my friend is now 3 months pregnant, she is iffy and urrying about it, okay but the thing is now she wants the abortion cause her boyfrind and her broke up and he cheated on her and she enjoys freedom and partying, yet when I was pregnant last year she was crying to me about how much she wants a child etc, she is low infertile and with a abortion was said that it will be lower even more... I asked her if maybe she could do adoption? what do you think of what my friend should do? and to those who have had abortions how come you didnt adopt the child out? im not judging you!!! please dont get offended I was just wondering as its been in my mind and wondering about it....
again to those who have had abortions done please dont get offended!!!
I agree with everyone else! i sit on the fence with this one. All i know about this is in most states she is to late to have a abortion unless you live in sydney or willing to travel to sydney. The cut of line is 18.5 weeks on strong grounds like emotional, financial, rape ect. I know this as my girlfriend child was raped not long ago and didnt realise she was preg until she was 14.5 weeks. Melbourne wouldnt do it and was told sydney private at westmead hospital will preform it until 18.5 weeks.
I think an open adoption (where she can still have contact with her child) would be a better route. Abortion to me seems so stupid b/c there are so many people in the world who can't have children. If you want to have sex, then you need to be able to deal with the consequences.
i agree, if you want sex, be preapared for the consequences. I know so many people who desperatly want a baby, but cant, yet thousands of babys are be aborted every year. I do understand certain circumstances, but i think the abortion system is being used to easily. Its not ment for birth control. I know a girl whop perposely got pregnant cause she thought it might fix things with her boyfriend, then aborted cause its what he said to do, they broke up anyway, but thats heartless.
Abortion is such a touchy subject,im for abortion but not for myself .I am pro life and all that but never condem frinds or family for making the descision .If i was you id try and be supportive of any of your freinds choices.If she does go through with it then maybe she wasnt ready for a baby and it is the best descision for her.
If she wants to keep it then finds it harder than expected you can help her with guidance and undertsanding ,maybe adoption could be considered or she might see once the baby is here that is worth all the thinking and worrying that shed been through.
I agree with angie............ go to the group you are only inflaming some members...... your blog says it all..........enough with this fixation you seem to have today.
But in regards to the blog, it is a pretty sensitive issue regardless of whether you are for or against abortion. I think it could have stayed in the blog particularly as the video was not embedded into the blog, only a link - and it does say not to watch it because it could be particularly upsetting.
Blogs and Groups are places where you should be able to discuss something without fear of backlash, but I think some people do not understand that or understand netiquette. Blogs are where you can post up your personal opinion on something, Q&A and Advice is where you should be more factual.
Everything on your profile is your own personal space - your Me and My Family, Lounge and Blog - and you *can* put anything on there as long as it is within Minti's Terms of Service and Code of Honor.
i always thought that too group or blog... both in the same box but it has become aparent that there is a distinction made between the two here. mostly for the fact that the link could not be viewed if in a private group i think... perhaps more of this netiquite needs to be explained via some advice hmmmmm!!! ::)'s MAB!
becca is back to the books hehehehe!!!!! no wait that would be a screen then wouldn't it.... oh it will have to wait till the weekend i am all brained out for today lol ::)'s
i am pro choice but this is not what i would call the best option for her given her incresed chance infertility situation, best option would be to stall her!! if you can stall her for a while she will have no choice anymore (sounds ironic i know but hear me out) it will give her more time to think about if she wants to keep the child, adoption is always an option but when she can start to feel the baby kicking she will be thankful you helped her out when things where tough. hope this helps.
i think you should try and talk her out of an abortion, she may think its the easy way out now, but in the long run, as you said, she is on the verge of being infertile! therefore, in the future when she settles down with the right person for her, she may not be able to have a child to him.
i honestly think she has left it too late, this unborn baby is a baby with a heartbeat, and im sure that there are plenty of loving people who cant have children out there that would give the world to have a child of their own. xx
I have never been in that case becuase as soon as I found out I was PG I new I would keep my babies. The father is not in our lives, but that is what was right for me. Your friend has to what is right for her and the baby right now and later. She has to make sure that she can live with her decsion for the rest of her live not matter what it is. Good luck and keep us posted.
I am sure this questions is going to open a can of worms. I personally believe in the choice. I don't know what I would do if I were in her situation, and won't even begin to speculate.
But, if she is 3 months, she should be beyond the limit of getting an abortion. And in that case abortion should not be an option. She should either keep the baby or give it up for adoption.
All you can do is be there for her and try to give her the support she so clearly needs.
Best wishes.
Angela
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