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alisonm
alisonm | January 2008

Third Grader Can't Get Homework Done

How do you get a smart kid interested in completing their work? My daughter is very bright but dawdles in class and at home. She isn't very organized and doesn't seem to see the point in just getting the homework over with and complete. It's become a total battleground. I have tried letting her listed to music - which helps her focus; timers; consequences and nothing seems to help. I suspect she needs help organizing and prioritizing and also wants to hang out with us. Suggestions?

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Arna
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2008 | Arna
Re: Third Grader Can't Get Homework Done
You should try and set up a homework station for her that only she is allowed to use.  There are some really good quality, cheap computer desks out there (I know, we've just bought 2 here) and they are functional and reasonably attractive.  Get her to decorate it and have her pens etc set up how she likes.  I would also be sitting down with her, not helping unless she needs it, but working on something yourself like letters or writing a story or doing your Minti blog (if you blog at all).  Make that time your homework time too and let her see you getting some work done (even if you are having fun),  Having an example to follow will mean she will be better with her work.

A rewards chart just for homework might help too.


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Ngairi
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2008 | Ngairi
Re: Third Grader Can't Get Homework Done

At this age you really should be sitting with her to do her homework. It is usually not until about Year 5 that they can really be expected to sit and work on their own at home. This way you will also be able to tell if she is having difficulty with the actual understanding of the work, or just easily distracted or bored, or just plain lazy. Yes there are children who are lazy with their school work no matter how bright they are.

If it is an understanding issue, talk with the teacher and implement some learning strategies.
If it is distraction or boredom, talk with the teacher about possibly more challenging work, or possibly make homework over a few nights and shorten the length of time you are working together. You don't have to sit for 1 hour and do homework even tho it is easier to just get it done. You may have to have 3 x 20 min sessions.
If it is laziness, find an interesting way to engage her or be really strict on doing homework.

If it is completely out of control see the teacher about having no homework.



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      alisonm
5.00 (Excellent) | February 2008 | alisonm
Re: Third Grader Can't Get Homework Done

hi,

I agree. I think she wants to spend time with me and the rest of the family. Homework seems unfair. Basically, now, I sit with her and do things like pay bills and tedious things I have to do. I have explained to her the reason why there's homework - to really make sure you know how to do something - and that sometimes we all have to do stuff we don't want to do. That's life!

-Alison



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      Ngairi
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2008 | Ngairi
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The other suggestion is to have a list on the wall of after school timetable. I have done this with all of my kids. It starts from 4pm after they get home and have had afternoon tea. For Connor (Starting Yr 2): Reading, writing, math, depending on what he might have to do. The older ones: whatever subject they have that day they have to do 1/2 to 1 hour of an afternoon for each subject. (They only have 4 per day)


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RadicalB
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2008 | RadicalB
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Most kids hate homework and if the homework is not challenging then there seems (to the child) no purpose to it. The trick is to find a purpose.

The easiest way to get it done is to just sit down with her and turn everything into a challenge. If she is doing spelling for example, turn the word into a sentence and make the sentence relevant to her - btw - she creates the sentence not you - this also helps to stimulate the imagination.

For arithmetic, the same = make it relevant to her day to day world - money is always a good vehicle for this - no dont pay her - a good example is fractions - if she was allowed to spend 1/4 of her allowance - how much

Just try to make it relevant to her day to day life - I know it is time consuming for you but in the long run it will save you time - for her, the learning experience is much more valuable.

les


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      alisonm
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2008 | alisonm
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les -
thank you for your reply. I think your suggestions are right on - she needs to be engaged and doesn't see the point in work just for the sake of work. I am going to try this tonight.


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tdv
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2008 | tdv
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Hi,

Have you spoken to her class teacher?  Maybe the homework is too easy therefore so boring for your daughter that she can't see the point of it.  Kids should gain something out of doing homework and not just do it because it needs to be done.

At this age I would not be using consequences as homework maybe something relatively new to her and is something that does require time and time mangement.  If i were you I would use a reward system rather than consequences.  if consequences are used then homework is going to be viewed as something negative when in fact it can be fun and a great way for the two of you to discuss what is being done at school. 

Some kids have a naturally short attention span so if you think your daughter does break her homework times up (break in between) therefore she is not starring at a book, or writing, reading etc for long periods of time. 

I think it is great that she wants to hang out with the family.  I am a teacher and a firm believer of minimal homework (only think kids should be reading, spelling and tasks around the home which is a huge learning experience), however sometimes as teachers we have no choice but to set it as that is what the school requires you to do.  Why not make up a checklist together of the things that she needs to get completed.  if those things are completed or you feel she has given it all she has got (even if she didn't complete it) then maybe she can choose something to do with the family ie play a game, go for a walk, go to the park, etc

I wish you the best of luck!

Tania 



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      angieh
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2008 | angieh
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I agree with tdv's answer. It's possible that your child finds the work too easy and loses interest in the homework even though she knows she has to do it. This may also be the reason why she dawdles in class, because the class/teaching isn't moving as fast as she learns or absorbs it so it just bores her.

If this is the case, would you consider moving her up a class, testing her for giftedness, and/or moving her to a school for the gifted?

Alternatively it could just be a short attention span issue...


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lillkatheryn
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2008 | lillkatheryn
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Hmmm, my neice has this problem, sort of.  She has horrible grammer and writting skills and does not like to read.  She constantly watches tv so that is her big intrest.  I have tried to talk to my SIL about it cause she wants me to help as I am the only one in the family with excellent English grammer.  They are spanish speaking...Anyway, something to think about is if she is having a hard time understanding the material.  Does the teacher take the time to go over it slowly or is it quick and then onto the next thing?  Also, do you sit down with her and try to explain it in different ways?  Some children learn better by seeing it, others by acting it out, others by physical demonstration...tactile.  Also, does she do the hardest things first or the easiet thing first?  If she does math, lets say, first and it's hard for her, she may get frustrated, and then not want to do the rest.  Also, does she come straight home just to do home work, or is she allowed to take a break?  I can give you a more indepth idea if you wish, just mintimail me as there can be many reasons as to why it's a struggle...A big thing though is to ask her why she finds it so unpleasing...It could be something as simple as not understanding it fully, to not maybe being able to see the board and then not understanding what the teachers says since she can't read what is done on the board...But please minti mail me if you wish to discuss this more and I can do my best to help you.



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      alisonm
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2008 | alisonm
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Thanks for your reply. The biggest thing is that I am not sure I can answer your question so I think I need to get more informed about what's going on. Once I get some answers - I will email you for more ideas! thanks!


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mom2jedd
5.00 (Excellent) | January 2008 | mom2jedd
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To help her with the "timing" of getting  thins done. You can talk with her and explain how long the particular HW assingment should take and what the consequences willbe if whe takes too long, and then set the timer. That way she can have a guideline to go by and it should hlep. Some kids do better with set boundaries for HW time. You can also give her a reward for getting done within the time frame given.


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August 13th | EmpoweringParents
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