If you work it out, let me know.

My parents have complained and carried on that they don't get to see their grand kids.  What gets me is they live only 2 hours away, go on regular weekend getaways and have the reliable car!  They never come to see us though, prefer to drive for longer!  Oh, but they are still saying they don't get to see enough of the girls and don't email or call!

I know how you feel.  I just live my life with my kids and try to remember to email them with updates!

Luckily for me my parents have always been very supportive of me. They are also very involved with my childrens lives even though we live half a country away. Qld, Melb. We Try to see each other every holiday break. Christmas, easter, School holidays ect...If there is a birthday or anniversery My Husband and i fly home or my parents Brothers will fly up here to QLD. We also email each other regularily and write and send pictures. We have a great long distance relationship and huge phone bill.

Have you tried reaching out instead of waiting for the grandparents to do it? I know it feels better if they do the reaching out, but you may just have to do it with yourself. Children can only benefit from having a lot of people love them.

My mother and I never really had a relationship (and she lives about a thousand miles away) and it never really bothered me. But after I had my first, I started reaching out to her... not for me but for my children. I never had a traditional family (mom & dad, siblings) but what I did have was a whole lot of people who loved me (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins) and it really gave me a happy childhood. So by keeping the distance between my mother and I, I am only limiting the number of people my can love my children.

So my suggestion is to keep providing opportunities for the grandparents to be involved. Invite them for a special dinner every once in a while. Call them and get your child to talk to them. ASk your child to draw the grandparents and send it in the mail - you might just get a thank you visit or thank you phone call.

my kids rarely see their grandparents too and we make a big deal about calling grandma and grandpa.  We have pictures up and we talk to the kids all the time about our parents.  I don't think you can change your parents with regards to how they treat your children but you can certainly try to nurture  your child's relationship or their view about grandma and grandpa.  I would try to remain positive and have the kids make pictures or send photos to their grandparents.  I think that maybe your parents are caught up with the day-to-day care of your sister's child.  I would definitely remain positive because your children will see if you aren't.  I imagine that is easier said than done though.  Good luck.