Hi, my daughter is now 18 months and starting with her eye teeth. I to had tried everything I could when she first started teething then went to a local alternative Pharmacy they gave me some Marshmallow roots for her to chew on, and some drops which were an absolute savior in fact I get the adult version for my herniated back disc.  It helped not only with teething but with some of the more nasty teething symptoms. Gone with the sore bot. Please feel free to email me and I can give you all the details. You may be able to get them near where you live.

It sounds to me like you have a very independant baby there, that wants to be the boss.  Jumping to her demands isn't helping the situation, infact, if you keep it up, you are going to have a child on your hands that is going to expect to get what they want when they want from everyone.

Try ignoring the behaviours, walking away if you have to and not coming back until she has stopped having a tantrum.  She starts again, then you leave again.

I would be getting additional advice from your local Child Health Services as they have most of the information to give you and can refer you to specialists if needed.

Other than that, you poor thing, I know how hard those tanties are, and we often have all 4 of ours going at once.

My 11 month old son, is also teething. He has seven teeth so far and the eighth is starting to cut through. He wakes at least twice a night, I have to rock him to sleep and even then there isn't any guarantee he will stay asleep. He bites, scratches, pulls his hair out, bashes his head on the ground, cries when a stranger looks at him, and if anyone but me picks him up he can get a little hysterical. I also have tried everything, painkillers, teethers, homeopathy... My two eldest breezed through teething so this has all come as a bit of a shock. But from what I have seen and heard it is quite normal. So I am taking it as it comes and as long as he is reassured that I am there and not going anywhere then I think all should be well. As long as when the teeth are all finally through his behaviour improves! Hang in there... there are others suffering!

HOLY. WOW that's rough. I feel for you. All you want is peace. Why can' t we all just get along is what you scream in your head...or maybe out loud. I have learned some things through reading, observing and some action with my daughter so here goes:

She is testing you BIG TIME. Your job...show her who's the Mom and who has control (hint: you) How? Through your facial expressions, your words and YOUR FIRM actions.

Be firm and stay firm. Rules are rules. If you take her out and she acts up, it's back to the car and back home. Let her know you'll use your strength to get her in that car seat if you have to, because you love her. Let her cry. You're not abusing her...you are teaching her how your world works.

This scratching and biting crap needs to stop. Oh hell no. As soon as she attempts grabbing roughly or scratching, you need to swiftly grab her hands right back and firmly say "NO. WE DON'T DO THAT."  PERIOD...end of story If she does it again, you keep at it and you show her with your face how unhappy that is making you. She'll keep doing it untill she cries and even again while she cries...be relentless like she is until she gives in (sorry but ya gotta do it)THEN don't go and give her a hug or a reward, because to me that is too close to rewarding a bad thing...she'll just do it again to ultimately get the reward. I wouldn't give her anything once she refrains....that's just a regular behavior that is expected in the house. Rewards are for good things - just like some one said on here.

I learned personally that the art of distraction helped me the most. When she wants to do something bad, like let's say she grabs a pen and she can't have that. I would run quickly to her like I'm about to come and swoop her up and spin her (which I will) but in my grabbing her I quickly scream out loud some fun noise and shazam...the pen is out of her hand...then I spin her. For the second I have her in a spin I throw the pen quickly to a place where I can get to as soon as I'm done spinning and playing. I set her down and pull out a drawer with blocks or something she hasn't done for a while and she'll immediatly have a go. She would have forgotten about the pen by that point. There are other things you can do, just try to think of what you can do that will interest her and change her thoughts about what she's pissing about at the moment.

I taught my daughter how to take a deep breath..that helps her calm down a bit

Angry high shrill noises..mute that immediately. Nip it in the bud. Don't allow a second of that or she'll just extend the length each time for your attention. She needs to learn to be patient.

She won't go to sleep unless she's rocked? I'd challenge that belief. Unless she's superhuman, she'll put up a fight, but her little body will wear out and she'll be pooped. You'll have to break some bad habits (it's funny, we do these things because we adore and love them, and who knew they would lead to little monsters?)

Eating food: Don't feel bad about the food issue...usually at 12 months lots of toddlers are fussy...their taste buds are forming and evolving and their digestive system is chanching so things will slow down and things will act up...as long as she's getting her milk and eating something, even a few bites, she'll live - lol...plus know that it will change and she'll eat again.

Since you know you have a little grunt on your hands, try being more of a drill instructor and have zero tolerance on things that you know are not acceptable in your household. If you hold your ground, she'll eventually give in.

If none of these words help you and none of the advice you read helps...my last ditch effort is to ask you to look into a child psychologist...just for some comfort. I read your comment about her whacking her face, gnashing her teeth and having a horrible tantrum...so if nothing is working and your gut tells you it's something else, maybe you can ask around and see what a therapist would assume (this is ONLY my LAST resort if your pediatrician is not offering any solutions and it's not changed at all for the better.) I'll put your little daughter in my prayers tonight. Good luck!

12 month old kids do what works for them... Obviously she is getting the desired results from her behaviour - so she continues to do it.

You know how long she cries for - because you give in to end it.

Place extra emphasis on every tiny little thing she does that is good... Really go overboard, give her a massive hug a treat - even ring someone and talk about how good she is (or pretend).

When she throws a tantrum, screams or bites - walk away.  That sort of behaviour is unacceptable, and she will learn that, it may take a week or two, but the effort you put in now will save you a lot of headaches.

Each time you give in, you will need to be firm about ten times more to teach her how to behave... So don't give in, it may seem easier, but as you can see, it doesn't work.

Welcome to toddler emotions!  This is very normal and it's only going to get more frequent as they learn how to test you and their boundries.  But don't fear, it will pass..For I have had to employ several techniques for my girl.  Depending on the situation.  She is able to understand simple commands and over the next few months that comprehension will expand rapidly.  One thing to try is the counting to 3.  If she is getting into something tell her no, then say 1, wait, then count to 2 and when you get to three, either give her a timeout for a few moments, no more then a minute or you can remove her from the area, or vice versa.  With the biting and other actions, of course tell her no we don't do that and you can get up and leave the room, or remove her from the room, maybe a playpin you can use to let her calm down.  The key for me that worked is no eye contact and no talking to my girl until she came to me calmly.  It's hard, you'll get past it.  Also, if she is going to day care when you go to work, talk to them about tips and tricks...Good luck!!