Try a marriage counselor.

The opposite of love is not hate, nor anger. The opposite of love is apathy. Have you  examined your motives, thoughts and feelings....

Not his feelings....those belong to him, not your family, or his family as these are just opinions and many can come our way in a time of confusion that could possibly create more confusion. You, only you, the wellbeing of you and your child and your motives clearly say....To you, because it Is Your Life and you Do Have Choice, I just don't love the guy, I've done everything I can to work things out with him, (counseling by yourself or counseling with him) and he is just not getting it, or giving me what I need in our partnership of marriage. If so, then it is time to move on, knowing you worked hard to save your marriage, there is no guilt or question, therefore no moral issue....You've done the best you could!!

Or are you in a transition of growth in your relationship with the addition of your child together and things seem tops turvy....unsettled? In a place of disagreement within the home, lacking in support you want and he does not give you? Are you depressed, do you need to see a doctor, or feeling isolated? When all your questions are answered, then there will not be a moral dilema, as you will have worked through your heart and with love, feeling in your gut to find the truth.

Please be gentle with yourself, give yourself the time and love you need, special things like a long bubble bath, candles in the dark of night with wonderful music, reading a good book or taking long walks with your baby, just quiet moments to shed tears of healing that eventually turn into strength and new roads to travel.   Take care please,  Simba1

I think I am basically in the same situation as you. I don't love my husband, I don't think I ever did. I think we just let the fact that we were having a baby together cloud our judgement and kind of felt pressured to be together. It was a mistake, and he doesn't want to admit it, but I don't want to be with him. I would personally rather be a single parent than be unhappily married to a man I do not love. You have to follow your heart. If you can't be happy then your child probably won't either. My baby is 10 months old and while I feel a little selfish about trying to be happy, I know I shouldn't b/c if I'm not happy she will pick up on that.

If you have tried all avenues, to stay in the marriage and it has not worked....my advice is to mov on with your life...if you stay through a sense of duty...you will end up hated your husband. And beleive me a child will pick up on the negative vibes, more then you know.

I wish you all the very best...everyone deserves happiness and to be love & in love.

Cheers Janice xxxx

I'm currently receiving a lot of trouble from family members and friends because the father of my baby-on-the-way and I are not planning to get married or even live together. People are trying to push upon us their idea of moral obligations and the right thing to do for the sake of the child.

The best thing we see for our child is to have two happy parents that can love the child. Our child will grow up in a happy loving family with both parents being a big part of their life, and the parents will be seen as being happy together in each other's company, even though they don't live together.

I'm starting to get tired of saying to people, "Who's moral obligations are you talking about? Who decides what my partner and my morals have to be? How do you know what is the right thing for my partner, my children, and myself?"

You need to think about what your morals are. What do you think is best for your child? Just because society says that we should all be happily married when we have kids, it doesn't mean that is what is right for you and your family. Maybe it ism maybe it isn't. Everyone is different and you need to figure out what your heartfelt independent opinion on the matter is and what is best for your child. Only then you can make a decision and act on it.

Cheers, DA

moral obligations as in because of the kids? because of what the family will say? or because it is a sin to do so?
Either way..... in my eyes, it is not healthy to stay in a relationship because of the children. Why? BEcause the children will end up picking up the negative vibes and the lack of connection between you and there dad.... and as far as i am concerned, a child can't be raised in a loveless environment where the parents don't love each other.
Also, if its a sin to leave because of children - it's a sin to stay because of the kids and put them through a hard time re: emotions.
And as for family - they have no say in how you live your life - you need to do whats right for you and what makes you happy!
Yes, it is a tough decision but it is one that will turn out to make you a stronger person...
But i do recommend you try marriage counselling and be honest with your partner before you make your final decision!
Good luck.

if you mean moral obligation by other family members and what they think then it is better to go. you should be happy. First i would try and work things out before anything else.

good luck with your choice

I think yummyyummyof3 is right, but it is also your relationship and should be your decisison too. On the other hand if your children too young I would stay. It is very diffucult decisison. I had the same problem with my husband I stayed because of the years we spent together and because of our son, now we sterted to build up our relationship slowly slowly and I love my husband in an other way. Again I think it should be your own decision

Cheers

I'm not sure what you mean by moral obligations, what you are staying with him because you have children??  You are not doing yourself, your child or your partner any favours by staying in a loveless partnership, what can you do, be truthful to him and give him the choice of whether he wants to stay with someone that is not inlove with him, if there is no way your love can return I personally would not stay in a realationship..... Goodluck