I have a 3 year old too and as far the techniques for disciplining, it's continuously evolving. We've found things that work, but only works for a short time and so we have to come up with other techniques.

Time-out - we use time out for especially unacceptable behavior so it's not used too often. Hitting is a sure fire way to get into 3 minutes of time-out and most recently, today he told me, "I'm going to kill you!". He doesn't know what this means, it's just something he has heard, but it got him a time-out nonetheless. It's something that I don't want repeated at all.

As far as everyday disciplining, we use a count down either from 10, or 5, depending on the situation. Counting down usually gets him running to whatever he's supposed to be doing, so more often than not, we never get to 1.

Most recently, I've started giving warnings: warning 1, 2, and 3. We were grocery shopping one day and he wouldn't stop running away from me. I gave warnings and we actually reached the 3rd warning and off he went in the cart. He enjoys walking around instead of getting in the cart, so 3 minutes in the cart got him behaving and listening well afterwards. -- this can be modified to suit the situation of course.

Time out always works for me - we count to 3 (we rarely get past 2) and if we get to 3 it's the naughty spot! We explain why they are being put there & when it's time to come out of time out we make them say sorry for what they did to whoever it affected. At times when this doesn't work & they keep doing the same thing wrong we start taking favourite toys away until they stop, then when they have been good they got one toy back at a time.

I love the 1-2-3 with the timeout method.  You count and give them a chance to behave, if not then after 3 they get time out.  And I modify time out at times when my girl is really bad.  If she is screaming, then she stays unti she calms down, other wise she is there just for like 2mins.  I also take away things from her, like not going to the park for the day, or taking away a toy until she does what I ask or the next day.  Hope this helps!  I know what it's like, lol.

Hey Kenny what i used to do is sit them somewhere that is away from toys etc... nd i make them sit until they apoligise or even when you feel she may have learnt even just that once. I also make the child who has been naughty miss out on something special that we may be doing or even if you are shopping and she misbehaves do not buy her any surprises. Sticker reward charts are good as you may tell her that when she is naughty she gets no sticker and when she is good place a sticker even one with pictures on her chart, When she has received about 5 stickers in a row then buy her a special thing. For a 3 year old it is hard for them to understand most times what misbehaving means so time out for a three year old is usually about 3minutes. They do this as age appropriate eg 5 year old 5 minutes time out, 4 year old 4 minutes time out. This is hard if they make a scene about it but stick to your guns and do not give in. Hope this helps you and i hope you work it out.

Tell her Aunty shell will come to visit if she is a good girl. If she is good i promise i will visit you all.

Hugs Michelle

The naughty spot never worked for my boys. What I do is send then to their room and they have to sit on their bed and not touch a thing. Most of their toys are in the play room anyway.....once their time is up, they are to appologise to whomever they need to. This has always worked for me.......

Amanda xxxx

i know what u mean - nothing works my son is 3 and we use the toilet lol it sounds funny but when he is naughty we make him sit on the toilet(lid down ) and he has to stay there -he hates it lmao he screams but we havent used it in ages as he knows now not to carry on

other than that only what is already said , taing stuff away as they hate that

larissaxx

Hi Kenny,

If she can understand what your talking about then i think a rewarded sticker chart may help. Set up a sticker chart and if she behaves the whole day she gets a sticker. If by the end of the week she has her 7 stickers you can reward her with something small. You cant pick on absolutley everything because kids play up and make mistakes everyday.

The only other thing i can think of is taking away somehing she likes. This may seem mean but if she sees that when ever she plays up then her favourite things get ttaken away she may soon realise she isnt allowed to misbehave, also like i said before, somethings you need to let slide as she is only 3 and 3 isnt much better then the terrible twos.

Hope this helps

Dannii