I feel for you, I really do.  We have the same probs here with ours and not getting any where.  Has anything changed in the house over the last few weeks?  Are you having another baby?  Have you moved?  Any changes to routine etc?

Are there any physical issues with sight or hearing?  Children who suffer from diminished hearing can kick up the biggest stink over the slightest thing. 

mine is this age and has had somewhat of a similar change in behavior.  For us it was due to the end of the nap.  So I have really noticed that toward late afternoon and early evening, he is tired and easily frustrated.  It has gotten a little better since I have instituted the "quiet time" in his room.  He doesn't have to sleep but he does have to relax.  This seems to have helped us a bit.  Good luck and hang in there.  I'm sure your daughter is just going through a stage.  It sounds like you are a great mom.

Just a thought....... Has she had any different foods lately???? My girl reacts to lactose and certain preservatives! I also agree with others advice

Best of luck

Flossy XXX

i totally agree with mrs sanders here. try the whole time out and stickers thing. set boundaries ect...

my daughter was an angel and he turned. not to this extent but it was and still is very testing at times.

feel free to minti mail me and we can chat about this more.

Good Luck and Take care

Liz

Oh Dear Sheila, you do sound so down. Poor you, your instinct is probably right, that it is more than just the terrible two's or three's. Can I ask a few questions and give hypothetical answers. Your little one sounds like bright spark and this can cause the terrible three's to be explosive, as a friend of mine found out, due to frusrations. The first thing I ask is do you go to her when she is in a tantrum? Is it because you get too close to her that she is able to bite and kick or does she get up and come at you? If you go to her, then you are empowering her, giving her attention, she may see that as a positive and it allowes her freedom to escalate the tantrum. If that is the case, then I find walking away, but within sight, and calmly telling her that when she is quiet and calm you will come back and talk to her. Does not matter if you are in a shop, just walk to the end of the isle.

It sounds also like she is a little unsure of her boundry markers now that she is a little older, can you tell when a tantrum is about to escalate at home? Can you dive in before she hits the floor, pick her up and take her straight to the naughty corner before she has time to let rip. If she wont sit on the step,stool or whatever you use, you may think about giving time out in a safe room, where you can hold the door till she is ready to talk. A lot of adivice say's give time out for the age of the child, but some children are very strong willed and need time out till the tantrum subsides, and calm is setting in.If a child is still in tantrum mode after 3mins, then they are not yet ready to listen. We cannot communicate with kid's who are not in listening mode.

A combination of time out zone and sticker chart may work, but you would have to be rigid about the give and take. My friend took to taking all toy's away that were thrown and putting them on the naughty shelf, her little boy got them back through earning stickers for good behaviour throughout the day.

I also see that you are in UK, if you go to your health visitor she will be able to put you in touch with her local behaviour Psychologist. They are great for helping out when children are setting their own boundries and can help you both to work out a set of boundries that suit both your natures.

I am sorry if this is not very helpfull, but please dont suffer in silence, the NHS is there to be used, make the most of it if you can, you help pay for it,hun. Thinking of you.

Best wishes, I hope you find some answers soon. Luv,Winnie.xxxxx