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ReannaBexleiyroseSummerKiarah
ReannaBexleiyroseSummerKiarah | August 2007

behavoural problems

Hey, i have two beautiful gals bexleiy-rose 4 and summer-kiarah 2. I am a single parent and am having some very difficult beharvourial problems with both of them and was wondering if anyone else has had the same problems or can offer advice!Both gals dont see there dads as they both were really voilent towards me, so its best they dont have anything to do with them. Bexleiy-rose witnessed heaps of this voillence and i'm thinking it may be relating to her behavour at the moment...both the gals and me have not been in this voilent environment for 2 years now which is good, but think it may be a factor in the way shes behavouing... Bexleiy-rose, is currently going to speech therapy, and has a big problem with talking, she cant interact with kids cause they dont understand her and be mean to her...she wont talk, is very withdrawn at skool and when asked questions justs looks at u like yer what...i've tryed everything., read to the both everynight....shes a very affectionate child too which is contstantly hugging and kissing people, at home she can be quite voilent toward her sister, constant pushing bitting myself and sister, hair pulling, swearing, and throwing and trashing house hold items. I'm at my wit ends , tryed pretty much everything...have her on waiting list for child phscoligist and getting her hearing tested next week...

Summer-kiarah from 9am in the morning to 7pm at night constantly screams for no reason, there wont be anything wrong with her, shed be feed , changed, have sleep, and she still screams loudly constantly...i've tryed saying to her quiet please summer, suprisingly i'm very patient with both of them which is good in a way...but its getting realli hard now...she also bites, pulls hair and throws tantrums constantly. she too is having speech therapy cause she doesnt say a single word its just scream..



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4BOYZ
August 2007 | 4BOYZ
Re: behavoural problems

Honey I would personally take both girls down to the nearest early childhood centre. Tell the people the problems your have and really push them to do something for you. If your convincing enough. They'll make a few calls for you, get all the help you need and can also get waiting lists pushed forward for you.

99% of the time if a child is acting out. There is a reason. You just have to keep looking until you find out what it is. Good luck. I wish you all the best.



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blackwidowkate
August 2007 | blackwidowkate
Re: behavoural problems
Hi
First I would like to congratulate you for being so patient
I would have lost it by now lol
I hate it when my nearly 2 year old is screaming
As for the violence...they never really forget.  We were never physically violent when my teens were little but both of them still remember and often blame themselves. 
This causes some behavioural problems especially with the daughter as she is older
Congrats also for getting out and becoming a survivor
Like crystalmoon said hearing problems is often a factor
Also if the speech is delayed for some reason this will cause a lot of frustration 
I know before my daughter had her tonsils adenoids and grommets done she had a hearing loss of 45% and she would yell a lot and not be clear in her speech.
All i can offer is lots of hugs and hope you get answers soon
We are all here if you need to vent and yell at us...i got broad shoulders lol. 
Don't be afraid to come on here and blog and question to your hearts content
We all know it is not easy being a single parent and having babies that yell a lot
Luv Deb


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crystalmoon
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | crystalmoon
Re: behavoural problems
You poor hunni's........ You have all been through a lot,and yeas the past violence would probably have something to do with their behavior.If this is the only factor then your patience and love along with counseling will no doubt work wonders.Though it will take time.Have you got the girl's hearing checked?This could be why there is tantrums and speech problems.......tantrums and screaming could be out of frustration at not being understood.Sounds to me like you just have to wait and get them accessed to see what the problems are.Bearing in mind 2 year olds can and will screech rather than anything else if it means getting their own way LOL.....Keep us posted on what the outcome is with them Hugs Crystal xxx


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      ReannaBexleiyroseSummerKiarah
5.00 (Excellent) | August 2007 | ReannaBexleiyroseSummerKiarah
Re: behavoural problems

Thanku Crystal, i think summer-kiarahs screeching is also to do with being a bit spoilt too and a bit of attention seeking...thanku for your advice i will keep u all updated in the next two weeks the tests will be happening so i should have results in 3 weeks...will keep you'z posted

reanna xxx



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