My brother is getting married in September.  My SIL (to be) is a spoilt little brat and that sounds similar to what you're going through.  I don't visit them, I hardly have anything to do with them because it always ends in a fight and kids don't need to be around that.  Even if we pretend to get along, you can feel the tension in the air, and kids don't need that either.  She has no children and just doesn't get it and isn't willing to learn anything.  She's very demanding and nasty.  I've stopped seeing them and life is a little less tense without her in it.  I'd say cutting her from your life is a fair option.  She's probably hurting over her marriage breakdown but if she's not wanting your help and is only causing problems in your life then you can't help her anyway so it's best if you step away.  Good luck.

i agree with everyone else, she sounds like a spoilt child to me, you gte on with your life and hold your head high, people will see her for the trouble maker she is..
You have to look out for you and your family!! good luck honey!!

Don't accept her behaviour - exclude her from your life as much as possible.  Why be around people who cause you grief?  Worry about your own family unit and try to ignore her.  She won't get much pleasure if she isn't causing you distress and she can find another target to annoy, or grow up and get on with her own life. 

If your husband isn't aware of how she is treating you, and what she is doing, tell him calmly and quietly - don't fight with him, as that is what she is after.  Advise him that you are very hurt and distressed, and until her behaviour improves, you can't be around her.  Don't accuse her of anything, don't yell, don't tell tales, leave that up to her - people eventually make their own noose if you give then enough rope.

Hi there,

Its sound like a major case of bitchiness!! . . .

My SIL is the same and I decided years ago just to ignore her! This was the best thing I could have done because in the end she was the only one making issues and she stood out like a sore thumb . . .

Mu SIL is still a very cruel and bitchy person and things for her have not been great. Recently she was very sad and even cried on MY shoulder, but then within days was back to be her old horrible self.

Get on with your life mate - there is nothing you can do for or about her . . .  Enjoy you marriage and your family. One day (hopefully) she will see the errors of the ways . . .

Cheers Kellz

i think she is jealous too, if i were you, either ignore her and dont talk to her about anything,
or you could give her a taste of her own medicine, start some feral rumours about her just between a few people, if she keeps going, just say straight out ''back off before you make me do something i WONT regret'' (sorry if it sounds a bit mean) but it sounds like she is making your life hell and getting away with it.

xx

I think she is not happy with the good relation of you and ur husband, since she has just broken up, looks like she is getting jealous and misses her ex and that may be d reason she is trying to cre8 prblms bet u & ur husband.  I have gone thru this b4 and know what it is like.  Just ignore her and whenever she tries to start any kind of backbiting or jealosy , just make sure u confront the issue in frnt of ur husband and let him know the truth.  I know it`s hard to ognore but the more u get trapped into the matter the more she`ll bother u.  Whenever she is arond just make her feel that she does not even exist, if she looks for problems and tries to make a big deal out of nothing, just completely ignore her and just walk away.  Eventually, she will get tired and leave u alone.  GOOD LUCK.!!!   I hope this helps.

Sounds like she may be jealous of your relationship with her brother. Were they close before you met? Sorry I can't be of too much help here, but could your brother talk to her?