I am sorry but no man should call another girl babe...

Love ok... I call my friends, male and female, hunni. But I would never call another man baby or babe and if my other half did it I would not be happy!

you should always feel secure, in your relationship, and if you dont then you need to ask questions. You are not just being insecure for no reason. Think to yourself, does he call EVERYBODY love or babe? if not why is he calling this girl love or babe? You have every right for yourself and your children to ask questions. If he gets right defensive about it, good chances are something is happening. If nothing is happening and he doesnt call anybody else love or babe he should understand why you would have these thoughts in your head, and should not get upset at all.. I would say, yes for sure ask questions, and definitely if not for you, do it for your children

hey there chin up!!

i have been there and u must confront him why should he get away with it??? would he let u????

i let it build 4 so long i thought my head would explode, i had 2 kids by him and was preg with 3rd when i found my partner texting  sex numbers and getting sent pics which made me feel so hurt and wortless as i felt i looked like a beached whale.i just couldn't understand as i assumed our sex life was fine even though i was preg it wasn't as if 2 say he wasn't getting his needs satisfied.

he tried 2 palm me of saying"they got his num randomly" and that it was "a bit of fun" i was so angry and hurt that i was even threating 2 leave.

id say that was round the time i starded 2 develope pnd and it got worse after i had the baby, i told him 2 carry on doing wat he was doing if he though it was the right thing but 4 him 2 reverse the roles and see how he would feel. i could tell by his face he didn't like the thought of that. 

have it out with him even though u may not like the answer but ask urself this,which is better the knowing or the not knowing???? 

I'd be inclined to say it depends on his personality. Some people just call everyone honey, babe, love, etc. Some people have particular pet names for specific paople only, and others only ever use a pet name for the one special person in their life.

I know my fella has a tendancy to call just about all of his female friends by little names like that (Mony can testify to that, he's called her love and dear a ton of times), but it doesn't actually mean anything. He calls me honey or babe, which is a bit more unique to me, but not totally confined to me.

He could be just responding in kind to the way she talks to him too. Lots of women call everyone pet names and it can be kinda contageous. He might not even realise he's doing it. Or you could have a problem.

Best thing to do is just flatly ask him whats the deal with it, but in doing so, assume nothing. If he gets upset and defensive about your question, that might be a sign something is amiss. If he answers like its no big deal, then chances are its no big deal. At least thats what I've learned from experience.

If you think thats a worry, my bf hasn't bothered up-dating his facebook or myspace accounts. He's still single and interested in dating if you go by the info there. But he's just being a slacker about it. LOL

Trust is very important in a relationship.  I know what it is like to find surprising emails,  while the ones I found were not the same as you have found, they were pretty upsetting and I really had a hard time dealing with it.  Talk to him about it.  Communication is the key in any relationship and if he feels that he is being left out (men do feel this way sometimes) then you need to deal with that.

From a guys perspective.

Sometimes if I read a sad article on minti I will offer advice and at the end might put a little XO but this is just to let the person know that someone is thinking about them. On rare occaisions I would use the word love to let them know.

As for such strong words like LOVE and Babe, well I do think that they should have a more intimate nature most of the time.

As the others have said, the only way to find out is to ask. The consequences may not be nice but so might they be if you don't do something.

Stay calm, stay strong and above all try and be very adult about it because the kids don't want to see any arguements.

Robert

Hi there,

           Trust is paramount within any relationship and if you feel that you are loosing trust in someone then sometimes it's best to confront the issue. I know that fear plays an important part when confronting this kind of thing  head on i.e will they think I'm being irrational?? Will they love me less?? What if I'm wrong?? or What if I'm right? Unfortunately, if you don't tackle this one it may fester into more irrational thoughts and so on. It may be innocent it may not but when and if you ask him about it be calm!!! Don't go at it like a bull at a gate. Ask the questions you need answered and take it from there.

As for not being enough, try not to be so harsh on yourself. You need the facts first. It's really not a matter of not beig enough but him being enough for you. You come first in this and don't you ever forget it!!!

Keep as calm as you can and remember that no matter what you are important, you are enough and you are beautiful. Thinking of you always and here whenever you need,

fi xoxo

I feel for you, hun. I'd confront him, show him the emails. I wouldn't keep a guy around who is carrying on like that. I know it will hurt but you deserve better than that. I'd also send an email to the girl telling her she's talking to a married man - she might not know. A lot of men (& women, too, of course) lie over the net.

All the best, hun. My heart is with you.

It sounds awefully suss to me and I think you need to confront him. I'm sorry, but you will continue to feel terrible until you know the truth. Even if it turns out to be something you dont really want to hear, at least you will have the option to make an informed decision about what you want to do from here.

Cass xx