I am probably going to be frowned upon from people but if my answer helps then so be it. I have had two terminations, one when I was 18 and one when I was 23.

The first one was just silly from our behalf, I had a boyfriend of 5months we thought it would'nt happen to us if with used the "rhythum" method and lo and behold I then had to decide the life of another person. I felt stupid, alone, my family could not believe what I had done, they supported me but in no certin terms said a termination was the best thing. I now know after having kids that I could never have survived emotionally and finacially had I had the child but that does not make it any easier. I have so many regrets and yet i am so gratefull I never had the child, my then partner and I stayed together for another 12 months after that but it was always the elephant in the room. His family were mean to me and so were his friends, my family would'nt talk to me about it and I became depressed.

We moved to Sydney to get away from it all and I fell off the rails, we split and I started sleeping with anyting that moved just to feel like I was wanted and a good person and people loved me, I started seeing a man and yes quite a bit older and he wanted children so I started going on the pill because I did not want to have a baby, after I found out I was pregnant I had no option but to abort, I was drinking heavily, smoking and to my horror found out he had been subsituting my pill so I would have a child. I knew the risk of defects because of my lifestyle and did not want to stay with this man long term and did not want to bring a child into our situation. After I told him I was terminating he took my clothes my keys and threw me out on the street, he parents found out and I stayed with them untill it was over and I had a house of my own.

I tryed to terminate my own life but after a few failed attempts turned to drugs to numb my guilt, I went out every week and in general did ok unless I saw a child, herd a child a child came on the t.v or anyone mentioned anything to do with children! I then went in to an abusive relatioship for 12 months untill a friend of mine turned up to my house and forced  me to move back to melbourne.

For 12months I went and lived on the family farm and had little or nothing to do with anyone untill I delt with life, I am now married with two little boys and my husband knows everything about my life. I got over everything but I have and never will forget it and to this day I still remember both ultrasounds of both children and their beautiful little hearts!

I had an abortion while i was dating my boyfriend (now husband).  It was 7 1/2 weeks.  It was so painful emotionally.  We were not ready yet, i was not stable with my job and was sharing a room and he was still living with his family.  we were not prepared physically and financially. We got married and waited for little over a year and started trying for a baby and after close to 2 of marriage , we got a beautiful daughter.  Our daughter was 2 weeks old on our second   Wedding Anniversary.  Had i not aborted the baby , my preg would not have been easy due to money and no place to live, i can`t imagine how stressed i `d be. 
Now that we have prepared ourselves financially,  physically. mentally and emotionally, we are raising our little one as we had planned.  I am a Stay-at-Home Mom and i am happy doing everything possible to raise my little one,  with all the family support..  We pretty much could afford everything . with all the neccessities, for our little one.

   O.K,  having said this, there is no way, i am recommending , the couples to make a decision same as me.  It was just our personal choice and personal decision.  Everybody has a right to make their own choice.  I did not want to think all my pregnancy as to how am i going to raise my child with no money, what will i feed my baby, etc, etc., and many many Q`s running thro my mind all my pregnancy.  Even if i had to ask for help financially to people, the first question, they`d ask me was y on earth would u bring a baby in your life when you did not  have money to feed yourself , and many questions after that on and on and on.  In no way i am also saying that i was happy to abort the baby and i do not regret.  I still think about it most of the time.  How can i not think about that, when it was my first one.

  I hope and pray that no Mom or Couple has to go through what we went through with the abortion.