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shhmumstheword
shhmumstheword | January 23rd

whats your opinion!!!

Ok I've had this topic running round in my head since I watched "loose women" earlier in the week 4 women that chat frankly about various topics...

They were having a discussion on...

Sould a couple stay together for the sake of the kids?

My gut reaction was nooo!

ps blogging full story bit long for q n a but I wondered what your gut reaction was?

 



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Frogie
January 23rd | Frogie
Re: whats your opinion!!!

I'd say no... I did say no.... I walked away from unhappy marrage and life.... If you are not happy in life then it reflects on children.... They become unhappy.... and thats the last thing we want for our children.

 



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toosh
5.00 (Excellent) | January 23rd | toosh
Re: whats your opinion!!!

Absolutely not, it will have a worse affect on your kids in the end! I have experienced being a child in that situation myself & also seen other children in that situation & it's not nice.



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shhmumstheword
5.00 (Excellent) | January 23rd | shhmumstheword
Re: whats your opinion!!!

they seemed to think yes if...

you cld get along still have a family life tk part in outings etc but still i think your nt being true to yourself dont you deserve to find some one else i think no matter how much you try to hide it the kids would tell if you were unhappy

hugs jo xxx



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germy111274
5.00 (Excellent) | January 23rd | germy111274
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Why stay together for the sake of the children, when growing up in a home where no one is happy can really screw the children up. Who knows what kind of damage you would do to them. It's better off that you split so that the two of you can go on and be happy and spread that happiness to the child(ren) though it will be hard on everyone at first, I can't see how in the long run staying together could benefit them at all. Maybe you would succeed in showing them how to fight and argue, and how to live without the love of a partner.



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Fairiesandfloss
5.00 (Excellent) | January 23rd | Fairiesandfloss
Re: whats your opinion!!!

Definitely not!

I was in a relationship for almost 3 years and called it quits last year.

I knew I deserved better and it was unfair for my daughter to see us argue all the time. I could never do anything right in his eyes and he was just frankly a prick.

I'm a lot happier now and although the little one doesn't see her dad as much as I'd like her to she is still a happy little vegemite.



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mariamum
5.00 (Excellent) | January 23rd | mariamum
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That is what my mum and dad did for us.  Living with them was a nightmare (it would not have bothered me if they had divorced)  but funny enough now we've grown up and they have grown old they don't fight so much anymore maybe they have realised that all they have is each other.



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lillkatheryn
5.00 (Excellent) | January 23rd | lillkatheryn
Re: whats your opinion!!!

I dont' think so... My friends parents did that for a long time and it was just horrible everytime I would go over there....You could feel the tension...



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whome
5.00 (Excellent) | January 23rd | whome
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I dont think parents should stay together for the kids, it just causes friction between the two, and its more damageing a child seeing their parents at each others throats, they can be just as happy apart and sharing the parenting through the week that way the child still gets to see both parents, but thats my oppinion



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luckyone
5.00 (Excellent) | January 23rd | luckyone
Re: whats your opinion!!!

No its not good staying together for the sake of the kids ,But  everyone has theres reason for doing it .



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emmie
5.00 (Excellent) | January 23rd | emmie
Re: whats your opinion!!!

hmmmm , its a hard one hun it really depends on the cicumstances and why it is best for the kids that they stay together i would understand those that are either

putting theirself in harm by leaving

puttinng kids at harm by leaving

in an abusive situation

otherwise i would say they should not stay together for the sake of the kids

LAuv Emz xxx



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nell18-3
5.00 (Excellent) | January 23rd | nell18-3
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I stayed for a long time because I thought it was best for the children

How wrong was I !!!!!!!!



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MissKelly
5.00 (Excellent) | January 23rd | MissKelly
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Have a best friend who he and his wife did that. It was NOT pretty to watch because the love was gone and they pretty much had no interest in each other. But they did it for the one daughter they had. I guess they felt it worked for them. Everyone constantly asked them why keep going on together? They did for the child. The daughter seemed fine and everyone seems better off devorced now and girl in college.

They seem to be a rare case. Most of the couples we have seen that needed to get a divorce should have for sake of the whole family!



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