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Religion is such a personal thing isn't it? I am a pagan and teach my followings to my child. Simple things at the moment and as she grows older I will be encouraging her to learn and study other faiths too...Basically I would like her to make up her own mind as to which path she follows....

You as the parents need to have a workable compromise---- I would disregard other family member's opinions(nicely) and do what you both think works for your Bubby

Rainbows

Flossy X

thanks everybody for the advice..

danielle xox

hi danni
mine where all christained catholic and my husband isnt catholic.we had no problem and we werent married eithier and all it cost us was a donation.
you need to do what you want because in the end your the mother and you have the right to say how and what way you choose to bring your child up.
i wont go in to my beliefs(not a fanatic lol)but if you want to christain your child catholic speak to your husband tell him what your plans are you can always have a naming ceromny and do the chrisaining later
good luck i hope it all works out
luv stace

Hi Dannii : )

Just be carful! My fiancee and i went for an interview with a catholic priest in regards to having our son christened when he was 5 or 6 months old. All was going well until the priest asked us when we had gotten married! we told him that we had planned our engagement for our 2 year anniversary but had found out that we were expecting 3 weeks prior to our anniversary and now wanted to wait until our son was old enough to walk down the isle with us. we were then lectured about not being married and asked what kind of people were we to have a child out of wedlock, how can we bring up a child to be catholic when we do not follow god's way of life and that there was no excuse not to be married, we should of gotten married the second we found out that we were pregnant, it not like we didnt have time as we obviously had time to be doing "OTHER THINGS"  and its redicoulious that that we wanted our son to walk down the isle with us, as thats not what a marrige is, a wedding isnt a marrige according to him so having our son , friends and family there wasnt important at all.i ended up walking out on the priest when he started to yell and point his finger at us! he then followed me out of the church preaching at me! Thats when i had enough and screamed at him to get away from me and to not say another word!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I know not all priests are like this, my sister wasnt married when her daughter was born and then christened and thier priest was lovely, i guess we just got an old old old old fashioned one!

Sooooo many of the old priests do not understand that these days it doesnt happen the so called "right" way for everyone.

Just be careful, unless you already have a family church that you are wanting to have bub's christened at, when you first make contact with the priest in regards to having bubba christened, let him know the details, i only say this to save you from what we had to go thru.

Donna

1. i know i can get the baby christened in a catholic church because my cousins kids have been done there and my cousin isnt married.i think im just gonna do it this way and if my partners family dont like it then stiffio shittio lol...the baby is in my stomache,im going to care for it,love it,and do everything else for it. my partners family understand englih where as my family dnt undrstand macedonian, so im not gonna have my family sit in a church and not know whats going on.

 

have a naming day instead and add your cathlic belifs and hubby's orthidox beliefs as well. My BIL's wife had a pagan cerimony for their 2 kids and I had a christian dedication for my son..

Ok i have been in this position! You right you have to make a desion b4 your baby comes. This r the things i asked my self: Whos family goes to church all the time? Which religion will accept a unmarried couple with child? I will answer that and that is orthodox... Catholic dont believe in children b4 marriage. Either do orthodox but they will do the cermony without any question where catholic will more than likey make you do classes or make you go to church as a family for a few months first and some will just not do it.  So i decided to go orthodox as my partners family where more the church going people. I understand that you wont understand it and that was my next point to him mean partner. So i rang the archbishop of the orthodox church and asked for a list of my local churches with english speaking priests. I was lucky my husbands local church was engish speaking. The whole ceromony was done in english bare 5% which was mostly the singing ect.

I dont know if this will help you but that was my experience. Dont sweetie please make your choice b4 baby come bec it does create friction in the family and in your relationship.

Good luck sweetie let me know how you go.

L.A

As far as I know you can't get the baby christened as a catholic because you aren't married & both parents have to be catholic as well. The catholic church looks down on unmarried mothers, didn't you know that it's a sin to sleep with someone out of marriage! lol what a joke! My son's father is

Dannii, you know what you both should do???
go grab out a notebook and pen and together write down the PRO's and CON's of each religion...
I find it funny though, that neither of you even go to church on a regular basis, his family needs to back off about it because they dont go to church unless there is a real need to... (weddings funerals and christenings) so really 'they' cant say much...
so really what you should be thinking of is an 'alternative' route for now... let the baby decide when he or she is older??? maybe it might think that neither religion appeal to him or her???
only the two of you can decide what to do (come to some agreement), dont let others put it over you and ignore their judgements, they should get over it... if not, then its their bad luck, they need to get with the times.

xx channy

to be honest hun, i think the best thing to do is just have a naming day ceremony....
When your child is old enough, let it choose the religion path he or she wishes to go down..... this will save many arguments with the families and will make things easier on you in the long run.
Religion is only a small thing compared to the joy of being a parent.... Just go with the flow - for no matter what religion your child is - he or she will be loved by the lord!
Hope this helps a little!
Cheers