I know, this is very bad of me to say...but how good would it be to have a better wedding than your SIL did and at the very same venue?  But, if that isn't something you want to do, then you and your partner need to come up with something you are both happy with.  It is a special day for both of you so don't compromise your wishes.

Angela

It is a big day for both of you, and you both need to happy with how the whole day is going to run. I think you should talk to your hubby to be and express your feelings and concerns about where he wants to hold it. You both need to meet each other half way. You don't want to look back on this day in 10 yrs time and say I didn't enjoy myself because I didn't like the venue. I'm sure your partner will understand.
Good luck and I hope it is day you will want to never forget. And congrats.

tell him how you feel. If you don't want to get married where your SIL got married, tell him, and why. Id rather get married where none of your family got married, so that will be YOUR special little place to go back to in years to come.

The worst thing is that you hold back your feelings. Tell him how you feel and he'll understand.

Hi when we were planing our wedding we both decided on everything, if I liked something & he didn't we would find a different thing.

You both have to agree on were the ceremony will be, if you don't want to get married were other family members have tell him because you both need to have what you want on such a special day.

You will find something that you both like if you just take the time to look together. It dose get frustrating but just try & work together.

CONGRATULATION TO YOU & YOU HUSBAND TO BE & GOOD LUCK WITH THE PREPERATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Hi  congrations to u , I would  be saying u want  somewhere else to get marriaged  not in the place as his bothers  had his wedding.You want your day to be some where speical where u both like.

If you been to crains u might really have a place in mine , if not try looking on the net or go to the travel agents and pick up some brouchers . Anyway is since u have faimly up that way go up and have a look around together  a pick a place that u both like . 

Well  all the best for your wedding day and its a wonder day for you both,

It is your wedding day and you only get to do it once. Tell him you just want to pick your own place, not the same place as someone else in the family was married.Be sure to have another suggestion, maybe say you like this place better? Good luck and follow your heart, you are not being petty.

It's a touchy topic isn't it? Well, my daughter just married the man of her dreams and I couldn't have done better if I'd hand picked him myself. I am 56 and having been around for awhile I've learned that men will be men. Having said that, is this man of yours a sensitive man or a spoiled brat? (Women are typically sensitive creatures, so it's taken for granted with us). Will he jump up and down if he can't have it his way, or will he be a good husband (future tense as you will be stuck with each other) and listen to the 'genuine' concerns of his wife. In other words does he want to get married there because he just wants to, or is there a really good reason? Usually people come from interstate to see the wedding, not to have one, as normally the family of the bride lives in the same state. It is written that "a son will leave his mother and father and stick to his wife and the two will become one flesh". Sound to me as if he should give you whatever your heart desires on your wedding day. It's all about the bride. I know to a man it doesn't seem fair, but it's been that way for centuries. I've never seen a man posing for the camera in over a hundred shots or so at his home as he's getting ready before the wedding. LOL. Perhaps sit down and each of you write the pros and cons on paper. Write out why it should or should not happen there and that way you will get to see the truth. I can see why you don't want to, but does he care enough about your feelings or does he care more about his own. By the same token, is there any sensitive issues that would upset him if you don't get married there? If not, then he doesn't have any ground for an argument. I can see that you are feeling hurt more than anything, and maybe feeling as if you were not wanted by your SIL. Sometimes SILS have issues with jealousy over losing their brother to another woman, that is, if it is his sister? Sounds silly, but I've seen it with my own eyes. Now here's the thing. Are you strong enough to shrug it off and say to hell with it, let's do it where ever you want. I love you and I don't care if we get married at K-Mart. Sometimes this type of thinking catches the man off guard and he gives in as he's not expecting you to come out with that. It's called tactics. Otherwise, just sit him down and pour out your emotions to him and let him have the lot. If he doesn't understand after that, do you really want to marry this guy?

Well congrats!!!! I must say that i am currently pregnant and my wedding WAS going to be this year. It was also supposed to happen 2 years ago but alas the stork came instead. Anyway, this is your special day and one that you will want to look back on with joy. Maybe if you throw a few different ideas at your husband about places where u could get married and explain to him that although his idea was good (men love getting praise) you want your day 2 be unique. After all there are so many beautiful places, especially in queensland, where the marriage can take place. Good luck with your day!!!!!!!!