Next weekend, pack your bags and the baby's and move to your Mum's.  (or somewhere)  He probably wont even let you out of the drive way, but tell him you feel like you're a single Mum doing everything on your own without any spousal support or any parenting being shared by hi, so you may as well become one, at least you wont FEEL used and taken for granted if you're actually on your own, plus you wont have to cook for him, clean up after him, and do HIS laundry etc..................  This might just make him see things and actually understand.

If this wake up call doesn't snap him out of it, them maybe you really SHOULD consider following through...........my hubby took a few of these, but since moving to a new town away from his drinking buddies, he now cooks and washes up after himself and gets our bub up and fed at least twice on his week off (he works away for 7 days and is home for 7 days), there is of course still room for improvement, but he is actually without my asking THINKING about things and puting in some effort, where he used to not put in any.

Think about it...my guess is that if he loves you and is just being lazy and trying to get away with as much as possible as they are want to do, he will snap out of it..if he doesn't like I said...you know what he really does thin of you and it's not much more than a made he gets to have sex with......I hope he's just lazy.

Good Luck

This all seems abit unfair, especially with you working full time. I agree with all the other coments. You do need some time out, for you to do nothing or what ever you feel like doing. Maybe when your husband wants to have "husband's pleasures" you could say i'm too exhausted, from everything i have to do. Maybe that might spur him into doing something.

Regards Janice

People dont like being told what to do, I know I dont and I am sure you dont so you need to resolve this situation carefully and cleverly...firstly list the things that need to be done for eg making his lunch, then prioritize the rest till the weekend. He can have Saturday off and you can have Sunday and that means you can walk out and leave the house and come back a few hours later....he doesnt know what to do he'll learn just the way you did...and its fair because he has his day...he wants a Sunday also fine then you get the whole weekend next weekend...be upfront and equitable when he wants something..// he can have it and so can you...now for the housework you can try a roster...I need you to help you are great at these jobs and Ill do the rest... if that doesnt work get a cleaner in one day a week (you said you were working full time so I am suggesting this option) hubby says no well thats fine sweetheart but you'll have to help I am overwhelmed by it all and exhausted if I dont get some help I may have to leave work...appeal to his ego and remember when he does something praise him and thank him....it was really great you looking after XXXX I really enjoyed that shower i feel so much better would you like a coffee? praise and reward works 100 times better than stress and nagging... not that im saying you are doing that but I know the path you are on. Remember when you speak to be firm and explicit I need you to xxxx if you say can you ....take out the garbage you are giving permission to do it later or not at all. I need you to hold the baby while I have a shower, I wont be long...plonk the baby in his arms and off you go. I need to feed the baby peg these clothes out so I can get on with dinner when Im finished,  thanks sweetheart...always thank it encourages positive cohesiveness...be realistic in your requests and accept his efforts as his best because with hubby's like yours any effort is better than no effort at all and with time you can imporve their efforts with kindness and gentlesness because men who love their wives and feel loved in return continue to want to make them happy! Remember careful and clever

Hey there, I do not begin to be unhelpful but your first line about his mother did everything leaves me with one comment

You are not his mother.

Hope you get the assistance you need. Try your community help.

Good luck

Jypsyheart

This happened to me after having the twins, my now ex husband did absolutely nothing to help. I would get up and and feed the kids and get them changed and drive him to work at 7am then come home and try to keep the house clean and the kids happy. When I did the shopping I would have to push the twin pram and pull the trolley behind ( they didn't have those twin trolleys then). Then he'd come home from work and sit down, I would ask him to help bath one of the kids...nope too hard. Also, complained about the house being messy and the food I cooked boring. Also, I was doing family day care and had another set of twins to look after during the day. Up until the kids were two and they could start comunicating with him he didn't really know what to do with them. So, it did get better. I put it down to being young and not thinking of anyone but himself.  He is great with the kids now and loves them to pieces. 

I would tell your husband that you are struggling with doing everything and it would be really nice if he could do one or two things around the house. He may just think you're wonderwoman, or that you like doing it all. Slowly ease him into it, once he's doing some chores, ask him to do another. Then when the chores are done, you can sit down together, rather than just him sitting down. Just talk to him, but don't make it sound like you think he's lazy or it will have the opposite efect... I Hope this helps.