Hey Darl, I know exactly what ya going though hey , i've been there myself, and it is hard to leave the person cause you love them even though they are really voilent you keep taking em back i did exactly the same hey....But as i am now out of it, i advise to please make the step cause you can do it...i was given the ultimative to leave my ex or lose my kids, that was my wake up call, and even though it was hard i choose strongly to leave him, and havent been happier...i'm here for you feel free to talk more bout it, and alot of us will help you and ur kids get through this ....

reanna

please PLEASE PLEASE get out now, for the your safety and your kids! PLEASE HUN!! GET OUT! thinking of you xxxxxxxx

I'm not going to traumatise you by suggesting you read the whole thing, so i'll just post the most important bits from an advice I wrote to get the message through...

Often people think that if they try harder things will change and improve, that it won't get any worse than it is, or that there is no better option out there.  Some stick in a bad situation because they fear what might happen if they do leave - and the abuser's threats of what they will do in that circumstance, only concrete the belief that they are better off where they are.  Some believe that no one can help, that there's no safe place to go, and they will only end up forced to go back, where things will then be worse for trying to leave in the first place. Some think that staying in the situation for the sake of the kids is important, that the kids won’t be hurt by it, and they won’t be affected by it...My advice is:  If you are in a situation of domestic violence, get out, stay out, and, DO IT NOW!  If your life has been threatened, even if you don't think the threat was meant to be serious, don't take the risk - call the police to escort you out of there IMMEDIATELY.

And don’t look back...

Earlier this year I found myself in another serious domestic violence situation where I was bashed into unconsciousness in front of my son, and after going to the police about it I started receiving death threats. I stood my ground. I refuse to drop the charges. The events leading up to the assault and the assault itself has resulted in reports of child abuse upon my son being made against him as well, as my son witnessed everything it constitutes child abuse. I had to move state, change my name, set up a new identity, and erase everything that could link my former identity to my new one and where I now live. I have come out on Minti as who I previously was, but no one can link that to where I am or my real name. This required selling my home, giving up most of my possessions, and even losing contact with many friends. I even had to give most people the impression that I was moving to a different place to where I was actually going. It was hard, but I will never allow anyone to get away with treating me like that again. I also have an example to set for my children as I will not have them growing up the way I did as a child.

And I will say, getting out can be very hard and sometimes you may need to go to some extremes to get out and stay out safely. But domestic violence can only ever escallate and get worse. If he's threatening to hurt you, he eventually will. If he is threatening to kill you, he eventually will. I hope that by the time you get to read this you are out of there and that I posted this far too late.

please, please walk away from him. He is NOT going to charge - no matter what he says. you and your children are worth for more than just being punch bags. Find a shelter and some help, but please don't delay!  You owe it to yourself and your children. Good luck!

Hello, I was once in an abusive relationship (not as bad as your situation) and the day he shoved me and I tripped over my daughter Hailey was the day I decided that was it and I had to get out. My children were not going to see someone ever do that to me. A week later with a lot of courage I went to my parents, who he had threatened to kill if I left him, and asked them for help. My ex-husband was away this day so my dad dropped everything went to my house and helped me pack and move out while my mum watched all the kids.

This is what I did and I hope it may help you in some little way. Whatever you do please get out for your children's sake because next time it may not be you he targets.

All the best with everything. Cherine.

i know its hard but you cant just thgink about you have kids to think about leave and leave now get a few belonging orginised ring the police and get them to escort you to a safe place for the sake of you and your children good luck youve come to the right place any mum /oarent will help as much as they can

good luck

You sould'nt have to take this this it's not fair to you or your kids, get out !!!were is he now? do you have freinds family that could take you in?, like most bullies he won't  follow because they can give but don't like to recieve, if you can't get out now wait till he's out at work etc to avoid anouther confruntation!!!!

plz plz plz get out some how... ring the police or the number cazza gave you, this has gone to far no matter how sorry he may be this will happen again and can you be sure that in a few years he won't start on the kids too??

let us know your ok even if its just anouther anon on here

hugz jo xx

I think you know what to do. if he has hit you before and it has now escalated to this you need to get out now!!!!!!!!! Take your boys now and leave, call whoever you need for assistance and leave.

Best of luck.