well its hard to juggle kids life hub and yourself. If you cant talk to him try writting it down and handing him the letter. Have some one on one time to. even some time to yourself

I have been there and said those types of things.  I agree it is mental for women, but some of what you feel you can control.  It is soooo hard when the kids are young, but seriously, stick at it and the rewards will pay off ten fold. 

My kids are now 3 & 5 and hubby and I are the best we have ever been.  On a totally different tangent, we have been heaps better since the vacsectomy, as I am no longer on the pill, making my hormone levels more natural, and I am no longer worried about pregnancy.  Maybe that is something you can look forward to, maybe not.

Anyway, I really wish you the best, and wanted to let you know that even good relationships go though the hard times.

Jodi

firstly dont worry about going anon... i proberly would of if i was having this prob too.

sadly and honestly chicki i feel you have lost your self esteem. alot of mums do. its cause we loose our identity of the person we are and we give everything up to be wife mother cook cleaner medic councilor ect......

personally i would go and see someone about this before you do something that in time u might regret. there are councilours now that bulk bill with medicare ( if u are in australia).

if u can i would get bubs watched overnight if possible and have a chat, dinner ect with hubby. he needs to know that his actions are not right ( and btw him having sex isnt romantic for him. from what i get from guys they dont care about romance.) tell him u need foreplay and i dont mean begging. tell him your selfesteeme is crashing and he needs to do this for u. ( i had this problem and hubby realised i wasnt lying he complied and its alot better now)

You are not alone many women find themselves in the same boat as yourself having said that you need to take stock of yourself. You are a good person who is feeling negelected and that doesnt help in the love making department it only adds resentment to an already boiling situation.

You are quite right for women making love is mostly mental however I am sensing that its the last thing you want to think about because of your workload at present. Is it possible for you to get hubby to help a bit to ease the load...maybe put bubs to bed while you have a long bath.

You need to take some "me" time because you need to nuture yourself as well as your family.

I would also recommend The Five Love Languages which will help sort out how your hubby can help you feel loved and cherished and vice versa, its around $20 and well worth the read.

Is it possible to have someone look after bubs while you go on a date? often we forget that we're a couple first and parents second and when these roles are in reverse all sorts of problems occur.

You can work through this rough patch if you both make the effort.