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Mkesling612
Mkesling612 | March 2008

Getting Pregnant

 

When I was 16, I had abortion because I was too young to be a mom and to take care of a child. My husband and I got married in 2007 and we have tried to have a child, we have prayed and have done everything right, but still we can't get pregnant..We are worried about the abortion thing, but my doctor said i was fine afterwards, does anyone know what we should do.?



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MotherofJWE
April 2nd | MotherofJWE
Re: Getting Pregnant

You may need to reconcile yourself first with God.  When you pray, have you asked for God's forgiveness for the abortion? 



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Arna
March 2008 | Arna
Re: Getting Pregnant

Ok, you should get checked out by your doctor because there are some complications that could have occurred that weren't picked up on.

The other thing is, you need to think about your subconciuosness.  Is  there something there that could be preventing you from getting pregnant.  Did you really deal with the issues that come with having an abortion or did you just 'get over it' and carry on?  If you did that, then you need to really think and 'grieve' for the child you lost.

I think that you were very brave to have an abortion, and just hope that you weren't forced into it.

Good luck, and try to relax.  If there is no physical reason for you not getting pregnant, then it will happen in time.



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mom2jedd
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | mom2jedd
Re: Getting Pregnant

How long have you tried??? In earnest that is????LOL We took 6 long years to concieve. We had 2 miscarriges before carrying to term. I know the hardest thing to be told is"don't worry about it" I grew to hate hearing it.....A dr. will normally look into infertility after 6 months to 1 year of trying with no success.

With me I did not ovulate. They can also do a dye test (forgot the name it's been awhile) to see it there is any blockages in the tubes. Which would make it hard or impossible to concieve. The dye  test is painful though, don't listen to the tech who will tell you it's not, there are lying....

I did one round of Clomid to stimulte ovulation. It was unsucessful. We eventually gave up and was content just being DH and myself with no babies, I had many nieces and nephew to love on.

I should have know a LONG time ago that I would have a hard time concieve as all through school my period were VERY far apart, like 45-60 days. I was always told, before my current GYN that if that was normal for me than it was normal. Well, it's not. It's a true sign you body is not ovluating.

I was actully not having a true "period" all those years. My body was actually confused, believe it or not. IF your body goes too long without ovulation the uterus will realize that the hormones have not been released and will shed it's entire linning to start over agian. So I was just sheddig my lining, not having a period. Weird right.

In the end I did get preggers. Naturally BTW......There is hope. Good Luck.

As a side note......

I also believe that I was not ovluting due to my weigth while we were trying to concieve. As I got heavier my periods became farther apart. Weight plays a row in fertility as well. I concieved after working out, eating right and dropping a whopping 80 lbs.!!!!



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loopylisa
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | loopylisa
Re: Getting Pregnant

Try to relax. If you are stressed all of the time and focusing 100% on concieving the less likely you are to do so.I hope everything works out for you and you'll soon be telling us you're expecting a bub!!!



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makaztam
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | makaztam
Re: Getting Pregnant

RElax it will happen when the time is right.  There is nothing wrong with you and you did nothing wrong.  You were young when you had an abortion.  Less stress will help



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princesskc88
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | princesskc88
Re: Getting Pregnant

hey i was in a similar situation to u, we tryed for a yr and a half many let downs along the way we gave up last year early november as i decided na maybe it really isnt the rite time etc as i was planning a big new yrs part etc the ppl i lived with including my partner started to notice the my tummy was changing really fast etc by now its the 12th of december so i took a hpt came back positive then i still didnt believe it lol so 3-4days later i got another 1 omg it was even darker.. went to the dr's he booked me a appoinment at the hospital etc went for the ultrasound found out im havin twins there in 2 seperate sacs and eggs so 2 yrs of tryin lol i got it all in 1 hahahaha these 2 babies of mine are so special already me and my partner lost a best friend in october she gave birth to her son and a few days later she died i really believe its a her gift but 2 omg lol smart ass hehehe and also i believe wat ppl say now if u r tryin it wont happen etc



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cathbusymum
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | cathbusymum
Re: Getting Pregnant

 Yes, i agree with what has been writen....stress can have a big effect. After checking with the doctor, just have fun for a while with no expections. Many women have fallen pregnant this way. Good luck.



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Libby24
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | Libby24
Re: Getting Pregnant

i am assuming your still young. dont stress so much or try so hard. i am also assumin as you said your hubby and you pray that u are religious. as i have learnt from my life, god will bless you when the time is right. i had a freind who had been trying for 5 years and it wasnt till they sorted their life out and finaces that they were blessed. now #3 is on the way



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      Frogie
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | Frogie
Re: Getting Pregnant

my cousin and her husband tried for years and had stoped trying, and was preparing for IVF.... all set ready to go, just waiting on the next cycle so they could start IVF..... No period, Dr said, just out of chance we will do a preg test to rule that out..... and behold.... she had concieved naturally, then went on to having a second preg with twins....

the to had trust in God.... and he blessed them when the time was right....

so i have to agree with you....



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avanliamsmum
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | avanliamsmum
Re: Getting Pregnant

Hi, I was wondering how long you have both been trying? If its been 12+ months I think its time for a doctor to check things out. I'm so sorry to hear of your problems falling pregnant, it must be so hard on you both. Try not to worry about the abortion too much, a lot of women get them and then fall pregnant later on without any problems related to it. I would seriously recommend a chat with your doctor. Good luck



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Frogie
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | Frogie
Re: Getting Pregnant

sorry to hear you are having a hard time trying for you own little precious one....

just some words of encourgement, i had a termination at a young age for those very same reasons, and i have successfully had three beautiful girls....

Good Luck.... hope your prayers are answered soon....

PS.... just a hint, that i have heard from friends of mine that had trouble..... Don't try so hard.... when they had given up (realy wrong words but....) should i say when they stop making it a chore to have a baby, things just seem to happen..... can't say it happens with everyone..... but just food for thought....

Cheers



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      alishas-mummy
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | alishas-mummy
Re: Getting Pregnant

beautiful response :)

xox



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           Frogie
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | Frogie
Re: Getting Pregnant

Thank You



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