Personally i would just leave her to it when kylie was younger she is much better now but she had a fear of using public toilets also she wentthrough a stage when she would just simply hold it in on purpose . But she is fine now but she does say the toilets at school arecold and smell lmao

Luv Emz xx

I would love to know the answer to this question. Miss Cheeky Chops (3 1/2) will not use the toilet anywhere - even home.

She can go all day 7:30am till 5:30 without going to the toilet. She has amazing bladder control.

She goes to preschool, daycare and other peolpes homes, she has lots of exposure to toilets and toileting situations. She loves wearing knickers, but waits for me to put on a nappy. Grr.

i wouldn't worry about it.  She is still young and may not feel comfortable going to the loo around strangers.

My son does the same thing.  If we are out somewhere, he will say "take me home, I need to go to the toilet".  I have just told him in the past that I can't do that, that I woudl come with him or he could wait until he gets home (which can be a long wait).  Mostly he is alright now and will go, but only if he really has to - most times he will just hang on until he gets home.  That includes preschool, where I think he is just too busy to think of it and only goes if it gets painful.  I wish I could hang on as long as he does..... 

I think not making a big deal of it, but reassuring that it is Ok to go when you're not at home would work in the long term, but it depends why she doesn't want to - if it is fear of everyone watching, or what I don't know.  I guess if you could work that out it would help solve it.

We had a little girl who was like that last year, she didn't like the idea of going to the toilet where everyone could see her. We would try and take her on her own when the bathroom was empty.....sometimes that would work, sometimes it wouldn't. She eventually got past the fear.......Just don't push her too much as her fear may get worse. If she needs to go badly enough she will. She must have a very strong bladder, which seriously isn't a bad thing.

Amanda xxx