you have some great advice here, this is how i found minti, control cryin for me was hard. I hate hearing her cry. She cried really loud too. but before i had to rock her relentlessly and my back was becoming really sore. I was at my wits end. The first time i tried it i was going back into the room to settle her to early and she knew i would come in the smart bugger. I chatted to Cassaustin via MSN to distract myself. it wont be easy and i have to addmit jade just doesnt lay yhere and go to sleep BUT she does go to sleep with me patting her bum lightly and me and my back can live with that. Best of luck you can minti me or msn if you need too.

Nicky

Hi, your daughter is old enough to try controlled crying. You need to be sure that it is something that you want to do because it can take up to about a month. If a child gets sick while you are teaching them then you need to stop and start when they get better.

When you put your daughter into bed make sure she is not hungry and she is not too hot/cold. Use a keyword like good night tuck her in and just leave the room. Let her cry for 5 minutes then if she hasn't settled go back in and use they key word again. Tuck her in and walk out. If she hasn't stopped after another 10 minutes go back in and do the same again. Keep doing it but don't leave her unattended for longer than 15 minutes if she is crying. If you can hear her settling down stay out for a little bit longer.

Don't make eye contact with her when you go in and please don't give in and get her up. It is one of the most stressful things i think you can do as a parent but hopefully it will work for you. It doesn't work for everyone and after a stressful 2 weeks with us we gave up because my son was just getting worse.

If all else fails talk to your health nurse, where i live we are lucky enough to have a sleep and settling class which only cost $10 to attend, they were fantastic with helping find something that worked for us.

Hopefully this helps you, I'm sure there is some advice written about this subject. Good luck and feel free to minti mail me if you need to know more.

Juzzy xxxx