people need to realise that not all advice will work for everyone ,, somethings are black and while and others are just grey .. we all have differnt oppions and differnt ways of doing things that have worked for us ,, thats why minti makes it a great place for so many people

when people write an article

if it hasnt worked for you dosent mean it might not work for another person  or it just may work later down the track,,and we need to respect and understand that ...

as long as it isnt information that can harm anyone ,,

 we all do things in our own way that we have found that works for us .through trial and error ......negitive responces are not needed as we are all still learning to be a parent in differnt stages of our lives .....

if anyone dosent like whats been said cause it hasnt worked for them then just dont either vote or leave negative a responce ,,,,( keep in mind that when you write it dosent also mean that you are always going to be right cause like i said not everything will work for everyone but its a great way to find out differnt things to try .there are many pros and cons to all sorts of things and as a writer we all have to remember that point ,, .. as long as its not harmful to your child etc,,

it takes a village to raise a child and minti is just that a village for us to learn and help where we can xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi - I know I haven't been on Minti much of late, but when I get into it - I really get into it.  It is very captivating.  I think one thing we all have to remember is that we dont have to answer to anyone from the comfort of our own home/computer.  If someone doesn't like us and puts us down.  We dont have to stay on that page.  Just ignore it.  Rise yourself above their comments and move on to someone else and befriend them.  That is the beauty of being online.  I think I have written something similar to this in a previous discussion some months ago.  Often people love interacting and the intensity grows and grows until the relationship finds those differences.  It's absolutely normal and perhaps that relationship has to have a cooling off period.  Dont take it to heart.  Continue to present your "best self".  If you need to say something - try to find the positive that the other person is saying.  Your initial perception of what they have written may not be what they had intended.  If you are not sure.  Dont answer, move on.  They will chase you and realise how they may have sounded if they really care.

I wouldn't change a thing about Minti.  I love the rankings and have always found guidance in those that have been on Minti for longer than I have (shown in the rankings).  I like the concept, layout, search functions and ability to have my own page.

Thanks, Minti for being here.  I couldn't have got such a good site together in a million years.

I'm a newcomer here so am a little in the dark. So, what awful things have been going on ? So far at least, this place strikes me as relatively harmonious and respectful. Differing opinions, sure, but isn't that all to the good ?

And - can you think of a topic that stirs up MORE differing opinions than parenting ? That's the nature of the beast, I think !

I will read/listen to advice from anybody on anything - I just reserve the right to follow, modify or totally ignore in accordance with my own lifestyle, principles, circumstances etc I guess i just assumed everybody did the same. But then I'm an Aussie and maybe we're a pretty thickskinned bunch. We also tend to call a spade a spade so perhaps there are cultural as well as personality differences that could account for people taking things the wrong way or getting offended.

My personal opinion is Minti needs actual moderators. Looking at almost every disagreement on minti I think the main problem is there is no real control to decide what goes, it is left to us which is clearly not working. I have never really liked the voting system either as it seems to cause so much bickering, but it is a small part of it.

HI everyone,

Do we really have to have a ranking????   I mean vote on the article,  this goes toward how good it its and what people are thinking, but to have a ranking on what you have done..... I don't know...... just my thought.    Anyway why do people get wraped up in it all?   Stay out of it I reckon...  Having said that should I have answered this Q??  LOL 

AJV

Voting. For the most part it works. There are some who take advantage of the system to the detriment of others. I would say I would like to change it but I just don't know any solutions to make it better for everyone in here.

Leisa

That regardless of where u r ranked be in 1 or 500, u r no better or worse than each other and every little bit that u contribute to Minti is valuable and makes Minti what it is.