Hi, well your daughter is definitely old enough to choose who she lives with & if there are no court order's in place then her father can do nothing to stop her from making that decision.

We are going through a similar situation with my husbands son but the difference is there are court orders & Jordy is on 6 1/2.

 But as far as I know if you involve a social worker who can determined that there has been no influence from the parents about the decision that the child has made the age when the courts will listen is 8 but don't quote me on that.

But yes your daughter is well & truly old enough to make that decision on her own.

Hope everything works out for you because your right in wanting her to finish her schooling & it's great that you support her in wanting to work & suggesting that she do both because that's what a good parent dose (please don't think I was having a go at your ex I just think that he should have suggested what you have first before he agreed for her to leave school)

Let us know how it all works out for you & your daughter & wish her the best from me in finding a job.

Good luck

I would say your daughter is old enough to a make the choice who she lives with.  I believe the age that they start taking a child's opinions in is about 12 years.

As far as I know, the age is 12, but the age of a lot of things with kids changes often. I suggest you ring the magistrate at your local court & ask him/her so you know the exact age as it is right now.  

my sis had to deal with all of this with her step kids. K still has to live with her mum as she is under 12 but after 12 they can go to court and chose (if the parents cant decide that is).

good luck

I know when i was younger the age was 16 that the child can choose which parent they want to live with but that is going through the court system. Not sure if it has all changed.

Good Luck with whatever your daughter decides

My son left at 13 years to live with his dad. My kids have all gone to live with there dad at some time during that time (4 years ago) My youngest is living with his dad now. We had no court orders though. As long as I knew that they were safe, then I wasn't going to fight that anyway as if I forced them to come back they would only make my life hard. When they wanted to come back home, that was a different story. I would have fought then, but I didn't need to. They are not a possesion and I think if she wants to come back and live with you cause work opportunities are better and she is safe and happy to do that then it should be fine. Best if dad agrees to it but she can make that decision at 15.

Not 100% sure, but I believe that 12 or 14 is the age where kids can make the choice.

Good luck...