Put it in your blog or controversial group. Correct me if i'm wrong...but the person who was "railroaded" into deleting her own blog had a link to a live abortion? I think that's where the problem was...not the fact that she had an opinoin...it was the link that got everyone upset.

becides having a diary to write all your personal things down that should be just kept for you .

When articles are written when advice is been said , we all have to keep in mind that it just dosent work for everyone thats what makes us unique with our experiences ,

no one should never say shame on you etc,, or put another person down for tyring to do their best that they can ,, as all have resons for it ...no one knows that goes on in other lives on a day to day

no parent is perfect and just cause they may have perfected one thing in their lives it does not mean that everything else will run smoothly either  and when that person puts another down just because it worked for them isnt the way to go about things at all ,, ,, that has to be kept in mind .you yourself might have an issue later on down the track and may indeed need advice and ask for help ,, how would you like it then to be put down because another member said you are wrong and all you want is helpful advice .....hows that going to help you at all or anyone else in that matter ?

if I was to write something that might be able to help another i would never say you have to do this because if you dont you are a bad mother thats just not real life ...and we dont live in a perfect word with perfect people and perfect children ( wouldnt we all love it if whatever we tried it just worked for all ,) ,, with oppions or not

its not my way or the highway at all and neither is it anothers

to be opinionated  is one thing but to be opinionated and tackful with back up helpful advice is another .

if you write something that has worked for you be more helpful to others and write about your exerience about it but you have to keep in mind that it wont work for everyone and neither will all advice or help for yourself either .

people need to be able to emphasize with others .

blogs is your blogs but for one to write such strong opions in it means that you are just doing this for all to see anyway and people will get backlash weather its right or wrong ,, if it was just something personal and not for all to read then why would someone write about it and  put it up for all to see ,, the person will put it in their diary ,, thats where private things go , it can't be private if its on a web page can it , and its not just for minti people to read the whole world will be able to also read it ,, keep that in mind also .

If something has worked for you or anyone be helpful about it not negitive

is one wants to be able to voice out with others that are alike ,, make up your own group that is private and only for members alike that way only you and the members will be able to write and read it .

i also have strong opions but do live in the real world and know that its not for everyone , theres are always two and maybe 3 sides or more to help anyone .

 

I'm inclined to say post it where you feel it is most appropriate and if people start picking and harassing you for it, just ignore all their comments and only respond to the positive ones; or if it gets too bad, contact the Admin and explain what is going on and see if they can have a look and pass on any wisdom about it. For really bad cases of picking on they may warn the person doing it or punish them in some way.

I'm all for people expressing their opinions so long as they aren't degrading anyone else in the process. For example, I can rightly say I don't agree with all christian values, but I'm not going to go around saying christian values are stupid as that's just degrading it and in turn it degrades me and makes me look stupid. People that get degrading, insulting, and offensive don't tend to last long or they quickly learn it just doesn't gel well with everyone else and they're better off not doing it. In the meantime, until they figure it out, just totally ignore their petty ramblings. It's not like they can actually hurt you in any way - unless you let them upset you.

Before I write an advice article, I usually will look up to see if anything else has been written about the subject. If there hasn't or I feel that there is something that I can write that is giving a further opinion or experience I will write about it. I think that this is what advice should be for. If someone asks, How do I? or What should I do if? or even What is this condition? then they look it up and find advice on that topic. That is what I do. For example, I was at the hospital the other day and they told me they will insert a Mirena. The first thing I did after I got home was look up Mirena and find articles on it. I found that this answered any other questions I may have had, and also gave me what the doctor at the hospital couldn't - others personal experieces with it.

If it is a personal opinion, then perhaps you should just blog it or find a group.

Just remember that there are always two sides to a story or argument. One is not necessarily more right than the other, and personal opinions are the same.

Take care. Leisa

I am all for free speech and all that but.... If someone said to me well hang on why did you only brest fed your child for only 3 mnth you are this and that I would defend my self and so will everyone else. Yes our breasts are there for that reason and yes I did try to breast feed my son as much as I could but I was at a period of my life (without going into details) I was stressed and depresed and my milk was not good enough he was crying because he was starving. I had lots of milk the first 2 mnth but the next 2 was a joke at the end I dried up so yes I could have gone on but with what???????? Am I a bad mother and not let coments like that affect me. Everyone is here for a reason we all love minti for all the little things that make it work. For many of us minti is like a friend and we dont like when friends say hurtfull things to us. We try and help each other as much as we can and we dont need to come here and have to defend our self.

If you have something to say that you know damn well it is going to offend and hurt people and you want to put it somewhere BUY A DIARY!!!!

Seriously this is a public website and although our blogs are our own they are still out there for public view, you wouldn't stand around the streets blurting your opinion on these sensitive issues so don't write it... easy as that! Where is the common sense?

If you feel that strongly about something and you want to discuss then start a private group and invite in like minded people that way nobody needs to get hurt by narrow minded, insensitive remarks.

I agree that name calling and being judgemental or saying hurtful things does not belong on minti whether it be a blog, advice, controversial group or other.  We cannot tolerate that sort of thing on here.  But I think if there is an opinion, that does not pass judgement on others, it does belong in a blog.  I have also been one to write something non-judgemental, something in a blog that has been fully attacked.  I believe we should be able to put these things into our blog without that but unfortunately people take it to heart and that's why it's best if we don't say it at all.  This is unfortunate because I think this is a place where we should all be able to say how we feel on a topic, provided it does not put down another persons' parenting.  That's just my views on it all.  We should be able to blog away about whatever we like, without judgement or criticism, without people entering the blogs saying that we should delete it.  Especially when they go on to say that we're all different and are all entitled to our views.  Hmmm.

Hi
Don't hide behind the title of anon
Show your face if you ask controversial questions and truly want answers. 
The reason they asked for it to be in a blog is this has been a long running debate and frankly everyone is getting tired of the same thing being rehashed again and again.  There are places for things to be That is why we have blogs groups and advice and articles
Like you everyone is free to voice their opinion but why voice something that you know may hurt someone deeply
A lot of us are here because we don't have the perfect life or feel secure but we need some support
For some of us this is the only outlet to be able to ask questions and get help without fear of embarassing ourselves.
I'm not perfect in any way but i do have very fragile feelings
Some people come here even more fragile than i am and get attacked
People only report what they feel is hurtful or know from experience what the question is going to provoke
I am not having a go at you or anyone.  There are private groups for controversial topics for a reason. 
Words are very hurtful without them meaning to be.  
Tact is not shown very well when typing and even more especially when you are angry and hurt 
I know i am a victim and a culprit of this. 
Hope this helps
Luv Deb

Well that's why there is a contraversials group for......if people think they are going to get upset over a topic then they don't go into that group. Opinions are welcome, but when they get judgemental and start to name call then that's when it isn't welcome......especially in a sensitive topic as abortion and breastfeeding/bottlefeeding.....we are all mother's doing our best for our children and we don't need people saying "shame on you"........

Amanda xxxx

I believe there is a group for this called controversial issues

take it up with admin as they should have the answers you need....

as they are the ones that have the final decision on what is done on here...

thanx
cazza