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Debz
Debz | February 9th

wits end

hi,i have a soon to be 16 year old son,who has a bad attitude,has no respect for me,talks rudely to me or at me,wants to do as he pleases,he ran off for 29hours last week, i worried myself to death,im at the end of rope ,he wont get a job,he does go to school,wont help around the house,i have 2 jobs to make ends meet, is anyone having same problems,im close to saying get out,which will break my heart,any advice or support welcome.



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janicepovey
February 10th | janicepovey
Re: wits end

Angie has put up some advice articles, which i'm sure will help. My thougths are with you,16 is a difficult age, for both child & parent. It seems to be a age where they know all and parents know nothing.....and you can get to a point where you feel like pulling your hair out.

I myself went through a bad stage with my son, around 16.....but i had to stand my ground as  he got caught up, with a bad couple of kids ( i could see it, but of course he couldn't) I didn't yell, that such makes things worse but i stood my ground as far as he seeing these boys, to the point of grounding him. He thanked me a couple of years later as these 2 boys ended up in jail. But every child is different, and somehow you have to find a  common ground that you both can be civil to each other  & try to talk him as a friend other than a parent.

I hope things work out for you & your son.

Cheers Janice



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angieh
February 10th | angieh
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I've added some advice in the 'Related Content' section under your Q&A. Hopefully that'll help. When in doubt, feel free to look it up in our treasure trove of advice.



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ohmygodimamum
3.00 (Average) | February 10th | ohmygodimamum
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Kick him out or at least threaten to, if you let him walk all over you he'll never learn to respect you.   But as reassurance, probably about 80% of teenagers are like that most grow out of it.  But if he's running off all the time he obviuosly thinks he is mature enough to live on his own, tell him he has a month to find somewhere else to live and find a job or he's out on his bum, tell him you'd be happy to assist him but he needs to do it himself. Dont lend him money, you work too hard for him to be wasting it. He needs to learn the value.  It would be hard to kick him out, but no matter what age he is it will always be upsetting to see them go.

Sorry if that seemed harsh, i hope things start looking up for you.



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emmysmum
5.00 (Excellent) | February 9th | emmysmum
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please minti mail member kellzacar or tadexpress for some marvellous advice! they are both extremely helpful when it comes to these situations!
I think though that this is something that alot of teenagers do, so its typical behaviour.

My advice is to let him hit rock bottom and then he will see how silly he has been (HOPEFULLY) and will start to change his life around for the better. Just be their to help him pick up all the broken pieces when he finally does hit rock bottom!

Good Luck!



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