Re: please give me some advice!
You maybe have to take a look at recent events in your life. Ask yourself, when did this change occur? Were things "normal" before" the baby? If so, it could just be the addition of a baby that he is trying to adjust to. It is a big lifestyle change for both of you and perhaps he feels added pressure now. Another thing is that maybe he feels left out because you are spending alot of time with the baby and that used to be time you would spend with him. I had a similar problem after my third child was born and my husband finally told me that I didn't include him. Sure he spent time with the baby but I was always "correcting" what he was doing and never really giving him a chance to be more involved than just playing with the baby. He felt he was not doing anything right. So with that I adjusted how I was and learned to "share". I am not saying this is the issue for your husband but it was some of the problem for me and my husband. We had fallen into a routine, one that was lifeless because we were on an auto pilot sort of mode and had all but forgotten ourselves. Take time out, have someone watch the baby for you so that you and your husband can go out on a date to the movies or dinner. Try to incorporate things you did before you had a baby. That is the best I can help with as this is what ultimately worked for us. If you feel the argument will become heated, take a time out and go wash your face or go walk so you can regroup, this will also give him time to cool down. The arguments, if loud enough, can affect the baby. And children pick up on tensions/stress very quickly. I hope you find a solution and I wish you the best.
Sincerely,
Aaliyah
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