my darling son is almost 3 weeks old and on bottles due to me not being able to feed him. At about 1.5 weeks old he was drinking the equivalent to what a one month old should be drinking because for the short amount of time i breast fed him (probably about 2 days) he got pretty hungry due to his frustration and so he had to have twice the recommended amount to satisfy him.
Often my son chews on his fists shortly after a feed because he has wind.... could this also be an issue for your son - that he has wind in his bowels or something and needs help in disposing of it.
Honestly, all babies are different and will be ready for solids at different stages than other babies - and thats regardless of whether they are  breast or bottle fed.

Try just starting with one solid meal a day but introduce the new things of a morning so that if he is allergic to something you will be awake to catch his reaction and get him to the hospital.

Alternatively, you could try increasing the amount of formula he has and see if that makes a difference.

Hope this helps you a bit!

I started feeding Francis solids at four months, started out one cereal meal a day, then slowly introduced other stuff...   I am sure if you  look around the advice section you will find what you might be looking for..

As for the marriage... I would forget about the looking like a drama queen.. Step up to the plate and bat. It really needs to be talked about or it will just fester until you blow up and then there maybe no saving it. If you don't mention it he may just think that you don't really want to do it.  He may very well just be a man and is actually having a joke, but not realize that this joke is hurting you...  Men do that, some times they don't realize what they are saying and need to be told...  But the only way you are going to find out is if you talk about it..

Good luck..