I know were your coming from with my bro and sis both having girls id just assumed id be the same and here i am having my second boy, i rem the first time rd i felt a bit guilty for wanting a girl so much and thought perhaps i wouldnt bond with my son, but its true what they say you do, your just so proud to have this little bundle that you created nothing else matters, just rem your not missing out your child will make you laugh and cry just the same and wait for the personality to kick in that makes you laugh who knew babies had attitude...lol.

Hope you feel better about it soon and who knows you might get what you want in the future...

Hugs Jo xxx

I think it's completely normal to want a certain gender, it's part of getting excited and planning things, but once you hold your baby all thoughts just disappear.

With my first I desparately wanted a girl.....I had a boy......but once he arrived I didn't for one second think that all I wanted was a girl.

Amanda xxx

I was hoping my first was a boy, in fact I was convinced she was but when I looked at her I didn't care she was a girl, I just fell in love with her.

Hi there

My partner and i both wanted a girl when i was pregnant. We never found out what we were having. I did have a huge feeling that i was having a boy, but we wanted a girl.

When he was born and they said congratulations "it's a boy", honestly i was a little disappointed. But an hour later when i was feeding and holding my baby, i couldn't have cared less. As soon as i looked at him i was in love.

I wouldn't  trade my little man in for world.

i  have 4 girls, would love to have a boy, but know that because of my partners age and my miscarriage history (all boys) the odds are another girl.

It is normal to feel disappointment if you don't get what you want, and I could go into statistics, but boys and girls are just as precious as the other and should be celebrated.

You don't state if you have already had the baby, so hard to know if this is post natal depression or not.  If you are still cooking, then it could be Antenatal Depression, which is just as serious.

my situation was a little bit different. i feel pregnant unexpectedly on the pill, and my boyfriend at the time decided to desert me as he didn't want me to keep it and never wanted kids (things have improved since then though). anyhow i was hoping for a girl, as i didn't want to have a boy and have it remind me of him, especially if he looked like him (silly i know), when i went for the scan i wanted to know, as i hate not knowing things and i wanted to be prepared, you could DEFINITELY see it was a boy even before they told me, and i got really upset for about an hour, then after that i was fine. then i was actually glad to have a boy. as it is i actually see a lot of his dad in him lol. so i got exactly what i dind't want to begin with and i'm totally happy with it :D

Yes! When I was pregnant with my second baby everyone kept saying I was carrying like a girl and that because I had bad intergestion that it was a girl. Obviously in my own mind I knew that these weren't ways to know if you had a girl or boy but I got so excited at the thought of a little girl as I had a boy already, that when the first scan they said they weren't sure but it MIGHT be a girl, I got excited. Then when they said it was 90% a boy at the next one I was devistated. I cried! (hormones? Maybe LOL)

I just stopped thinking about how I wanted a girl and focused on buying boy things and picking out a boy name and other peoples excitement helped me get passed it also. Though it didn't help when people would ask and I would say it was a boy and they would say "Oh I bet you wanted a girl this time"

Just be happy that you have a baby, healthy or not, boy or girl, because there are so many couples who right now are crying and upset and stressed that they can't even have one

Recently this happened to me! I wasn't diasppointed because i had a healthy baby who was going to be coming in to a lovely home with a loving family - not having to have a worry in the world! For me, it was more of a shock as the man who performed the ultrasound at 19 weeks told us it was definately a girl - infact he told us about 5 times LOL.
I agree with practical princess - its alot healthier to focus on what you do have rather than what you don't have. Also as she said - take into consideration all the people out in the world who would give anything to have a baby - boy or girl!
Just focus on the positives rather than the negatives and be happy with what you've got!

The most important thing is that you have a beautiful, healthy baby, no matter what the gender. Just look into your little darling's face & I'm sure your disappointment will soon disappear! Also think of those who cannot have children at all - it helps make you thankful for what you have.

All the best xx

I didnt suffer from gender disappointment as such, more gender surprise, I was so sure she was going to be a boy!
I think that if you just sit back and relax and enjoy the baby inside you, or your darling newborn the disappointment will be gone in no time!

Hi,I have 4 children 3 boys and one girl order is boy, girl, boy,boy.I found out when I was pregnant with my last 2 the sex and was a bit dissapointed they were both boys would have loved another girl.I got over it very quickly and loved them just the same as long as they were healthy I really didnt care.

But if you didnt find out what you were having and had a baby of the opposite sex you wanted,I would be happy to have had a baby with so many couples that are not able to have children due to health reasons you are very lucky to have been able to conceive and carry a healthy baby.I hope I dont sound harsh but love  and cherish your baby what ever the sex is.A healthy baby is better then no baby at all.

                                                               Cham

My SIL was desperate to have a boy and she ended up with 3 girls. I think it is silly for someone to try for a certin sex. I am just happy i ended up with 2 healthy children. The sex of my children never worried me.

i am sorry to say no i havnt i am just happy if my baby is heathy not the gender . my hubby though did get a bit upset as he wanted a boy and we have two girls but now he doesnt care as they are into things he likes eg. football his model trains so he is happy .