I hope you are ok!

Please do not be ashamed...we have all been there to some extent;but you have said, "I am in need of some help", and that is sometimes the hardest thing to say. The fact that you are aware that your feelings are not normal and that you want help is very positive. I don't know how much help you need but why don't you just start with a cuddle from your hubby and maybe a couple of hours away from the house to clear your head?

Sometimes when we are in the middle of all the madness, it's hard to see the wood for the trees...

Take care of yourself, and if you want to chat, minti mail me...I promise you won't always feel like this!! XXXXXXX

oh honey i feel for you. you need to tell your partner. also a female that you are close to mother sister or a friend you can trust. why i say that you need to confide in a female also is that no matter how understanding hubby is only a female knows about our hormones and period etc.

have you recently had a baby? its very common to get post natal depression. but even if your children are older you can still get depression.  are you depressed all the time? or are you finding the week leading up to your period is worse?

money problems can be a burden. if you have a mortgage and you are struggling you need to try to find ways of alleviating it. i have written some advice on mortgage. if you are renting you need to try (if your in australia) community support groups

they will help not only with advice about finances but even your health like depression

there are special womens groups. you dont have to go as a group. it is a one on one and in these groups they are usually working in the profession that usually put some time aside each week to do voluntary work

try to learn techniques to relax and block out problems for 15minutes  to recharge the batteries. i only recently wrote an article of advice last night on "energy and you"

but remember this technique is only meant to "recharge the batteries" if like it sounds that you are past that stage and into "depression " you need to seek professional help"

but above all you must tell your partner.

you cant do it alone

remember we are all hear to help

even if you just want to say hi

cheers annie

Please go to see your doctor, make an appointment with a doctor you feel comfortable with and just tell them how you are feeling don't be afraid to cry and if you feel that you won't be able to voice how you are feeling then write it down before you go and just hand it to the doctor (I can't take credit for this advice as it was someone else that suggested this to me and therefore helped me to get help for post natal depression) make sure that you leave baby with someone you trust and ask your husband/partner to go with you but to wait in the waiting room while you go in then the doctor can explain to them how you are feeling and how this is a very common. Please remember that PND doesn't make you a bad mother and that there is alot of help and support out there for you, if you ever need to talk then please message me.

I know how you feel, with my last pregnancy i felt like this...it can seem like the end of the world but it's not and i too had very little patience with my kids.  There are some great replies below, i tried another approach to.  If you are interested mail me.

Cheers Julie

Hi, I know exactly how you feel. Ihad twins 9 years ago and it was the hardest time of my life. My childrens' dad had very little to do with my boys at all. I tried to tell him how hard I found 'motherhood' and he really wasn't interested,we consequently split up. On my own with 2 screaming babies put me in total despair. I felt such anger and frustration when the boys cried-nearly always at the same time! I used to have to put them in their cots and shut the door and scream. I would then go downstairs and put music on and have a quick cuppa then after 5 mins or so go back to them a little more relaxed. I did have to take anti-depressants for a while and my health visitor was fantastic. Please don't be ashamed in finding your role as a mum difficult-everybody needs help at sometime. Please talk to your partner and tell him and get as much help as you can from your doctor and health visitor ,there is light at the end of the tunnel but when you feel so low and desperate it feels  like things will never change. I hope you feel better soon and try not to worry so much about money- children need love and cuddles not pounds and pence. Good luck .

my heart goes out to you, its the hardest thing in the world to deal with, please dont hate your self of feel bad. your doing the best you can. i think you really should call a midwife or doctor and get some advice. if u wanna chat id b happy to share my experience on this with u privately.

much love xoxoxoxoxoxoxox

Hi it definately sounds like post natal depression to me but my best advice is go and see your doctor they are very good at knowing how to spot depression and treating it.  I will give you an idea of how I felt when I was at my lowest:

Couldn't love my child saw looking after him as just a chore.

Hated myself and felt like I was of no use to anyone.

Unable to be positive about anything constant negative thoughts all the time.

Felt like the whole world was against me and felt I couldn't protect my family.

There is probably a lot more and I did keep a diary but I can't read it anymore because I really don't want to remember.   I am ok now so don't give up hope there is always an answer so please go and see your doctor as soon as you can and don't leave it to the last minute like I did.   If you ever want to chat please email me, take care love Maria xxxx

It does sound like post natal depression.  You need to talk to your partner about how you are feeling and also talk to your doctor.

Keep a diary of your feelings and moods, it will help to map what is going on with you.  Your son waking that often could be just him wanting a feed that often, but is hard to know without knowing the age of your little man.

Remember, you are not alone in this, many mums go through it, and there is a lot of help and support out there for you.  Worrying about money isn't good either, maybe time to sit down and do budget.  Hard part is sticking to it.

Hi,

I know exactly what you're going through. When my first child was born I spent the first 10 weeks hybernating in the house. I would not take him anywhere unless he had to go for his check ups and I would wait until my husband got home from work and go down the street to grab the mail or get milk and bread  on my own. I did not talk to anyone about how I was feeling and it near destroyed me. I felt ashamed, embarrassed, alone and I thought I was all alone. I finally spoke to the community nurse and she suggested to start attending the local mothers group. I was so scared to, but I got the courage up and went. From that day there was no stopping me. It help me 100% + , I realised that I was not alone and others were feeling exactly the same as I was and for all sorts of reasons to.

With my second child whom is only 6 weeks old , I started to get depressed. I had so much going on in my life and still have. For example: He was born 4 weeks early, my sister in law was having an affair with our builder, we had to get rid of the builder to support my brother in his time of need, the house is still incomplete and we're living with my mother at the moment and we have no idea when work will resume on the house, the very day I came home from hospital my beloved cat that I had the plessure of having for 9 years died, and the builder keeps harrassing us for his last payment. This has all happened within 2 weeks. Because I had depression with my first I was aware that I could probably go down that track again. So as soon as I started to feel I was going down hill I spoke up. I spoke to my husband, the community nurse, certain mothers at mothers group and I swear it is doing me the world of good. It is helping me to stay on top of things and just knowing that I am not alone feels great. As for not being able to handle your babies scream, I hear you. I went through that and so did my husband ( he actually moved into the spare bedroom for a couple of nights ) and we still have our moments but I think as time goes on you will learn to handle it. There were times and still is where I would loose my paience and same as you I wouldn't hurt him, but I couldn't be 100% sure so I spoke to appropriate people and if I find I need time out from the children I get my husband to help with them ( get them out of my hair for awhile ). So maybe if you can talk to people that you are comfortable with and your partner and get him to take the baby for awhile, you should find that you will start to feel better ( hopefully ) We are more tolerent of his screams and crying now. It will get better. That is what I keep saying and I believe it will. It is just like a waiting game. No one knows when it will get easier but you will find that one day you will wake up and you will think thank goodness.

I hope my rambling has helped .It has helped me just writing this down. Good luck and please go and talk to someone and get it out in the open and off your chest, and just remember it will get better. Just hang in there and you will find out for yourself.

firstly talk to you partner as he might be able to help. secondly make an app with your doc and see them.

this is a very strong thing and one day you can feel fine and the next in ruines.

if you want someone to talk who has been there i am still struggling with it. i have writen my story about my son alex as advice on here if you want to read that. feel free to minti mail me.

but you definately need to talk to someone about it.

Hugs Liz

First of all hun, DO NOT BE ASHAMED of how your feeling. Now, this could be the start of depression, good on you for realising that! but it might not either, it could be just normal worries. i would take a trip to your midwife or dr and talk to them. Dont be afraid to, leave it un treated and it will get worse. It took a suicide attempt for me to realize i desperately needed help, before that i was to ashamed and embarrassed i might need some help.

Talk to your partner, he should understand and help you. Minti mail me if you want hun, i know what your going through,

Best fo luck, and see your doc xxxxx

depression is an illness that affects the way a person sleeps, acts, and feels.  Having a baby is hard enough without the daily struggle called life.  You dont need to feel ashamed most people in family situations can develop  a form of depression or a previous form can revisit due ton new pressures

lack of money is common and stressfull for most families but remember the best thing you can give bubs is your love. hug him lots !  and crying releases pressure so let it out!

maybe you should speak to your partner as maybe a shared promblem could become a lesser one

or life line in australia theyre listed in the phone book / google it here

if your in another country maybe another member can help here

whatever u do u need to talk to someone for the burden you are carrying is too great

rue

if you want you can email me xxxshar

you must tell your partener please he can share what your going through,,how lonely you must feel, i was once like this but life can get better,, you need someone you can trust to talk to so they can help youxxxshar