back until she was to treat me with respect (it has happened before)

Rachael

Mate, I wouldn't  even let them through the door if that's how I got treated. It seems they are being very disrespectful to you. I would tell them to come back only when your husband is home, so then he can deal with them. It's your right to spend time with your mother and no one should be made to feel guilty for doing so. Don't make your husband choose between you, they're his parents...his problem. Just tell him your not putting up with it and surely he will understand. Txx

I think it would be a great idea to cut them out of your lives for now. It sounds as though its making you really upset and stressed out, and your baby can feel that.

Talk it over with your hubby first and see what he says.

Hi,

I think its ok for you to exclude them from your life. However dont make your husband choose between you and his parents. It an unfair burden that he will have to live with. He sounds like a wonderful man.

Perhaps explain to him that you want to "limit" your time with his parents. Maybe suggest to him that he take the baby to see he grandparents for a few hours every so often. At least this way you can avoid seeing them and they can't accuse you of denying them time with thier grand child.

Also, in time they may realsie that you are not visiting and it MAY change thier attitude.

Hope this helps

I also have major issues with my MIL but you both have to agree to cut them off, you cant make your hubby choose between you and them.  Even though we would like to but it will put a stain on your partnership together.i would say something about her behavior wen they r in ur home. But thats just me i believe your home your ruled lol. Good luck and hope you can find a solution!!! Or u can just join me and a few others plan to get rid of them lol.

Tee

I don't think that it is OK to cut them out of your lives or make your hubby choose, unless they are physically hurting the baby or yourself.

Howver, I would suggest that your husband tells them that they are no longer welcome in your house after the way they have behaved, and that you will be willing to go to their house if they want to see their son and grandchild. This way you are in control of when you see them, and if they start abusing you, you can easily turn around and walk out.

BUT your hubby has to be strong in this too. It is great that he supports you in this.

I didn't have the problem with MIL so I was lucky. But know of others who have. One of my friends took this approach and it worked for her and her family. It is hard but that is why sometimes it is called tough love. Stand firm and still be willing for your grandchild to know his grandparents, but make it on your terms. Good Luck.

Leisa

you know with MILS you will find your not alone

mine dosent like me either cause she wants her son to be with someone she chooses

it took her over a year to see her grandson in my case

she has watched our son and told her son that we will have to go stay in a hotel for the night , my responce was how nice for her to suggest a romantic evening at a hotel with her son and thanked her for that  haaaaaaaaaa ...( i wouldnt let her get to me )

right from the start she never gave me a chance and she said to her son its not that i dont like her ,, i just dont like her for you and she wants him to be with someone with money etc,,

in our  situation she dosent yell at me she plays mind games with her son as in

when are you comming over to sleep at her place or her sister misses her or come and watch your sister play basketball ,sends him text saying she feels like a bad mother cause of the way his life has turned out ,,,,, and even when it was his birthday she was going to make a lunch at her place but changed her mind and said for him to come during the week and for him to stay over and they all went out to dinner etc,,( hey better for me )

looking for any reason to take him away from us .

you know what good cause i dont want to go there anyway shes always been very sarcastic

in a sneeky way ..and finds fault with what im doing with bubby . i have told partner to a few times that this had better stop and thats it and he has told her to keep the mouth zipped .your hubbys going to have to be strong and not let them wake up your child full stop and they will just have to respect that or just dont come over , since they are his parents they will get over it with what he says to them and he can be blunt .

my partner dosent have to choose , he goes and see her spends time at her place

he dosent take bubby with him as hes also too young but when he gets older hes very welcome to take his son over there as i wont be going there myself .I have been very strong on that point and he has with her

just dont have them at your place but if thats not possible and they have to come over then you go out for coffee with your friends or have a girly day and take full advantage of that .

you dont have to put up with that or be arround that do your own thing .

just stand your ground since you have already tryed talking to her . dont let them make you feel guilty for anything as they have no right to and dont let them get to you like that .

its yours and your partners child and your family and your house not hers ,, stuff it

I had the same problem with my mother in law, what was worse i had post-natel depression at the same time, and i was totally controlled by her.

The fact is if they are making you feel unhappy and shouting at you, they are effectively bullying you, and you would take it form a stranger so why take it from them.

You have got to do what is right for you and your child otherwise he will strat to pick up on the atmosphere and it will unsettel him.

Your husband does not have to choose he can still have you and them you will just have to not be at home when they come round or let your husband and son go to visit them on thier own (you can have some alone time)

Also you could spend your whole life trying to make people happy and the will never be greatful live your life for you and do what you feel it right. hope this helps

Hi , i would speak  ing  to them saying if you don't strat ed treating me right  in my home please don't come over and if  they ask  what  you are talking about tell them straight about   how they treat u .

I wouldn't  ask hubby to choice between his family and u , i leave that up to him weather he wants to see them . well i wish u luck in this problem  as its  hard to deal with in laws at the best of times .