Oh wow...two lucky you. I mean that in a positive way. I have a few friends with twins..one with same age gap as what you will have. It will be hard work but so worth it.

Actually saying that...i have two boys..just over 17 months diff. It actually is not as hard as first time around. I think as i expected the worst..it was not /has not been that bad.

I felt sad for my first.  It seems he has grown up so fast. He so far has been lovely. I get him to sit next to me while feeding. He gets the burp cloth for me etc. If i change the babies nappy i then make a fuss of my first.He only has been a bit funny when other people make a fuss of the baby...i get them to focus on my older one too.

Are you able to get help to cover you for the first 6 weeks or so? Do you have family close by? If anyone offers you help...jump at it.  By having books your 16 month old has not seen before or toys...let her play with it when you are feeding. I get my son to sit with me while i feed and he watches tv..i rub his legs or just have a hand on him...so far all ok. I give him what attention i can.

Best of luck. Enjoy it all. I would love to have twins. I see my friends twins and they have such a bond.

We have always prepped our kids for the new arrivals.  Actually, our oldest was there when her younger sister was born, in the labour ward and it was just so special!  She was very well behaved and a big help to me.

Any way, you could get some baby dolls etc and show your daughter how to look after a baby.  Ours are sooooo into that too.

I like the other suggestions of getting her to be Mummy's Little Helper.  Trust me, you are going to need all the helping hands you can get with twins! lol.

Get the oldest one involved. Let her throw away the diapers adn get you a new one.  My son is a HUGE mommy's boy and  when I brought home the new baby I ws very worried, but I let him help as much as I can and it seens to be working out ok. When you have to sit and hold the new baby and feed it or somethign have a hidden stach of snacks like peanuts or what ever your oldest likes and so she can sit and munch while the baby is being fead. I hope this helps...

You need to prepare her. Tell her there is 2 babies in mummys tummy. Buy her a baby doll, a lifelike one, and show her how to be gentle treat it as if it is a baby. Let her talk to your tummy, say hello to her brothers or sisters, touch it when they kick, kiss it and all of that stuff.

There is 14 months between my boys and I just did all of that stuff and he loved his brother! He was also a mummys boy but I had no problems with him.

It helps too if you get her to help you when they come. Ask her to fetch the bib or get mummy a nappy or hold the wipes. Feed one a bottle and get the baby it's dummy. If you let her help she is less likely to get jealous as she will feel she is a special helper and is included.

There is 17 1/2 months between my 2 boys. I always told the oldest that there was a baby in my tummy & let him look & touch it. I also showed him the ultrasound pictures & he actually came with us to the ultrasounds (not that he really understood). He did understand that there was a baby in my tummy but not really that it would come out I don't think. I got a gift for the baby to give the older child when he came to see us in hospital & mum took him shopping to get a little teddy for the baby on the way to the hospital & kept telling him he had a little baby brother & got him really excited about it. I still think it didn't hit him until he got there & saw the baby in the bassinet, but I also made sure I wasn't holding the baby when he first got there & slowly got him used to the baby then held them together. They exchanged gifts & it worked wonders, we never had any trouble with him. I also had someone at home with me for the first 4-5 weeks as I had a c-section & I think this was a great distraction for him to get used to the baby too. I have also heard of people getting baby dolls for the older child so they have their own baby while mum is holding the new baby - may be harder with 2 though! Good luck hunni!

My first 2 were 13 months apart. And like Izzy I used to tell the older one that there was a bub in my tummy. He didn't understand all the time but sometimes he would ask me about my baby.

Maybe show her the ultrasound if you have one, or if not show her pictures of what is happening inside you. Let her ask you questions etc. I never went with a doll, but my mum bought one for me when they got my sister. I was 4 at the time. Apparently it helped. Give her little jobs to do in the baby's room. Like help you stack nappies into a nappy stacker, getting all the lotions etc in an orderly pile.

This will give her some ownership to the babies as well. Give her a job that will be hers and hers alone for when the babies come along.

Hope this helps just a little.

my son had just turned 2 when the girls are born, so quite a bit older than yours. But what I have done is to tell him that there are 2 babies in mommy's belly. He got so used to them that he actually would kiss 2 spots on my belly. :-)  Then a few months before the girls were born, we left the stroller around the house. It gave us the opportunity to tell him that these are for the babies. Then I got him 2 baby dolls and toy stroller - which he then pushed around the house with the babies in them. Then he would suddenly stop, throwing the toy dolls off. It used to worry me that he would do that with the twins! LOL

much luck to you!