I have always grown up with affection, and obviously i have taught my 1 year old affection. all of our family, and close friends, kiss him on the mouth. now he offers up kisses and hugs, but when he kisses its on the mouth and ive quickly realized that it makes other kids, and people in general uneasy, or uncomfortable. How do i teach my 1 year old that its okay to kiss certain people on the mouth, and others should be on the cheeck. or should i just be doing one instead of the other. We're a very loving, and affectionate family, so obviously i dont want it to at all stop.
I have told madame that it's ok for family to kiss each other on the lips, but anyone else has to kiss on the cheek. Even the family we're not so close to only kiss on the cheeks. So I've really pointed out the few people it's ok to kiss on the lips - Mummy, Grandma, 2 of her uncles and 3 of her aunts whom we're close to and that's it. Hope this helps.
At this age, your child won't understand yet if you say that he can only kiss certain people on the mouth. So my suggestion is, when you ask him to kiss people, you use body parts. For example, "you can kiss, Uncle Joe on the lips.", and with certain people, "you want to kiss her on the cheek?" This way, he can learn the different places where it's OK to kiss. If you do this, it will not take long before he would probably ask you where it's OK to kiss a certain person.
I have never had a problem with my kids kissing, they soon grow out of it anyway to some degree. At 1 year old, I don't think it should be a problem how they kiss. And further, if someone has a problem with it they just turn their face to the cheek and let him kiss them there. Leisa
ive always encouraged affection as well but some people get a little weird about it and its unaprropriate for others i just tell my kids to give 5 to peope before we leave or i will say "give pop a kiss and a hug " or "give whoever a high 5 and then they start to remember and they eventually dont haver to be told
good luck
I am not sure how to help exactly with this one. I do know with my kids i just explained that some people you cant kiss as they dont like it. I was was also sure to teach them never to kiss strangers. My friends have given cuddles but not kisses. They will on the cheeck. Thats all i can offer on this. Just explain its because they dont know your child.
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