Is he your boss?  If not, then tell your boss that this is happening.  Believe it or not, what your co-worker is doing is illegal.  It is a form of workplace sexual harrassment.

The pig has no right to make you stop, especially as he only works with you.  Keep feeding your daughter for as long as you are happy too.  It's what you want that counts.

Like I said, might be time to take this to your boss.  If your boss is not prepared to deal with it, then the workplace ombudsman will!

Out of curiosity.  How does he still know your breastfeeding?

I really don't think you should try and justify what your doing.  Tell him to mind his own business and if he insists on discussing it get up and walk away.  I also think you need to discuss this with your manager so he/she knows that at times (if appropriate i.e not effecting production or customers) that you will if he asks just get up and stop the conversation.

He is 56 during the time his wife had children the push was not to breastfeed.  There was also a push not to spoil children and that is where I think the idea of letting her cry comes into his thinking.  Your not going to change that so arguing and gathering literature is just a waist of your time.

People like him are one of my pet hates but I think you will find people unable to breastfeed get a lot more guilt placed on them by the concerned others then women who breastfeed do

I agree with the others. This is like a weird twist on sexual harassment except that it isn't sexual. Talk to your boss about it and if you get no satisfaction there, keep going up the ranks the same way you would with a sexual harassment case. Sure, you might have to deal with him on a daily basis, but it won't get better if you let it go on, and the repercussions of getting to the top of it by using the proper grievance procedure won't be any worse. If anything it could end up better when he realises you won't tolerate any BS from him.

This man is WAY out of line! It is none of his business what you do with your child. Feel very proud that you are providing her with the best start in life! As others have mentioned, it is recommended by the World Health Organisation that babies are breastfed until they are at least 2 years of age. I would tell him next time he makes a comment that you find his comments offensive and if he continues, you will have no choice but to speak to his superiors about his behaviour. If he burrs up and continues ( as most bullies do) I would speak to his superior about his continued harrassment. This is what it is. His comments are way out of line and very discriminatory. You have rights as an employee and as a mother. He is infringing on and abusing your rights. Don't feel bad about reporting him. If you do not stand up for yourself and your daughter, he will continue to be a bully. Yes, you have to work with him, but you do NOT have to put up with his behaviour! If you don't act now, once you do finish breastfeeding, when YOU and your daughter decide it is time, he will then find something else to pick on, it is not what you are doing, just that he enjoys being obnoxious and he knows that he is making you uncomfortable. Bullies find a target and then make that persons life a misery with snide comments and constant harrasment - even if it is quite subtle, once you stand up to them, they either move onto another target or move out!!! ( Now wouldn't that make your workplace a better place to be!!!)

Good luck and be brave, stand up for your rights and you will be rid of this man's attitude forever!

You should definately keep breastfeeding if that's what you want to do. It's no-ones business and I would say something to your boss. He can't get away with making you or anyone else feel uncomfortable. no-one has the right to say the things he's been saying.

Amanda xxx

Are you serious?  Tell this guy to pull his head in.  It is absolutely none of his business and in no way should he be making you feel bad about your choices.  I agree with one of the comments, you should tell your boss it certainly is a form of bullying especially if it is making you upset or uncomfortable.

You do what is best for you and tell him to Shut his head as my sister would say.

Firstly, you breastfeed your daughter as long as you want to.  Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.  It is no one's business.

Secondly, I would complain to your boss.  He is totally out of line.  What he is doing is harrassment and you shouldn't put up with it.  Even if this guy is superiour to you (in the work sense of the word), complain to whomever is higher up than him. 

Thirdly, he is a man, what the hell would he know about what is best for your daughter?  The World Health Organization recommends breastfeeding at least until the age of 2.  Tell me, who would you rather believe?

Seriously, You stand up for yourself and your daughter.  This man needs to keep his archaic opinions to himself. 

Best of luck to you.  If you haven't already, join this group.

It is your choice and your child's choice to feed. No one else's. It must be frustrating for you. This man is inconsiderate of your parental choices and that is very unfair.

If you want to wean you should do it your way. I don't think crying for you is fair on your lil one. With my eldest I had to wean her off me for a couple weeks - ie. had others hold her so the temptation wasn't there for her.

Next time to shut him up just say "No actually I am donating to women who can't now. And what business is it of yours anyway.. You are just jealous...

For starters, this man sounds like a moron!

I think that you should confront him, and i would do it in front of all of your other co-workers like he does to you. I would ask him why it offends him so much that you breastfeed. It isn't like he sees it. What business of it is his anyway. I would also ask him why he feels the need to know such a personal part of your life on a daily basis. Maybe you could get a few co-workers to back you up too, perhaps a few women who breastfed their babies.

You need to address the situation, it is a form of harrassment what he is doing to you, and you shouldn't be made to feel like this in your workplace. Especially considering it has NOTHING to do with how you do your work or how you behave at work.

If this fails, talk to the boss. Express your concerns to him/her and tell them that you wont put up with it any more. There are legal rights for breastfeeding women now, and i am sure there are avenues you could take if your boss wont talk to him.

I hope you can sort it out. No woman should be made to feel uncomfortable about what is one of the most natural things in the world to do!

Cass xx

wow that's really bad. good on you for sticking to your guns and continuing to breast feed regardless of your coworker.

my ex partner's grandfather made me feel so uncomfortable breastfeeding in front of him that I had to do it in the study so noone else had to be disgusted by it, and they just made me feel really uncomfortable and it played on my mind MASSIVELY. As a result I only lasted 3wks breastfeeding my kids, and i was really going out of my mind over it, so I put them on the bottle.

my advice to you is, please dont let him get to you. it is your god given right to feed your child, and nothing he says should change that. enjoy this special time for as long as you and ONLY you feel comfortable doing it.

OMG!!! Sod diplomacy I would have hit him long ago

What business is it of his?!?! The WHO still encourages breast feeding until the age of 2.. you do what you feel is best for you and your daughter.

I'm not sure how the law stands in Canada, but I know in the UK that his behaviour in the workplace could be deemed to be a form of sexual harassment. You could tell him this and if he still persists report his offensive behaviour! I used to work as a HR manager and would have no problem speaking to him about this!

Good luck!

Lorna

I would print as much pro breastfeeding articles from all different places. ABA, Minti, google it. Then also find something about workplace harassment. Then when he starts carrying on hand it all too him and tell him to go get his glasses and have a read.

He has no right to make you feel like that! You are doing what is best!!

I would probably throw in a comment saying "just cos ur mummy didn't give you booby no need to be jealous" LOL but thats just me!