You poor thing! It sounds as if you have reached the end of your tether! A screaming, cranky, tired toddler will do that, especially when you are exhausted yourself! There is some great advice from others. Have you tried giving her Neurofen instead of Panadol? It can help a little more with ear pain as it has a more antinflamitory action . It takes quite a long time for an infected ear to stop being painful. It may be that when she is lying down, it is hurting more. I agree, another trip to the Doctor is probably worth it. Try to make sure she doesn't get water in it - a problem when the easiest way to cool down is in the water! Have you thought about a "window rattler" aircon instead of a split They are much easier to instal-you can do it yourselves or get a handyman in to help - no electrician needed! We did this for Katie's room in the last house we were in as we had buckley's and none of getting a split put in and it was stinking hot!!! The upstairs part of the house where the bedrooms were was putrid - we often had weeks of 40+ days. Maybe instead of telling her to have a sleep during the day,  get her to have a "rest " on the couch with a movie on and a nice cold bottle of milk- Katie wouldn't do it if I said she had to have a sleep - but 90% of the time would fall asleep when having a "rest" in the airconed lounge room. ( I would then drag out a mattress and crash myself!) When toddlers are in pain AND overtired, the clinginess often hits all time highs- it is enought o drive the most patient person insane!!! The more you fight it, the worse it gets. Some days it feels like all you are doing is cuddling them and stepping on eggshells, but the alternative of  a screaming whinging, clinging toddler is worth it to keep your sanity slighty more intact! The suggesytion of trying to get someone - a friend or family member- to give you a break, even for an hour or so, is an excellent one- it is amazing how much better you feel after some time-out. Good luck I am thinking of you and KNOW exactly what you are going through......remember, it too will pass...and then they find another lovely way to torture you in the form of tantrum chucking, discovering that they too can have an attitude, the word no is great to use for everything and ...etc... etc.... All part of the road they go along to learn to become their own little person! There are also lots of wonderful things along the way , the sweet kisses, the cuddles, the whispered "I love you SOOOO much my Mummy" which is why we love them so much!It makes the bumps along the way easier to cope with.Good luck!

When my kids were little we lived in a fibro hotbox I would wet a sheet and hang it dripping over the screen doors that way any breeze that came through would be cooler.

My kids slept in minimal clothing and I also gave my kids wet face washers to place on their heads to keep them cool.

You little one has been unwell and is likely to be out of routine, I would make sure she had panadol as well as he medication to ensure she is not in residual pain. Have you considered Dimetapp yes its for cold but it also has a drying effect and sedative and at night it may be enough to settle her down.

During the day I agree with something cool dont forget jelly (jello for our American friends) and canned fruit chilled. Water melon pieces so many seedless types and ofcourse grapes.

It is possible that her ear isnt completey healed and yes I know you are frustrated with your Dr but you may need to get that checked.

Have patience we are all hot and grumpy and you are no different to most mums, remember you are doing a great job and this will all pass.

Best wishes!

Oh poor you and poor Dakota. You both sound exhausted, big hugs. I dont know how old your bub is, but suspect she is around 2yrs? If so it sounds like a) she has or is suffering pain. b) the terrible two insecurities. Ear pain can be on going even with anti-biotics, so she may still be sore. Sorry but I think I would risk another annoying trip to the Doc. Pain and two's in my experience lead to extreme behaviour and can drive parents to the edge. However it will not last forever, promise. I think if it was me I would deal with this one step at a time. I would get an appointment for the Docs. I would then Phone family or close friends and ask them to help,could they take Dakota for a couple of hours or even a day to give you time to catch up on sleep and some breathing space. When she is very clingy, just stop what you are doing and sit with her and cuddle each other, to reassure you both. This can be never ending cycle. She feels your frustration, is tired and possibly sore, so needs reasurrance, you need space, are exhausted and get frustrated, she feels the frustration and needs reassurance, so on and so forth. Please get help from family and friends if you can. The heat is probably not helping either of you, as I live in a cooler part of the world I'm sorry I have no tips. I hope you can get a little support. Wishing you well, parenting is a rollercoaster of extremes it realy tests our emotions, and is one of the hardest jobs in the world at times. Be proud of yourselves and try to take small steps, one after the other. 

Thinking of you, Winnie.xx