Try a marriage counselor first.

HI ,as I dont know who you are it is s little hard to help ,but I will ask Could you be depressed ?As when I was going through a depression I also told my husband that I wanted a divorce and that I did not love him either ,luckily for me he did not give up on me and our marriage as that was 12 yrs ago now and we are still happily married.I also think for me it was a defence mechanism as I had become so hard to live with I felt I would get rid of him before he would leave me and make the pain even harder to bear.As another member has said depending on how far along in your pregnancy it could be that the hormones are playing up on you and you are not thinking clearly.I suggest marriage counciling.Good luck and I hope it all works out for you whichever way you decide to go.

                                                         Cham

Fighting gets you no where, you say you have discussed divorce and your hubby says he wants to work things out....here is a man who obviously loves you because he isnt looking for an easy out.

Being pregnant and having a baby messes with every thought and hormone in your body so my advice is to wait for the moment. Big decisions like this cant be made quickly or when you are in turmoil. This decision not only affects you and you husband but also your child.

My question is do you really know what love is? Before you panic there are a lot of us, myself included who look for the rosey, passionate, cant be apart for two seconds romantic love that has been instilled in us from the time we watched our first movie or tv  show...an unrealistic and dangerous perception of relationships.

True love I have learned is about having that person be there through thick and thin, who works their guts out to provide financially, emotionally and gives you what you need to be the person you are.... and that isnt an easy task. Take a loot at your situation you think you want out and are possibly putting up barriers intentionally or unintentionally so your hubby has to work harder to prove how much he wants you to remain in his life.

Take a step back and have a honest look at your relationship, you cared enough for this man to sleep with him, carry his child and marry him...what have you done with those feelings, where have they gone is it possible they slipped away because reality is very different to the rose coloured glasses we imagine our lives to be.

Consider reading The Five Love Languages, make an effort to create harmony and possibly seek some counselling and if after all that you can honestly say, "I did everything to make this man happy, my marriage work and to provide a stable homelife for our child and I feel the same" then go down the divorce path....consider the fact that you started thinking about it in May and are still there in Sept maybe somthing is telling you to rethink..... best wishes.

Id say it sounds like you just answered your own question there, but are you still pregnant? if not how old is the baby ? just thinking you could change your mind going off my experience we having my son i could have happily been alone I just wanted to be mum and hormones the tiredness etc clouded my judgement, which makes me feel a little guilty now I let wanting tobe the best mum I could be neglect my fiancee. I'm not saying tis is the same in your case but just encouraging you to think about this from all angle's if you know this is what you truely want and it will make you happier then follow your heart. As you say he doesnt want a divorse so be close like best freinds and raise your child its a compramise your still close just no longer intimatley. Good luck xx

hugs jo xxx