hey there

i know how ur feeling im going through the same my self at the min.my girl 3 past in jan was of the dummy since last sept. she has a brother thats 14mths and he never took 1 but her baby sis was born in dec and has a dummy now my 3yr old keeps stealing hers and running of wit it.

i have tried everything 2 keep her away from it but 2 no avail. i am constantly sterilizing the baby's dummy as 3yr old keeps pulling it out of baby's mouth sucking it and sticking it back in the baby's mouth again. my 3yr old had sore throat last week and im just after taking baby 2 docs she now has sore throat and its affected her feeding so im a bit cross wit myself 4 not trying 2 nip it in the bud earlier....oh the joy's 

Thanx everyone for the replies!  I will try all of these suggestions. I dont understand why she all of a sudden wanted a dummy since she never used one in early life, have come up with maybe she saw the kids at daycare have! Regardless its not going to happen, thanks to you all.

Hugs Tee

I wouldn't be giving it to her at all Tee. I guess I have been lucky with dummies though as Jack only had one to sleep & gave it up himself at 11 months & Oscar never liked them so didn't have one (well they gave him one at the hospital when he was born & he used it ocassionally until he was 2 months as he would just spit it out anyway). Starting the habit now would be harder for you to get her to stop it so I would put my foot down & stick to my guns & say no.

Teshia xxoo

hell no I wouldn't. But thats me

ditch it now or have issues with manipulation for who knows how long! kids, esp. girls, are reeeeeaaaaaalllllyyyyyy smart with stuff like this and get the whole united we stand, divided we fall idea and frequently try it on parents. she is testing you and your hubby. you can win this battle of wits!!!!!! I is cheering for ya!!!!! LOL! good luck! ::)'s

Our oldest 3 were all dependant on the dummy.  Thankfully, they gave it up pretty easily, along with bottles and day time sleeps.  We did have  a couple of nights of tears and tantrums but found after about a week, that they were dummy free!  They ditched the dummy etc at about 18months, though #3 was not much older than 1!

Don't give in.  She will cry herself to sleep in the end.  It is a case of you have to be cruel (to yourself) to be kind (to your wallet and your sanity).  Just think of it like this, you get them vaccinated because it is good for them, but you hate doing it because they cry.  Same should apply here.

skye has only been off of hers for four weeks now and she was three a week ago,i found she was old enough to get attached she was old enough to be told that if she wanted to carry on like a baby we would put her back in nappies and i would not allow her to walk outside and she would have to go back to babbies food not her beloved treats like chocs or crisps she was mortified!!! ha ha i always promised i would not be a bribing parent but sometimes we have no other option, if she is any thing like sjkye she will a determined little girl that will look at you with puppy dog eyes and know how to push your buttons she was so attached to hers she would scream if it was out of sight for more than a second.... Daddy was exactly like your partner anything for a quite life while we picjk up the pieces and then get moaned at for not doing it quick enough...... She will cry she will say she wants to be a baby and needs this but its just a replacement for the bottle as they are normally used with children as pacifiers more than dummies sometimes hence the bite marks,,,,,,,

hope it goes well and by the way it only took two full days of screaming and crying for it to pass. She never had it so she will prob forget just as quick throw it in the bin so you both arent tempted...

sheila.xxxx

Tell her daddy that he will have to pay tons of money for Braces because all the sucking on the dummy may push her teeth out front...  If you know what I mean... :)

That might stop daddy from giving in. Then you may just have to wait it out and not give in yourself..

Good luck.

We haven't gotten there with DS yet but my sister's DD was seriously attached to her pacifier. They started weaning by only giving it at naps and bedtime NONE during the day. They eventually took it away at naps and only gave it for bedtime. Then they went cold turkey. Boy was it a rough  month for them....they made it though. Good Luck!!!!!!!

Yes i agree with what Dannii has said. Get the new stuffed animal or something of her choosing. I told my girl that the birdies are gonna take it to santa for a baby who needs it now your a big girl....maybe say something  like that. It worked for me. Stick to your guns on this one, she'll get over it in a couple of days.

I wouldn't give in to her about the dummy - I had a terrible time with Miss Cheeky Chops when she had to give hers up. If you are interested here is what I did:

www.minti.com/members/michellei/blog/182801/Am-I-a-bad-Mum-Update/

members/michellei/blog/182682/Fairy-Gift/

I do agree with Danii that prehaps a toy or stuffed animal would be a better choice. I gave Miss Cheeky Chops some stickers and some bubble mix.

Also your daughter should be the one to put the dummy in the outside bin, so there is no chance of getting it back.

Hope this helps some

Take care,

Michelle

Hi Tee,

Seems to me like you and Katherine are having your first serious battle of the wills . . . what you do here will probably set the scene for the next time she really wants something . .

Katherine will be watching your every move here. If you give in even just the slightest she will be triumphant! . . So I guess this really depends on what it is you want . . Personally I'd stick to my guns and say NO . .  you may get a few more nights of crying and little sleep BUT in the end she will learn that nagging and crying doesn't get her anywhere . .

Good luck honey . . Cheers Kellz

Hey,

One of my neices went through this stage when she found an old dummy and thats all it is a stage and i think it can be easily fixed.

Maybe try getting her a new toy she can take to bed..Let her know the dummy is yuck and needs to be thrown out and instead she can take something else to comfort her to bed..if you let her pick somethng new out she will be happy about the change, and also let her throw the dummy out, she will feel good to do it herslef.

I hope this helps.

Dannii xxo

sorry i would stick to my guns and say no!. in my opinion 3 is the age to give it up. both my kids did about 3.