whether we like it or not .. Debs right ,where theirs a will with all our teens theres always a way ......, i would also like to add that i would like to get to know his parents as well.. im like this even when my boys want to stay at their friends house and its guys ,, i like to know where my children are and whos house and who are the parents ,, when my boys have friends over here to sleep i Have also spoken to their parents to let them know their kids are safe at my place etc,,,its good though that your daughter has come to you and has asked you about this instead of lieing about it ,,,

i have made it a good point to get to know my childrens friends and to know their parents as much as i can .not to the point of pounding them with heaps of questions etc,,, i have a pretty good communication with my teens so far

have a chat with the parents or the mum ...... maybe the mum also has concerns about her son etc,, ask about the rules at their place and also let her know your fears,,

keep the communication up with the other mum or dad ,,,

if your daughters over their place staying the night at least you will know the parents and know that shes safe and not out roaming round the streets with friends etc,,

I agree. I have told my boys for years that "they keep it in their pants til they are 18, and after that keep it covered!" However, they also know that if they do have a girlfriend then it will be ok for them to sleep over after they have been going out for a while. But I do want to meet the other parents first as well. Haven't actually had it happen yet, even tho they are fast approaching that bit (just about 15 & 16) I have told them that so long as nothing inappropriate happens where the youngest can see, that is fine. But I do keep going back to the saying tho, and all their mates cop it too!

Leisa

Yes we were shown one in Middle school as well, and if anything it turned me off wanting to go through it before I was properly ready.  she's 15, she's not 5.  If she's interested in sex (which has not been verified, I am asuming), then I think the responsible thing would be to show her as much as is possible the ramifications of the act incase she's under the impression that you get a lovely little baby alive type of doll/baby the fantasy of motherhood instead of the reality.  I'd rather have my child (when she's a teen) decide through as much factual info as possible what she is wanting and willing to do rather than her live out a fantasy that may well bite her on the arse for the following 18 years minimum.

To each there own.

I agree 100%!!!  15 is way too young.  Even after I had a child of my own and was 20yrs old my boyfriends were not allowed to stay over at my mums place.  It was a respect thing.  When you are young you have different boyfriends and relationships, my mum didnt want any of them trapsing through her house.  It was the same rules for my brother.  It wasnt until we were both engaged that my mum would allow the sleep overs.  Maybe she went a little too far and yes I still ended up pregnant at 19 but my mother wasnt subjected to the in's and out's of my social life. 

I would still give her a sex/relationship talk and get her on birth control but there is no way I would allow my teenage daughter to have sleepovers with the boyfriend, nor would I allow my sons to have their girlfriends over.