Hi! Well I can give you nt experiece with a trouble teenager. I am married for the secound time and my hubby had three children the youngest a girl 13 living with her Mum in Sydney. No she does not want to live there. short story:- came to live with me and mine at 13 dressed in black earings all up both ears nothing to wear but what she had on. This child was lost and hurting. I went out and bought her clothes and gave her all the love I could I fed her and watched her grow into a loverly young woman (although it was very hard ) I told her to write in a book of all the pain she feels then we sat down and tryed to work out the hurt and yes it worked it took time tho. Know she treats me like her bio mum 

Hope this helps your freind & feel free talk minti mail me. 

ciao Vicki      

It sounds as though the teenager has had a very disrupted childhood.  She has not had a stable home, with her parents seperated/ divorced, a new baby to another "father", who is no longer on the scene and then being sent off to her Father's as though she is being sent away.  She is then sleeping around....sounds to me like she is crying out for some love and attention.  She is at a vulnerable age and whether she realises it or not is seeking a "father" in the men/ boys she sleeps with.  Some good counselling would be required but also LOTS of love and quality time from both parents if they are willing.

couselling for everyone. This girl is hurting and feels like no one cares. Mum needs help too. Communication between the two has been lost and needs to be reastablished.

counselling in Australia can be organised for free. Community health centres or family centres can help to get this organised.

I have been through the exact same thing, feel free to minti mail me if you'd like to talk more.

sounds exactly like me when i was her age and its normal we have to all go through it with our little ones when they reach this age whats different is the extremities they go by i was naughty to the point that i didnt know whether i was coming or going and all this little girl needs is a cuddle she is for the most part doing it for attention. it sounds clicahe cant spell today but its true, she has felt nothing but neglect and although its hard for the family she needs stability she is a child nothing more and at the moment all she feels is unwanted you said her dad doesnt want her and her mum has said no to her coming back and this is not helping she needs to sat down and spoken to with strict guidelines even at her age she needs routine in fact deep down she craves it i guarentee you i still feel this way i talk to none of my family now due to my up bringing yes i was a pain even more then your friends but all i crave for deep down is a motherly cuddle and reassurance and this is how i fear she will grow up and that would be tragic to happen.

if you need any more help then mail me i hope it goes well and this poor little soul can be saved from the mistakes i have made in my life..xxxxx

Go to www.michaelcarr-gregg.com.au ... He is a leading pyshologist specialising in problems with teens. He has books out, one of which I have called 'The Princess Bitchface Syndrome'. Suggest to your friend she get his books, either at the library or buy them from book store (the one I have I got in Big W).

I have a friend who is 18. When she was younger she gave her family a lot of grief, doing similar things to your friend's daughter. One night her father had had enough. He packed a bag for her, put her in the car, & drove to the Juvenile Detention Centre, telling her that he was going to leave her there. It gave her a real fright & she was a lot better afterwards.

There is help available. Community Centres often have a family counsellor to talk to. I also noticed at a shopping centre near me they've opened some sort of family clinic for counselling etc so maybe you could see if there's anything like that near you. If she contacted her local communtiy centre they could probably tell her what is available, or even call DOCS, they would know what help is available.

Which reminds me of another friend. Her daughter was just like the one you describe. Her mother went to DOCS who arranged help. She had a counsellor who would come to the house & who would also take the girl for the day.

Hope she finds some help. All the best to her.

Attitude alert!  Wow!  I'm sorry, but your friends daughter sounds like one nasty girl!  Hhhhmmm, I think she is carrying on like this because of the break up in the family.

Counselling is probably going to be the only way to go with this one!

Tell her good luck from me!

With that kinda of attitude they need a shock of reality.  Like boot camp or a program that shows them what its like living like that and all that goes with it, ie jail, homelessness, or worse.  I hope that she can get some counseling as well as it sounds like she maybe having alot burried painful issues.  Good luck and I hope the best for your friend and her daughter.

I have teens and they know what their boundaries are and what their punishment will be if they cross those boundaries.

this young girl is obviously unhappy and she needs to know what is expected of her and what will happen if she doesnt do what is expected....I think she also needs someone to talk to that is neutral like the school counsellor or kidshelpline which is a free call in australia. 

Honestly keep in mind that children dont how to deal with emotions well so, the only emotion that can deal is anger. keep in mind that always something underneath. try getting mental help where the child feels confortable or try to find out what's really going on. good luck